Harry Korsnes Posted November 3, 2020 Share Posted November 3, 2020 11 minutes ago, RamblingMan said: It has only really dawned on me the past few days. Just hope you find the strenth to do something about it and get some cousoling. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SummerDreams Posted November 3, 2020 Share Posted November 3, 2020 So it seems that this woman just used you as her personal therapist for the times she was not feeling well, she went ahead and married you even though she knew you were really different and you couldn't give her the sexual and intellectual life she wanted (I don't get why she married you though, was she feeling she owed it to you for all the free therapy? who knows) and now she sees you as this anckor that is keeping her behind from the things she wants to do. The first thing you should do is find a therapist for yourself and discuss everything with them. There are some serious issues with you and you need to solve them before you do anything else. The therapist will guide you to the steps you need to take. The road is long and difficult ahead of you but it's worth it. Forget about the wife and what she needs for now, the reall issue is you and your psychological issues. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
notbroken Posted November 3, 2020 Share Posted November 3, 2020 Some things just aren't worth the cost - no matter how high. Living with an unfaithful spouse is one of them. It will do things to your self esteem and self view you don't want. Give her an ultimatum and then follow through with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Harry Korsnes Posted November 3, 2020 Share Posted November 3, 2020 25 minutes ago, notbroken said: Some things just aren't worth the cost - no matter how high. Living with an unfaithful spouse is one of them. It will do things to your self esteem and self view you don't want. Give her an ultimatum and then follow through with it. Totaly agreed but I wouldent give her an ultimatum i would just up and leave. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 3, 2020 Share Posted November 3, 2020 He needs to talk to a lawyer and get his ducks in a row before he says anything IMO. His financial situation is precarious, he needs to be clear about his rights before he shows his hand. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RamblingMan Posted November 3, 2020 Author Share Posted November 3, 2020 1 hour ago, SummerDreams said: So it seems that this woman just used you as her personal therapist for the times she was not feeling well, she went ahead and married you even though she knew you were really different and you couldn't give her the sexual and intellectual life she wanted (I don't get why she married you though, was she feeling she owed it to you for all the free therapy? who knows) and now she sees you as this anckor that is keeping her behind from the things she wants to do. The first thing you should do is find a therapist for yourself and discuss everything with them. There are some serious issues with you and you need to solve them before you do anything else. The therapist will guide you to the steps you need to take. The road is long and difficult ahead of you but it's worth it. Forget about the wife and what she needs for now, the reall issue is you and your psychological issues. That really makes sense. I discussed this with a friend years ago regarding my nervousness and sex drive and he suggested therapy. He blamed my mother funny enough! Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
SummerDreams Posted November 3, 2020 Share Posted November 3, 2020 28 minutes ago, RamblingMan said: That really makes sense. I discussed this with a friend years ago regarding my nervousness and sex drive and he suggested therapy. He blamed my mother funny enough! Thank you You are welcome. To be honest though therapy does not mean blaming people or situations rather than trying to understand them, realize them, come to terms with the issues and try to make some changes. I really hope you find the strength you need to take this help and make yourself a happy and self loving person. Good luck (You are my mom's age so it's kind of akward giving You advise) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Harry Korsnes Posted November 3, 2020 Share Posted November 3, 2020 24 minutes ago, RamblingMan said: That really makes sense. I discussed this with a friend years ago regarding my nervousness and sex drive and he suggested therapy. He blamed my mother funny enough! Thank you Honesty i think think its the chemestry between you two, that happens but thats no exuce for the way she treets you. Look man we're the same age and that happens to most. Not that im being criticule to your mother but i think you should find someone your chemestry watches. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Harry Korsnes Posted November 3, 2020 Share Posted November 3, 2020 17 minutes ago, SummerDreams said: You are welcome. To be honest though therapy does not mean blaming people or situations rather than trying to understand them, realize them, come to terms with the issues and try to make some changes. I really hope you find the strength you need to take this help and make yourself a happy and self loving person. Good luck (You are my mom's age so it's kind of akward giving You advise) 👍👍 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RamblingMan Posted November 3, 2020 Author Share Posted November 3, 2020 22 minutes ago, SummerDreams said: You are welcome. To be honest though therapy does not mean blaming people or situations rather than trying to understand them, realize them, come to terms with the issues and try to make some changes. I really hope you find the strength you need to take this help and make yourself a happy and self loving person. Good luck (You are my mom's age so it's kind of akward giving You advise) Not thinking of blame but she was very controlling over my life. I maybe older but you might have more experience Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts