She replaced me with other man, but she wants a family with me in future

[Peter266]

: She left me 3 weeks ago, moved away, now she lives with someone else. She said we had no future and she just didn't want to be with me. The next day she said, that it will be only for a while and then I could marry her. Explain me this behavior to me, because it's too much. **.

- she wants to be with someone else until she finishes school, she said, that he know better motivate her to learn and our housing was small and it was impossible to learn here
- She said that I can have our photos on facebook and instagram where we are together, they are nice and he doesn't mind.
- she comes to me about once a week, we slept together once and had fun with sex games,
- one week ago she wanted to move back only as a friend, I said no because she is with another man, she begged strongly, I let her come, she came in the morning but she moved away the rest of things, and said that she changed her mind that the apartment is small and she can't learn here ,
- we was on a trip in mountains this weekend, we hold hands, we are together all day, we talk about our sex, but she doesn't want to kiss and she calls me by name, when we were together in relationship she always called me "love".
- During this weekend she said that in half a year, when she finishes school, she wants a family with me, children and home ... Until now, she did not want children with me because I have bad genes, Now I am beautiful and children will be too. hmmm....
- she turned her mind a few times, once she wanted to come back, once not, once that she would never return and we have no future, once depressed, once she loves me and she will return within a few days and never leave again, then no more.
- Once this and then somethong alse, and over and over again
- I have to find a bigger flat and then she will come back, she talked all day about how we will have a family, I just have to hold on until she finishes school

What is it about?
Is possible that she will come back and it will be true or it is only a game?

Yesterday she said that she will come back if I found bigger flat with view of high Tatras mountains. I found that flat today. I have sended her photos of that flat, is amazing. But she wrote: pay off your debts, there are more important problems right now....

I have some loans, 4000€ . And I took that money when we were moving to flat and we needed stuff. And I bought some gifts for her..

My heart is broken cause she is with him. And wanted her back in our flat. But she don't want even though I found the flat .

I know you are right, but I don't know how let her go from my heart.

[Blind-Sided]

Only read the first sentence. All I needed to read.

Block her number, and don't look back.  She is a... well... a word I shouldn't use.  She wants things her way... and wants you to be OK with it.  All she has proven to you is... she will bail out whenever she feels it's OK... and hook up with another guy. 

Don't let yourself be part of her game.

[d0nnivain]

Oh good heavens.  

This is a game to her & she's playing you for a sucker.  She is a gold digger.  She will go & be with who ever gives her the most stuff.   Unless you already a millionaire willing to waste your fortune on her, you can never win the escalation game she will always play.  She's already left you in debt & heartbroken.  You already know she has commitment problems -- she moved from your flat, to his & has cheated on him with you.  You must assume she was cheating on you with others throughout this. 

I know you are upset & you miss her but wake up.  She's bad news.  Better it ends now then later when you are tied to her forever through a child. 

Delete her from your life.  Block her everywhere.  Lick your wounds. Go NC.  In time you will heal & you can go find a sane, kind GF.  She's train-wreck, manipulative user & you are nothing more than an easy mark for her.  

[LynneVicious]

Good grief Peter. Is this how you truly want to live? Being on-call for a girl who uses you? If you continue this relationship, 100% she will break your heart more ways than one even worse than now. 
 

Have some dignity and walk away. Otherwise, you can’t complain when she continues to hurt you. 

[schlumpy]

She's a user and you are her pliant victim.

The more things you do for her -  the more she will demand.

You have to get out of her grasp.

type into your browser "cheating 180" and start following the instructions.

You are deep in the fog and after a few months the 180 will help clear your mind so you can make decisions based on your best interest.

[Mystery4me]

Yep the first sentence is all you need to know. Read it, read it again, then read it again. Everything after that quite simply means absolutely nothing.

[Voivoda]

Run

[snowboy91]

Best case scenario - her mind is all over the place and can't decide what she wants.

Worst case scenario - she is playing with your mind and wants the security of being with you with the fun of whoever this other guy is.

Either way, I don't think this is a way you want to live. Her messing you around like this is the worst outcome. I know the best outcome would be for her to come back to you, but the next best outcome may be to end the relationship yourself. Yeah it will hurt, but at least you won't have to deal with the confusion, which will allow you to move on eventually.

[Cookiesandough]

You are plan B 

[Peter266]

she doesn't care about me. She care only about herself.

She gave me what I had needed. So I loved her so much. I would have done everything for her. I lost my freedom. I could't have friends. She was jalous of my friends, even men. I couldn't go to trip with my old friends.

On the other hand she could do anything with anybody.

It is not possible build future (house, child, trust) with somebody like her. I wanted, so much, but maybe her new partner saved me. Who knows. But now I am scared, thad her new relationship will faild, and she will come back.

I am still NOT able to burn bridges with her. Cut her off completly.

She still has keys from my flat, some stuff here, I have her photo still in my wallet, photos on social media, she still can come when she want here, I don't have enough strenght to end it completly . It is still fresh.

[d0nnivain]

It may still be fresh but you have to move forward.  She's toxic.  Change the locks if you can't get your keys back.   Take her picture out of your wallet & make arrangements to return all of her stuff to her ASAP.  The sooner you get rid of the stuff that ties you to her, the better off you will be.  

Hugs.  Hang in there.  The pain does go away.  

[Peter266]

I removed her photo from my wallet. Day by day she is more and more away from my heart. I feel lonely sometimes, but it is ok. She has still furniture in my flat. Most of furniture, refrigerator, washing machine belong to her. It is from her own flat. I have almost empty flat without her stuff. So I do not know what to do. Her flat is 70 km away. She said that I can have and use that stuff in my flat. But I can't completly cutt her off my live, with that stuff in my flat. But I am scared what if she will want to come back, what if her new man kick her from his flat, who knows. I love my freedom I got without her.
I am scared too, if I will cut her off from my live immediately, she will want to come back, or she will try some manipulation.

[Wiseman2]

She's 100% done . So much so that she doesn't even want her stuff back. Keep it and move on happily.

She and her BF probably have everything they need, so it's not about  appliances and furniture.

Delete and block her. She sent you in writing that you can have that stuff.

[Millennial]

Why are you taking her seriously, when her behaviour is absolute clownshoes?

[neowulf]

I'm so sorry this happened to you man.  

I'm also sorry to inform you that your ex has absolutely zero respect for you.

I know you're hurting, but man... rip off the bandaid and move on with your life.

No one is worth being treated like that.  No one.