rejected by girl

[schlumpy]

10 minutes ago, hokage240sx said:

@schlumpy that makes sense, ill try that. do you think It is possible to do that even after the initial rejection. 

Since she agreed to another date then I think you still have an opportunity.

[hokage240sx]

@schlumpy ok that makes sense! thank you!

[Mystery4u]

@hokage240sxThere's a reason the plus button exists under posts. To multi quote people in one post. No need to quote everyone separately and make a new post for every reply.

[hokage240sx]

1 minute ago, Mystery4u said:

@hokage240sxThere's a reason the plus button exists under posts. To multi quote people in one post. No need to quote everyone separately and make a new post for every reply.

ah, didn't know, newbie mistake. 

[Wiseman2]

57 minutes ago, hokage240sx said:

that could definitely be it. we haven't done that due to her being a virgin lol

OK, that's why she is backing away.

[d0nnivain]

This poor girl has MAJOR self esteem problems.  This won't be the last time that she tests you or gets down on herself.  You cannot rebuild her lost self confidence.  If you insist on trying to date her fasten your seatbelt because this roller coaster will go on for a while. 

[Miss Spider]

You made the quite possibly fatal mistake of being really pushy early on, 0P. esp she is insecure and a virgin ( hi, me from five years ago) It’s hard to recover from that because early impressions really count. You showed your crazy/lost your cool and came off a bit desperate. I would say your best chance of rectifying this is to back WAY off. Give her her space and some. If she sends you two messages,  you send her one . act like it isn’t a thing. Because it’s not. 
 

Edited October 27, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[hokage240sx]

6 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

OK, that's why she is backing away.

yup hahah

5 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

This poor girl has MAJOR self esteem problems.  This won't be the last time that she tests you or gets down on herself.  You cannot rebuild her lost self confidence.  If you insist on trying to date her fasten your seatbelt because this roller coaster will go on for a while. 

the thing is that she played It cool all this time I never thought she had problems. my problem is I feel like I've already invested time so I want to see it through. ill probably cut it off when I just see its totally pointless. I like hanging out, having fun, but the lack of sex kinda sucks also. 

4 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

You made the quite possibly fatal mistake of being really pushy early on, 0P. esp she is insecure and a virgin ( hi, me from five years ago) It’s hard to recover from that because early impressions really count. You showed your crazy/lost your cool and came off a bit desperate. I would say your best chance of rectifying this is to back WAY off. Give her her space and some. If she sends you two messages,  you send her one . act like it isn’t a thing. Because it’s not. 
 

yea I know I messed up. yea im gonna back way off this next date. whatever happens happens.yea I know it isn't a thing, atleast now I do lol.

[smackie9]

17 hours ago, hokage240sx said:

@mortensorchid but we make out lol

It's called being a cuddle buddy. You get to make out and do couply things, but most of this happens in private. If you express feelings they pull back and treat you like a friend, nothing more. It's the kiss of death...you won't get to home base. Date other girls.

[hokage240sx]

55 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

It's called being a cuddle buddy. You get to make out and do couply things, but most of this happens in private. If you express feelings they pull back and treat you like a friend, nothing more. It's the kiss of death...you won't get to home base. Date other girls.

This is a good description of what is happening haha 😭😭

[spiderowl]

It sounds like she likes you but panicked when you tried to corner her. She is just getting to know you and trust can take time.

She’s agreed to another date so this is good. Back off, treat her well and get to know her as a person. Match her communication pace. As trust grows, any romantic relationship will too. You can never bank in a relationship becoming sexual but let her know that you find her attractive so she feels confident about that.

If you like her for more than sex, then I think you have a good chance of building a relationship if you don’t pressure her. Just make life fun for both of you and see what happens naturally. 

[ChatroomHero]

To sum it up, she is playing games. In her mind she doesn't think so but she is leading you on, then pushing you away. She'll keep doing this until one day she finds another guy and pushes you away hard and fast.

You can try to rationalize it and find excuses for her but in the end it is what it is. If a girl tells you to move on and forget her, she is telling you to move on and forget her. Where you get confused is because she doesn't totally cut you off, you feel maybe she really doesn't mean it. The problem is, she does mean it but isn't mature enough to just cut it off and flat out end it.

It's like if on Monday she said, "I love you" and Tuesday says, "I don't love you and I don't want to keep seeing you", it's natural to think, well she said she loved me Monday! When it's usually more practical to think, if she did love me she would not have said she didn't on Tuesday.

I think you are best to move on, she will keep giving you indications of being interested you'll focus on and ignore the indications she is not interested. At the end of the day, if someone is interested they will never tell you to move on and potentially find someone else. Despite anything else, the one surefire way to gauge interest is if a girl tells you to let her go or wishes you find someone 'better' than her.