Ellie56 Posted October 26, 2020 Share Posted October 26, 2020 We knew each other for years and he got married and i was in a long term relationship too, when both of those ended we got together and he moved in with me and things were good for a couple of years and he cheated with a younger woman from his work ( he worked nights in a hotel ) so i didnt suspect at first, anyway that ended things for us and i didnt see or hear from him for 6 months until i bumped into him where i live and he'd ended things with her i took him back and we tried again but i couldnt get the cheating out of my head and any little thing triggered it and we were arguing a lot.. He tried to make things ok but started accusing me of things like flirting and taking stuff out of his pocket and ripping his jumper , just rediculous stuff that wasnt true .. I now think he has narcissitic traits ..He walked away again last september but we remained friends and still slept together as the feelings were still there but we couldnt be in a relationship, he went back to live at his mums as she has dementia and hes looking after her , we had a row 3 weeks ago and he accused me of having no compassion to what hes going through and its over for good with us even as friends , he was being really rude and then 4 days later blocked me, he sent and email a week later saying 'He cut communication as its for the best and maybe in a few months see where we are and maybe have a friendship'.. He did call me after that as he has an item of mine and he said he'll drop it off but never showed or messaged so i wattsapped him on another sim and he blocked that as well...I really dont know why hes acting so nasty and to go as far as to block me , its just petty to me? Thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 26, 2020 Share Posted October 26, 2020 4 minutes ago, Ellie56 said: 4 days later blocked me Feel blessed that a cheating liar blocked you. Half the work is done. Now all you have to do is delete and block him and all his people from all your social media and messaging apps. Then you can put this disaster behind you and move forward. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 26, 2020 Share Posted October 26, 2020 He's figured out after all this time that you two are better off fully apart. the shared history makes it too tempting & too easy to fall back into bed with you. So he has severed all communication in a effort to keep himself sane & make this break up permanent. Be grateful he has more sense then you do about it right now. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 26, 2020 Share Posted October 26, 2020 (edited) Maybe he's seeing someone else again, and she doesn't want him in contact with you. But Ellie? You desperately need to let go of this man in every possible way. You should have blocked him ages ago, and not fooled yourself into thinking you could be friends. Him blocking you is a favour - he's toxic and you don't yet have the backbone to kick him to the curb. But that's exactly where he should be. Don't keep jerks like this in your life. Edited October 26, 2020 by ExpatInItaly 5 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted October 26, 2020 Share Posted October 26, 2020 (edited) Taking back a cheater is bad policy. The vessel that was your relationship has been shattered. You can't gaslight yourself into believing it's once again the pristine, whole vessel it was before he smashed it into a gazillion pieces with his cheating. You insult your own intelligence doing that. Take this as the sign that it's really beyond time for you to get on with your life and leave him in the past. He really did you a favor. This has been dead for a while and sex in a corpse of a relationship is its own messed up stuff. Edited October 26, 2020 by kendahke 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted October 26, 2020 Share Posted October 26, 2020 He uses you to boost his ego I believe, knowing he has control over you. But why are you bothered? He did a favour by leaving you alone. You should make it permanent by changing your number and everything he can reach to you. Sometimes history doesnt matters you know couples go through a lot together but split later on. Sometimes people change or sometimes we have a differnt vision of our partner than they actually are in real, which I believe was in your case. Sometimes its just circumstances. He is trying to figure out a life without you and in the past have cheated on you, both of these facts are disrespectful and are not expected from a man who has his mind and emotions under control. You will be better off without this dude in your future don't let him sniff around you not even as a friend. It's not worth. Take control from here on take care of yourself, people like him gives and spreads unnecessary negativity 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellie56 Posted October 29, 2020 Author Share Posted October 29, 2020 He emailed me today asking if i still had his weights which he left here when he left me 2 months ago.. The weird thing was he headed the email with 'outstanding issues' and he said he messged me this message on the bogus number i wattsapped him last week.. I find all this odd and why he would do this now.. I dont trust him and his motives ..? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 30, 2020 Share Posted October 30, 2020 8 hours ago, Ellie56 said: He emailed me today asking if i still had his weights which he left here when he left me 2 months ago.. The weird thing was he headed the email with 'outstanding issues' and he said he messged me this message on the bogus number i wattsapped him last week.. I find all this odd and why he would do this now.. I dont trust him and his motives ..? Did you read any of the advice above? 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 30, 2020 Share Posted October 30, 2020 11 hours ago, Ellie56 said: .. I dont trust him and his motives Simply tie up loose ends. Arrange a time for him to collect his belongings and be done with it. Then delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 30, 2020 Share Posted October 30, 2020 Why did he block you? Because he realises that it was a mistake to get back together after he cheated. Link to post Share on other sites
Mystery4u Posted October 30, 2020 Share Posted October 30, 2020 Real question is why did you not block him a long time ago. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ellie56 Posted October 30, 2020 Author Share Posted October 30, 2020 Hes blocked .. Hes emailing .. So i will block that once hes got his things and be done completely.. Link to post Share on other sites
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