I think he got someone else

[Tickpop]

I have been dating this guy for 6 years now. Everything is okay until this lockdown started which made having to work from home and then his dog died.

I couldn't see him during those mourning weeks. Then finally we were able to video call each other. But after a week or two, he stopped letting me see him. It's been 2 months that he doesn't video cam me. He kept saying his work was busy.

But the other day, I downloaded whatsapp and saw him there! He doesn't have WhatsApp before and I just checked on it a few months back and he wasn't there.

I asked him about it but he told me it is no longer active. He had it long time ago. I told him no, I downloaded it few months ago and you weren't there.

Then I got upset and ignored him and sent him messages later on, telling him the changes in him. I believe him when he said it was his work but how can he be too busy to see me, but not busy to chat with someone on whatsapp?

I decided to stalk him on whatsapp and I see him being online in there for few minutes, after replying to my messages.  Sometimes he was online there but didn't reply on my messages. He seems to have lots of excuses to let me see him.

 

I don't know what to do..it's too painful for me right now.

 

 

[Mystery4u]

Im confused, why could you not see him during these 'mourning' weeks?

Also it's been 6 years... what was your plan about the future, living together, marriage, kids etc?

Lastly it's all about communication. Talk to your boyfriend about what is bothering you. If he does not want to continue the relationship then he should tell you so you can break up properly and move on.

[Wiseman2]

27 minutes ago, Tickpop said:

A little background: I am 60 yrs old man and happily married for 40 years to a beautiful and a good wife.

I started going online and chatting with people on chatrooms. Eventually I ended up going on cam sites and paid girls to talk. 

I met this girl online and like usual I just played around. I pretended to be a single man looking for a lover. She became one of my lovers. Years passed and we still together. I did future fake with her despite knowing it will never happen. I gave her allowance.

It's unclear if this is still going on with you or someone else is using our account to claim they are in a 6 year relationship and have a beef with whatsapp?

Edited October 25, 2020 by Wiseman2

[Tickpop]

14 minutes ago, Mystery4u said:

Im confused, why could you not see him during these 'mourning' weeks?

Also it's been 6 years... what was your plan about the future, living together, marriage, kids etc?

Lastly it's all about communication. Talk to your boyfriend about what is bothering you. If he does not want to continue the relationship then he should tell you so you can break up properly and move on.

We were in lockdown so we are not allowed to meet each other. So basically we just videocall each other but when his dog started to get sick, he got depressed and not in mood to cam. He just send me messages and pictures of the dog. The dog died. 

He says he is not in the mood to be on cam or anything. But we still talk, he still send me messages.  After a week or two, I  thought I  can finally see him even just on cam.  Actually got to see him but after a week he made up many excuses not to let me see him.. 

 

Now I often see him online in WhatsApp 

 

I asked him about it but at first he denied the account was active,  but when I told him I saw him online he says he do use it but not for girls as what I'm accusing him with.

I argue with him and told him if we should break up, he said no and he just wish I would trust him and not accusing me. But it's hard to do so whe  I see him online in whatsapp a lot.

Edited October 25, 2020 by Tickpop

[Tickpop]

5 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

It's unclear if this is still going on with you or someone else is using our account to claim they are in a 6 year relationship and have a beef with whatsapp?

Sorry that's not me. But yes I am using someone else's account.

 

Oh god why do I have to see that..

Edited October 25, 2020 by Tickpop

[Wiseman2]

2 minutes ago, Tickpop said:

 I am using someone else's account.

Why are you using this guy's account?

[stillafool]

31 minutes ago, Tickpop said:

Oh god why do I have to see that..

What difference does it make if it's not you?  Anyway it seems this guy took the lockdown and his dog's death as an excuse to get rid of you.  You should stop trying to contact him or ask questions and just move on.