JohnKyle Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 Hello, Good day to all! I recent met up with a girl which is my dream girl. Now I would like to impress her to me. But I don't know what is the process to meet up with a new one. Kindly share your thought how do you do that? Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 Be genuine and get to know her. There is no one thing that impresses all women. I have a pretty good idea what "impresses" the women I am interested in. However, I never try to impress, I try to connect. You'd be surprised how well that works.  4 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 Trying to impress her will backfire. You will be too busy trying to be somebody you are not. She will see right through that & you will come across as not authentic. Instead, be an active listener. Be gallant. Be gracious. Just be a good person Best wishes. I hope it works out Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 Be a gentleman and get her to laugh and she'll melt. If she's under 27, you can skip some of the gentleman stuff. And always remember, never cook bacon when you are nakey! 😄 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 One issue is that (just like men) all women are different and what works with one won't necessarily work with others. Also what works generally may not work with a specific woman you have your eye on. The easiest thing to do IMO will be to be attractive to her. If she's attracted to you, then it's basically a matter of being friendly and paying attention to her. That doesn't always work, but it is a good general strategy. Being attractive (some of the below is easier said than done): - Handsome face (as much as possible) - Nice haircut - Decent clothes - Some stubble - e.g. consider shaving in the evenings instead of in the morning - Athletic frame (either swimmer's body or some muscle) - Good social skills (VERY important - not forced or "too polite" but naturally easy to talk to and adaptive to social situations) - Confidence - Showing energy in your walk and mannerisms - Intelligence - Having a place in society OR career prospects Think about what you want - you want an awesome woman. Well, turn the camera around and - what does she (typically) want? An awesome man. So, be an awesome man (as much as you can) and things should go well for you. If not with this one, then with others. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 5 hours ago, Fletch Lives said:  If she's under 27, you can skip some of the gentleman stuff. Why would you say this? Doesn't everyone regardless of their age deserve to receive good manners from the new romantic interest in their life?  The idea that you wouldn't want to treat a new SO as someone special breaks my heart.  I'm sure somebody's young GF doesn't need a man throw his cloak over a puddle but opening a door or helping someone on with her coat is a sweet gesture not some political statement about subjugating women to the male hierarchy.  1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 9 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Why would you say this? Doesn't everyone regardless of their age deserve to receive good manners from the new romantic interest in their life?  The idea that you wouldn't want to treat a new SO as someone special breaks my heart.  I'm sure somebody's young GF doesn't need a man throw his cloak over a puddle but opening a door or helping someone on with her coat is a sweet gesture not some political statement about subjugating women to the male hierarchy.  Agree, and on the latter this women getting offended by men helping in this way....have seen it a lot on MGTOW type sites and as a prelude to attacking feminism, but in reality have never seen it or heard it from women.  Although I'm certain we can find some woman (or purported woman) on the internet who rails against it. Granted it is an old tactic to paint someone in a false light and then attack them based on this painting, especially when your attack won't stick if pesky facts are considered, which is different than interpreting someone's actual actions in the light of their naturally intended consequences despite their protestations to the contrary. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 girls like a nice car and a thick wallet 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted October 28, 2020 Share Posted October 28, 2020 1 hour ago, alphamale said: girls like a nice car and a thick wallet Not all, but most. Some will be more impressed by it than others. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 11 hours ago, d0nnivain said: Why would you say this? Doesn't everyone regardless of their age deserve to receive good manners from the new romantic interest in their life?  The idea that you wouldn't want to treat a new SO as someone special breaks my heart.  I'm sure somebody's young GF doesn't need a man throw his cloak over a puddle but opening a door or helping someone on with her coat is a sweet gesture not some political statement about subjugating women to the male hierarchy.  Some young women don't mind if the guy cusses like a sailor. Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 10 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: Some young women don't mind if the guy cusses like a sailor. Some young women cuss like a sailor.....I happen to be much more foul-mouthed than my husband. So, know your audience! Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 You don't want to try to impress her. And really there is no such thing. What can happen is that you being a good version of yourself have a life that interests her and when you guys meet up there is great energy between you. And you don't know if she's the woman of your dreams. That's a fantasy. There are many wonderful women (and men) out there. What do you and this woman have in common? Have you talked to her for any length of time?   1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 On 10/27/2020 at 8:19 PM, JohnKyle said: Hello, Good day to all! I recent met up with a girl which is my dream girl. Now I would like to impress her to me. But I don't know what is the process to meet up with a new one. Kindly share your thought how do you do that? You start by smiling, making a bit of small talk, then asking her out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 5 hours ago, Lotsgoingon said: There are many wonderful women (and men) out there... No, they are actually in short supply... