He (34M) claims I'm (25F) his girlfriend but hasn't directly asked me

[willnotdoit]

So I’ve been dating this guy for about 6/7 months. We’re 9 years apart and I don’t notice the age difference. We get along like a house on fire, I know his friends, his family know about me but we haven’t been able to meet due to Covid. A few months into dating, he asked to make sure that we’re not seeing other people. A few months ago I was anxious about what we were - he hadn’t asked me to be his girlfriend and I thought this is something that he would’ve wanted to do. He’s traditional, wanting something serious such as marriage/family. We had a few talks about the direction of our relationship, he said there were a few things he was a bit concerned about, a few things we maybe didn’t have in common (he’s very risk-averse and overthinks everything). He’s studying medicine so after that conversation he said he would decide at the end of his exams, his exams have finished now. So the other night on the phone, I told him that I wasn’t quite sure whether continuing to have sex with him was a wise idea as we aren’t boyfriend/girlfriend. He was confused that I said it was casual. I said ‘well, we aren’t in a relationship’ and he said ‘you are my girlfriend’ I’m certain he went onto say ’I thought we’ve known this since we started dating’ so I then asked him ‘well if I was to meet a new friend of yours that I haven’t met, would you introduce me as your girlfriend? And he said yes. Unfortunately, he has to repeat his exams so I may not be able to see him for a while, I do need to clarify that he actually meant this. Thoughts?

**TL;DR** I thought this guy and I wasn’t official. We have been dating for over 6 months. Then claimed I am his girlfriend.

[basil67]

If you don't want to be his girlfriend, break up with him.   If you do want to be his girlfriend....then it's all good.

[Blind-Sided]

I think you are overblowing this.  I'm 49 and I don't think I've ever "Officially" asked a girl to be my GF.  Well... except when I was in 5th grade.   But... if you don't like that... just ask him if you are his GF and if you are exclusive.  All your worry can be put to rest by simply asking him, opposed to us.

Good luck. 

[elaine567]

6 hours ago, belladun said:

We had a few talks about the direction of our relationship, he said there were a few things he was a bit concerned about, a few things we maybe didn’t have in common (he’s very risk-averse and overthinks everything). He’s studying medicine so after that conversation he said he would decide at the end of his exams, his exams have finished now.

I think you are his girl friend but it seems like he is unsure as to whether you are long term material, whether you are "good enough".
He brought the subject up but then left you hanging and is still doing so, which is not right or fair.
A guy that can do this, is not a good guy IMO.
 

[Alvi]

8 hours ago, belladun said:

I then asked him ‘well if I was to meet a new friend of yours that I haven’t met, would you introduce me as your girlfriend? And he said yes.

OP, what is your question here? You asked him whether or not he thinks you are his girlfriend. He said YES, you are his girlfriend. So, what more would you like to happen here? You have asked him and he said yes. Be happy!!!

Do you want him to put it in writing that he thinks that you are his girlfriend? Do you want him to post your pictures together on a Facebook, him saying that you are his girlfriend? How more official do you need it to be?

[Wiseman2]

He realized a simple label would keep the sex flowing since you threatened to cut it off without this label.

What that means is he's still not in with both feet, but now knows what you want to hear in order to get sex.

[ShyViolet]

I don't think it's weird that a guy you have been dating for 6/7 months would consider you his girlfriend.  Just because he never explicitly asked you "will you be my girlfriend?", that doesn't mean that you aren't.  If you don't want to officially be his girlfriend then why are you dating him?