Ghosted, would like some closure.

[StreetGlideHD]

I don't understand why people are so afraid of communicating like adults. Don't like me? Tell me. Don't want to talk to me? Tell me. Don't ignore me, you're mad at me, express yourself. I'm wrong? Explain it to me. We don't agree? Share your view points. It's not that hard. To those who think I am acting harshly and solely based on ego. I met someone else who I vibe with, it's casual with some physical involved, it wouldn't be fair to her if I entertained the mia culpa from the original woman, I lost interest. She ended interest and someone else came along, it's as simple as that. 

[d0nnivain]

1 hour ago, StreetGlideHD said:

Keep in mind I did the same thing and she ceased contact. You cannot fault me for losing interest. Cannot help the way I feel. 

I am not faulting you for feeling the way you feel.  I am faulting you about the way you chose to express that.  When you reject somebody, it's nice if you soften the blow.  I'm not talking about being dishonest or leading them on.  

You were absolutely free to reject her.  What I'm irked about is your word choice & seeming lack of compassion. 

You could have accomplished the same result more gently & kindly as in 

Thanks for reaching out.  Apparently we had some communications issues.  I appreciate you telling me the truth but in that same vein, I'm sorry to tell you I don't feel the same way.  I really did only want a friend / buddy, not a romance.  For any part I played in not making that abundantly clear please accept my apology.  For now, let's just leave things be.  I hope we can be civil if we see each other out & about but I don't want to lead you on or cause more pain.  Be well 

Sugarcoating done correctly just helps people to swallow a bitter pill.  When dealing with matters of the heart it's best to apply some compassion & empathy which IMO was lacking from your message.   Next time, remember the Golden Rule -- treat others the way you want to be treated.  

Edited October 27, 2020 by d0nnivain

[basil67]

5 hours ago, StreetGlideHD said:

I don't understand why people are so afraid of communicating like adults. Don't like me? Tell me. Don't want to talk to me? Tell me. Don't ignore me, you're mad at me, express yourself. I'm wrong? Explain it to me. We don't agree? Share your view points. It's not that hard. To those who think I am acting harshly and solely based on ego. I met someone else who I vibe with, it's casual with some physical involved, it wouldn't be fair to her if I entertained the mia culpa from the original woman, I lost interest. She ended interest and someone else came along, it's as simple as that. 

Because half the time we don't know how we feel.   To be fair, your own approach has hardly been straight forward here.   She talks about other guys so you feel the need to match it.  You called her a friend but had expectations of her being in contact like a girlfriend.  And now you've ditched a 'friend' because she explained how she felt.   I'm not criticising you here.  Just pointing out that you also have complex and confusing conversation. 

Humans are complex.  We get confused.  We are sometimes wrong.  Most of us don't like hurting each other/burning bridges (reference to telling someone you don't like them etc).   

[poppyfields]

OP, I don't fault you for losing interest, it's your smug attitude about it that irked me.  

Almost bragging that you left her on "read" and "feels good man."

The woman just poured her heart out to you for chrissakes, that's just cold. 

I don't even get this "losing interest" anyway, you've been screaming you're just "friends"!  

If that were true, you and your ego would not have been so butt hurt that she had not replied to your message, and there would be no "interest" to lose. 

Friends don't react that way, sorry man, they just don't.  

 

 

Edited October 27, 2020 by poppyfields