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 10 hours ago, Lotsgoingon said: .. There are many wonderful women (and men) out there. What do you and this woman have in common? Have you talked to her for any length of time?  5 hours ago, alphamale said: No, they are actually in short supply...  Agree in part, I found there to be many wonderful women out there on OLD, if go by the stories heard in OLD not so many wonderful men.  1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 11 minutes ago, SumGuy said: Agree in part, I found there to be many wonderful women out there on OLD, if go by the stories heard in OLD not so many wonderful men. I'd only just starting dating when the pandemic hit, but the men I met or talked to were nice guys, one guy wanted to come over when I was not sure of where the pandemic was going @ April and he was annoyed when I said no, but half the people in our country at the time didn't believe Covid was real so I put it down to that! Another man said he wanted to get know me but then he started seeing ( having sex with ) someone else as well, he was honest about it but I didn't want to get closer to him then- that doesn't impress a woman much @JohnKyle 😄 One thing I have found, and I find the same with friendships living here too- this is a massive city and no one wants to spend 2 hours in traffic to drive from one end to the other, including me. It greatly impresses me when a man makes the effort, and for a first date I usually insist it's somewhere I know on my side of town then I can relax and feel secure! But it would be better dating someone geographically closer maybe- I can fly to Dallas faster than driving across Houston...anyway I didn't see that as being an issue but it is. Oh and re the politeness thing- yes, I'm from England and middle-aged so good manners are a pre-requisite. I'm not anti-swearing if it's amusing some way but swearing a lot I'll assume a man has no self-control or an anger issue ( ditto a woman @major_merrick 😃 ) In the current climate especially- avoid contentious or depressing topics of discussion...make it fun. Good luck @JohnKyle  1 Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 1 hour ago, Ellener said: I'm not anti-swearing if it's amusing some way but swearing a lot I'll assume a man has no self-control or an anger issue ( ditto a woman @major_merrick 😃 ) And yet, some find a fierce, wild creature impressive/attractive.... Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 15 minutes ago, major_merrick said: And yet, some find a fierce, wild creature impressive/attractive.... Maybe...😄 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 29, 2020 Share Posted October 29, 2020 Perhaps a drive-by but in general, it's usually unknown how any particular human will be impressed or attracted so my advice usually is being oneself and, as my wife used to say, put one's best foot forward. Instead of having another beer, OK, I'll shave and wash the old car before picking her up, heh. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted October 30, 2020 Share Posted October 30, 2020 Let me put it this way: there are at least as many wonderful women out there as there are wonderful men. And what I meant by "wonderful" in response to the OP is that there are many people out there who match us in intelligence, integrity, looks, social graces and on and on.   1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnKyle Posted October 30, 2020 Author Share Posted October 30, 2020 On 10/28/2020 at 6:29 AM, SumGuy said: Be genuine and get to know her. There is no one thing that impresses all women. I have a pretty good idea what "impresses" the women I am interested in. However, I never try to impress, I try to connect. You'd be surprised how well that works.  That's a very good idea to connect. I will try. Let see ........... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnKyle Posted October 30, 2020 Author Share Posted October 30, 2020 7 hours ago, carhill said: Perhaps a drive-by but in general, it's usually unknown how any particular human will be impressed or attracted so my advice usually is being oneself and, as my wife used to say, put one's best foot forward. Instead of having another beer, OK, I'll shave and wash the old car before picking her up, heh. Idea isn't bad at all. I appreciate it. But the problem is I don't have the car yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JohnKyle Posted October 30, 2020 Author Share Posted October 30, 2020 1 minute ago, Lotsgoingon said: Let me put it this way: there are at least as many wonderful women out there as there are wonderful men. And what I meant by "wonderful" in response to the OP is that there are many people out there who match us in intelligence, integrity, looks, social graces and on and on.   So your suggestion is to drive me other way. And not to follow the girl I like? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 30, 2020 Share Posted October 30, 2020 Don't try to impress anybody and be your own person and things will work out better. Not just with women but life in general. People know authenticity when they see it and they respond to it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted October 30, 2020 Share Posted October 30, 2020 If you have to impress her, then she's not your ideal girl. You want someone who would be impressed without you consciously trying. Link to post Share on other sites
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