She (20F) replied to my insta story after ignoring me for a month and telling me (20m) to leave her alone.

[html5lffy]

Hey y’all, 

She broke up with me. 
Broke up 2 months ago. Both of us cried several times. Basically she told me to leave her alone after I kept calling texting etc. even left her a love note and flowers which she ignored. She blocked me at one point, then decided to unblock after I apologized via email. Then I texted her again, checking in.. told me to leave her alone... this was about one month ago. I haven’t tried contacting her in 3 weeks. 

I posted something anti-trump on my insta story (I used to love him, and she hated that.) basically saying how everyone needs to reevaluate him. And I also said how I don’t like Biden, don’t know how to vote this election. 

She sent 3 paragraphs telling me how I’m wrong about Biden, etc. 

she broke up with me because we were incompatible, I took her for granted etc  

Haven’t responded yet, and really wanna say “I thought you wanted me to leave you alone... you ignored me several times, and now you want to tell me I’m wrong for my own point of view? Leave me be, I don’t want to talk to you”

Why. Did. She. Reply. To. My. Story. ?????

Just as soon as I hit acceptance, I’m back to anxious thoughts. 

Do I even reply at all? Or should I be civil? I hate this.
I want to send her this so bad:

“Ok I get your point, and I agree that trump just needs to get out of office... he’s done no one any favors and is a threat to democracy... that being said... why are you trying to change my mind? We’re not together anymore. You don’t have any say on what I believe, or who I vote for. People can have other views than you, and you need to accept that. You cannot go through life thinking that it’s acceptable to force other people into your thinking...it’s disrespectful & it shows you don’t value other peoples opinions. You’re literally trying to convince your ex boyfriend to change his mind on something... like, of all people... why me? I’m one of millions of peoples mind you can change. Also, I find it incredibly insensitive for you to think you can ignore me several times, cut me out of your life, disrespectfully tell me how you feel bad for being with me so long, and tell me off several times when I had been noting but kind to you and genuinely hurting...just to reply to my story and act as if none of that happened? Look, you’ve put me into damn near a mental breakdown, if not fully. I still have sleepless nights, I weigh 148lbs, and anxiety is at an all time high. Do you realize that I had started to believe I wasn’t enough for anyone? That you made me feel like I was not worthy of anyone’s love, and that I don’t matter...you knew I struggled with that because of my friends and you reinforced that. I really don’t appreciate this... you’ve hurt me more than I thought anyone ever could... i know I messed up a lot, I really get that. And I’ve apologized a million times, and I tried to make it up to you, and you even denied me trying to do that. I felt as though the year we spent together meant absolutely nothing to you. I’m still broken, 2 months later. I’ve never felt so insignificant in my entire life. In the end, I had my problems... but I was being myself around you, and you never accepted me. I need to be left alone. There’s a reason I have not contacted you lately. I’m trying to move on. Sorry if I’m being harsh, but I guess it’s your turn. And I forgive you for all of this. Just please understand, I really can’t handle being in contact with you right now. I’m struggling to move on. Take care. “

Any advice is appreciated.

Edited October 25, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[ExpatInItaly]

Save your thumbs from typing all that, and don't reply. Better yet, block her and keep it that way. It's clear that any sort of contact will trigger you and send you into an emotional hurricane. 

Her message to you was soap-boxing. It was not an invitation to re-start the dialogue that led to her telling you to leave her alone in the first place.

You need to find a better outlet for your pain that your ex, so don't send her that emotional wall of text. Write it in a journal.  Leave it posted here. But don't bother sending it to her. It will not have the outcome you're hoping for. 

[Wiseman2]

You need to stop harassing and stalking her. Delete and block her from all your social media and messaging apps.

If you want to rant on about politics, find other sparring partners and leave her alone.

Your politics and rants are not worth getting a restraining order against you. 

[basil67]

It's social media.  When you put a controversial opinion out there, expect to receive controversial feedback.   If there's someone who's opinion you don't want to hear, then block/unfriend them.  You would have had control of all if this if you'd chosen to exercise it.  

Lessons from this mess:

• If you're feeling fragile, don't post opinions which you don't feel like debating
• If you don't want feedback back from an ex, remove them from your list.

Don't send the message.  It's not her fault that you put something controversial on social media and then weren't in a headspace to cope with feedback.  It's not her fault that you didn't unfriend her.  Own this and grow from it.

 

Edited October 25, 2020 by basil67

[Commongoal123]

Hey man,

Ignore her message.  It will drive her nuts.  She used your Instagram story as an excuse to contact you.  And basically start s*** and drama.  Too much drama man.  She wants attention from you even if it is negative.

Any attention is better than none.

Ignore her.  It's the best thing you can do.

Edited November 2, 2020 by Commongoal123