stillafool Posted November 11, 2020 Share Posted November 11, 2020 5 hours ago, Negotaurus said: No of course that wasn’t her fault. My ex was like a desperate dog. I am nasty towards her because I absolutely NEVER thought a person like that would enter my life. A drugged up skank who gets off on cheating. I do not respect people like that. And no, I just don’t have it in me to be decent about it. She didn't enter your life, your ex did and then inserted her into his life. She doesn't even want him. You call her names but you are coming off as jealous. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Negotaurus Posted November 11, 2020 Author Share Posted November 11, 2020 1 hour ago, stillafool said: She didn't enter your life, your ex did and then inserted her into his life. She doesn't even want him. You call her names but you are coming off as jealous. I don’t care HOW she came into my life, fact is she entered. I really am not jealous, I don’t think I need to prove myself, if I were I would admit it since I don’t have much to lose being anonymous on a forum. I don’t think about him nor her, I’m actually casually chatting to new people and loving it. I can come here 10 years down the line and I bet I will still feel the same way about that lady, if it makes me bitter or jealous to you, okay. I just don’t have any respect for people like her. When I found out, what made me angriest was that he cheated on me with someone like HER. If people want to cheat on me, fine, but damn it, do it properly. Not over Instagram + do it with somebody who is actually better than me! I have a lot of pride and for good reason. That he was never going to take from me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Negotaurus Posted November 11, 2020 Author Share Posted November 11, 2020 6 hours ago, pinkpaw said: Noone owes any abuser 'the high ground'. This is a form of gaslightkng- pretend not to have any reactions or emotions to abuse. For who? You get no reward from anyone for bottling up and stifling your reactions to bad behaviour. Bad behaviour warrants bad reaction. Good behaviour warrants good reaction. Simple. And what someone said above about giving them the upper hand by showing you are upset - normal people dont dictate their moves according to game playing. Personality disordered people do, however. Healthy people allow themselves to have the appropriate reaction/emotion to a given scenario. It would be different if the OP has questioned whether her reaction would have a desired effect on the abuser- she didnt ask that. Geez, why are victims of bad behaviour hardly ever just validated? It's no wonder crazy making people are rampant these days, when lots of advice given to victims are essentially to give a pass to the rotten eggs. I appreciate this.. None of it was about HIM. I don’t care what he thinks about me. Hell, he most likely ran to his mummy and told her what a bad person I am :’). Link to post Share on other sites
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