Acacia98 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 16 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: I’m just scared I think you should just block him and not go. I don't see why you should explain anything to someone who's being controlling and emotionally abusive and whom you're scared of. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 2 minutes ago, Acacia98 said: I think you should just block him and not go. I don't see why you should explain anything to someone who's being controlling and emotionally abusive and whom you're scared of. Wouldn’t that be nice if it were that easy? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 14 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: Wouldn’t that be nice if it were that easy? Yes It is that easy!! The man physically hurt his ex. He's dangerous. Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 18 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: Wouldn’t that be nice if it were that easy? What holds you back? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 6 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Yes It is that easy!! The man physically hurt his ex. He's dangerous. She’s convinced it was her fault Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 2 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: She’s convinced it was her fault She is a victim of abuse, she lost her good judgement. It's never the victim's fault under any circumstances. This man will hurt you bad. Breakup Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: She is a victim of abuse, she lost her good judgement. It's never the victim's fault under any circumstances. This man will hurt you bad. Breakup Then he says “I’ll never hurt you” yeah right I don’t believe that 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 1 minute ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: Then he says “I’ll never hurt you” yeah right I don’t believe that So why you don't break up? Abusers don't change. Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 2 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: Then he says “I’ll never hurt you” yeah right I don’t believe that What keeps you in the relationship then? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 1 minute ago, Minneloa said: What keeps you in the relationship the relationship then? It’s a really long story. It’s not that easy for me right now Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Just now, Confusedcupcakegirl said: It’s a really long story. It’s not that easy for me right now If you shared a bit more of your story, it might help posters who are responding to your thread give more useful feedback. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 Just now, Minneloa said: If you shared a bit more of your story, it might help posters who are responding to your thread give more useful feedback. He’s the kind of person that posts people’s personal information online Link to post Share on other sites
Minneloa Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Just now, Confusedcupcakegirl said: He’s the kind of person that posts people’s personal information online So are you afraid that he’s tracking you here? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 He's long distance, break it. If he threaten you call the police and go stay at your mom or at a friend. Keep all the texts he sends and record your phone conversations. This man is an abuser, he injured his ex so he's dangerous. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 1 hour ago, Minneloa said: So are you afraid that he’s tracking you here? Yes Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 OK, this is Pooper Dude, right? The guy's a nut job, just see it for what it is and get rid of him. As far as "I'll never hurt you" goes, why would he even say that unless he has a history of abusing people? What he really means is, "I'll never hurt you as long as you do what I say". Really, if he's threatening you with something, like for instance you might have let him coerce you into something you didn't want to do and he's threatening to post it online or whatever, call his bluff, point out that what he's doing is illegal and tell him you WILL go to the police, and text him the number of a reputable psychiatrist in his area. Then stop encouraging him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 2 hours ago, MsJayne said: OK, this is Pooper Dude, right? The guy's a nut job, just see it for what it is and get rid of him. As far as "I'll never hurt you" goes, why would he even say that unless he has a history of abusing people? What he really means is, "I'll never hurt you as long as you do what I say". Really, if he's threatening you with something, like for instance you might have let him coerce you into something you didn't want to do and he's threatening to post it online or whatever, call his bluff, point out that what he's doing is illegal and tell him you WILL go to the police, and text him the number of a reputable psychiatrist in his area. Then stop encouraging him. Yes that’s him. He claims he doesn’t have any mental illnesses but that’s not true Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 9 hours ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: . He’s the kind that will think I’m lying to get out of it. He gets really mad when things like this happen. If he's a plane flight away, just text him that something came up. Then delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps. Distance is difficult enough but why deal with someone who has anger issues? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Change your passwords. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 14 hours ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: He injured his ex before and she said it was because she provoked him which is never an excuse So what's your excuse? to be dating an abusive jerk that makes you live in fear? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 8 minutes ago, smackie9 said: So what's your excuse? to be dating an abusive jerk that makes you live in fear? Why would she defend him and tell me he’s a good guy and I have nothing to worry about? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 9 minutes ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: Why would she defend him and tell me he’s a good guy and I have nothing to worry about? Because she's scared of him to say other wise. Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 His reaction would not be considered good behavior. A nice person would have been disappointed but looking forward to a rescheduled date in the future. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 (edited) 3 hours ago, Confusedcupcakegirl said: Why would she defend him and tell me he’s a good guy and I have nothing to worry about? She's brainwashed, she isn't the first woman protecting her abuser, it's a syndrome extremely hard to surmount. He would have run over her with a bulldozer and she would still think he's a good guy. She's broken, her views are distorted by the abuse. You are this man's next victim, he has already started grooming you to accept the control and abuse. Edited March 4, 2021 by Gaeta Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedcupcakegirl Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: She's brainwashed, she isn't the first woman protecting her abuser, it's a syndrome extremely hard to surmount. He would have run over her with a bulldozer and she would still think he's a good guy. She's broken, her views are distorted by the abuse. You are this man's next victim, he has already started grooming you to accept the control and abuse. He’s always saying things like “for all you know I could have been cheating this whole time of course I haven’t but you know” Link to post Share on other sites
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