Hpchic Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 When an ex reaches out and tells you they miss talking to you are they saying they miss you? Theres really not much context my sister’s ex said that to her and she’s thinking he’s just being friendly while I’m thinking he’s trying to tell her he misses her lol. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 Well yes, he may miss her - or parts of the relationship - but it doesn't mean he wants to get back together. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Silver_star Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 You can't assume that really. He may just miss talking to her as a friend, or because he is lonely. She should be direct and ask what his intentions are. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hpchic Posted November 13, 2020 Author Share Posted November 13, 2020 He said this to her when he was ending the conversation and she didn’t say it back. This took place almost a week ago so she was wondering why he hasn’t reached out again if he missed talking to her. I think their conversation was mostly small talk, like “how are you” and “what have you been up to” kind of thing. He does this to her every few months, although this is the first time he’s said he misses talking to her. They broke up almost a year ago and they’re not friends. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 He hasn’t reached out to her again quickly because “they’re not friends”. What outcome does your friend want? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hpchic Posted November 13, 2020 Author Share Posted November 13, 2020 38 minutes ago, basil67 said: He hasn’t reached out to her again quickly because “they’re not friends”. What outcome does your friend want? It’s my sister, she won’t admit to it but I think she still has feelings for him. She’s not the type who would ever reach out to him no matter what she wants, so I think that’s why she was talking about it to me today and sounded frustrated. Pretty sure that’s why she kept bringing up his missing talking to her and that’s when I told her I’d interpret that as he misses her. Whether he says it or not I’m sure he does on some level otherwise she wouldn’t still be hearing from him, IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 So who dumped who? And why? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 8 hours ago, Hpchic said: When an ex reaches out and tells you they miss talking to you are they saying they miss you? Theres really not much context my sister’s ex said that to her and she’s thinking he’s just being friendly while I’m thinking he’s trying to tell her he misses her lol. It sometimes means they're looking for quick easy sex with the ex during a dry spell. If your sister brings it up again, advise her to delete and block him and all his people from ALL her social media and messaging apps. This way, there are no guessing games as to what an ex means by continuing contact . She can then start moving on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hpchic Posted November 13, 2020 Author Share Posted November 13, 2020 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: It sometimes means they're looking for quick easy sex with the ex during a dry spell. If your sister brings it up again, advise her to delete and block him and all his people from ALL her social media and messaging apps. This way, there are no guessing games as to what an ex means by continuing contact . She can then start moving on. I don’t think it’s that since there was no mention of meeting up and like I said she hasn’t heard from him in a week. I’d think if you’re looking for quick and easy sex you’re not going to wait longer than a day or two to make contact again and meet up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hpchic Posted November 13, 2020 Author Share Posted November 13, 2020 4 hours ago, basil67 said: So who dumped who? And why? I believe he dumped her, but I’m not sure why. She’s very private, I’m shocked she even told me he texted her. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 With Covid & all that is going on in the world, people are looking for comfort. Back when they were together & things were good, he felt emotionally secure. That is probably missing from his life. He reached out to her, not because he wants to reconcile but because he wanted comfort & reassurance. He was being nostalgic, nothing more. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hpchic Posted November 13, 2020 Author Share Posted November 13, 2020 15 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: With Covid & all that is going on in the world, people are looking for comfort. Back when they were together & things were good, he felt emotionally secure. That is probably missing from his life. He reached out to her, not because he wants to reconcile but because he wanted comfort & reassurance. He was being nostalgic, nothing more. Yea I agree with this, however I just spoke to her and she revealed to me that he had asked to meet up a few months ago but she didn’t feel ready so she blew him off. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 (edited) If "a few months ago" was inside of Covid, my explanation remains valid. Your sister needs to figure out what she wants. If she wants to get back together, she needs to know what went wrong & if that has been fixed yet. If so, she needs to fess up & lay it out there that she wants reconciliation. Yes, that is scary. Yes, it makes her vulnerable to rejection but somebody has to get this ball rolling. If she doesn't want to get back together, she needs to stop talking to him. It's screwing with her head & heart. If she doesn't know what she wants, she needs to figure it out. Edited November 13, 2020 by d0nnivain 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 Sure, he may miss her, but it doesn't mean anything would be any better the next time around. Issues generally are what they are, and people don't change much. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 (edited) @Hpchic 12 hours ago, Hpchic said: When an ex reaches out and tells you they miss talking to you are they saying they miss you? Theres really not much context my sister’s ex said that to her and she’s thinking he’s just being friendly while I’m thinking he’s trying to tell her he misses her lol. Sometimes, people feel things only in the moment, and want to express it. This is one of those things. He misses the good parts of the relationship. The laughter, the conversations. The sex. The outings. Maybe how he felt when he was with her. Many things. But be careful. This doesn't mean he wants to get back together with your sister. It could mean that, but it just as likely could not. Don't make any assumptions unless he actually says it. - Beach Edited November 13, 2020 by Beachead 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hpchic Posted November 13, 2020 Author Share Posted November 13, 2020 3 hours ago, Beachead said: @Hpchic Sometimes, people feel things only in the moment, and want to express it. This is one of those things. He misses the good parts of the relationship. The laughter, the conversations. The sex. The outings. Maybe how he felt when he was with her. Many things. But be careful. This doesn't mean he wants to get back together with your sister. It could mean that, but it just as likely could not. Don't make any assumptions unless he actually says it. - Beach They had some hurdles in the relationship, my personal opinion is that they both still have feelings for each other but they’re on different paths in life. He is divorced and has kids, so he already has a family, my sister has no kids and has never been married and she wants both those things. So my guess is their long term goals don’t align and I’ve told her this. Link to post Share on other sites
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