Angel29 Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 A week ago my friend asked me to go for a walk. On Friday I text him asking what time we would meet the next day as it had not been arranged. He replied and said he couldn’t make it now as his electrics were hanging loose in his garage. He tried to call me but I missed the call. He sent another message saying his second bathroom isn’t working now so he will need to spend the weekend sorting it. Now I know we are not dating, just friends and that he had a genuine reason to cancel. But I did think was he even going to tell me it was not going ahead and my text prompted his response. I’m not a controlling person but how would anyone else feel if someone arranged something and then cancels and only decides to tell you when prompted? I could have made other plans as it was obvious that he knew about this well before. Link to post Share on other sites
Mystery4me Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 I would say 'next time let me know in advance as I could have planned something else for the day' and then move on, it's not exactly a really big deal. A week is a bit too far to plan something as basic as a walk. You say he is just a friend but it sounds like you are expecting him to give you a bit more priority than he would another guy friend. You mention you are not dating, do you want to date him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted November 15, 2020 Author Share Posted November 15, 2020 2 minutes ago, Mystery4me said:A week is a bit too far to plan something as basic as a walk. You say he is just a friend but it sounds like you are expecting him to give you a bit more priority than he would another guy friend. You mention you are not dating, do you want to date him? I told him in a week’s time as I had my course and placements all week so had no free time to meet. Otherwise I would have arranged earlier. I do like him more than a friend and he likes me but we have not spoke about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Mystery4me Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 41 minutes ago, Angel29 said: I told him in a week’s time as I had my course and placements all week so had no free time to meet. Otherwise I would have arranged earlier. I do like him more than a friend and he likes me but we have not spoke about it. How do you know he likes you if you have not spoken about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 53 minutes ago, Angel29 said: I do like him more than a friend and he likes me but we have not spoke about it. Ok, this was not a date and there was no set arrangements. People make time for whatever and whoever they are interested in. He is just an aquaintence. You are not dating. It's time to start talking to and meeting men who are interested in you and want to date you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 I think he doesn’t owe anything if you guys didn’t even make set plans to meet. He threw an idea out there, you tried to set it up, he couldn’t make it. NBD 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 8 hours ago, Angel29 said: I do like him more than a friend and he likes me but we have not spoke about it. There's a difference between just "liking" someone as a friend and having a romantic interest. If he were romantically interested in you he would have taken a couple of hours to spend with you and made his bathrooms wait. Honestly it just sounds like a better opportunity came along for him. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 I take it this is the same friend that you are obsessed with. Please try to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted November 15, 2020 Author Share Posted November 15, 2020 17 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: I take it this is the same friend that you are obsessed with. Please try to move on. Today I have read a book about yo-yo relationships. I have found it very helpful and need to focus on myself. This man is not really interested in friendship as he has chosen what his priorities are. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 1 hour ago, Angel29 said: Today I have read a book about yo-yo relationships. I have found it very helpful and need to focus on myself. This man is not really interested in friendship as he has chosen what his priorities are. What are those priorities? Regardless of his priorities he still needs sex and companionship like most people with priorities. Sooner or later he will find someone he really wants to be with romantically. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel29 Posted November 15, 2020 Author Share Posted November 15, 2020 8 minutes ago, stillafool said: What are those priorities? Regardless of his priorities he still needs sex and companionship like most people with priorities. Sooner or later he will find someone he really wants to be with romantically. I agree about him finding someone and that person is not me. To be honest most women would not put up with his flakiness. He also gets angry about politics and is quite anxious. These traits are not what my ideal man consists of. Link to post Share on other sites
Pumaza Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 Just let him know next time to tell you.Eventhou he says he called, you ddnt answer.....? Reading more of you in this topic....ypu like him,?So maybe the walk ment more to you then to him.For him it was just a walk he couldnt do. Just be honest about your feelings to him. Link to post Share on other sites
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