xforeverlove27 Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 This guy added me, flirted first (and continued). Suddenly revealed his relationship and made it seem as if I’m the one who’s after him despite him flirting and continuing to flirt. I don’t like how he made it out to be that I’m thirsty for him. We hooked up years ago, recently he added me back on Snapchat and would keep making private stories with captions I’m sure are directed at me (for example I mentioned a car on my stories and the next day on his private story he posted the EXACT car and said “when girls think this is a nice car LMAO”) He even made a private story with the “ask me anything” YOLO inbox where people can send anon questions. I sent him one and the reply was directed at me (not sure why he would assume or know it’s me unless I was the only person in that private snap story). I also had the YOLO inbox up for a day and Im pretty sure he sent me some inappropriate messages because he would be the first to view it and the person knows what music I like during sex (he’s the ONLY one who’d know this because my other exes are blocked). One of the other anon messages said: I heard you’re a home wrecker. Want to wreck my home? (When we hooked up he was cheating on his relationship at the time and I found out he had affairs with his other Gfs before). Later on, he sent me a generic snap so I would do the same including an OOTD pic I sent everyone. He replied with “🔥🔥🔥” and then I sent him some more racy pics and he’d continue to reply (no mention of any relationship) with flirty messages or that’s a “🔥 snap” back. Whenever he would leave my reply on read, I wouldn’t say anything. But then he’ll reply to my story and I’ll start talking again. He claims that during my racy snaps I said “next time” but I save all my snaps and re-read them all and not once did I say “next time” or imply I wanted to sleep with him again. I only flirted for fun/ego boost not because I wanted him or anything. Then outta nowhere he said the girlfriend thing and tells me I need to take “the hint” because he’s not interested... then blocks me. I had no idea and thought he was single the whole time considering he flirted. I apologized to him (on Facebook) and wished him luck. Not sure if it’s relevant but he’d always be the first to view my stories and liked every single one of my insta pics. I added him back on Instagram 1.5 years ago, he would like all my pics then he randomly blocked me (not once did I speak to him) and then followed me back again. Then he randomly added me on Snapchat recently. Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 Who knows what his problem is. I would suggest blocking him if he is going to be accusing you of leading him on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author xforeverlove27 Posted November 15, 2020 Author Share Posted November 15, 2020 (edited) 11 minutes ago, usa1ah said: I would suggest blocking him if he is going to be accusing you of leading him on. He said the opposite, that I'm the one who is into him and to take the hint that he is not. His exact message was: Honestly though your not getting the message you got to stop sending me nudes I'm in a relationship with a girl that I love and I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize it. Use this energy with somebody else Because you are wasting your time and to be honest your not going to get anything out of me. Please don't msg me. I hope you understand and find whatever you are looking for with somebody else. I won't be replying anymore. Thanks. Edited November 15, 2020 by xforeverlove27 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 15, 2020 Share Posted November 15, 2020 So disconnect from him. What's the problem? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 16, 2020 Share Posted November 16, 2020 2 hours ago, xforeverlove27 said: I also had the YOLO inbox up for a day and Im pretty sure he sent me some inappropriate messages because he would be the first to view it and the person knows what music I like during sex (he’s the ONLY one who’d know this because my other exes are blocked). Why didn't you block this one? He has no respect for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xforeverlove27 Posted November 16, 2020 Author Share Posted November 16, 2020 1 hour ago, stillafool said: Why didn't you block this one? He has no respect for you. He has ISSUES. He was so into me (at 1st) and its kind of creepy too. 1. He first adds me on a private snapchat account that I had with NO contacts (only created it after getting locked out of my first) 2. Prior to us directly talking he would always post private stories with captions and pics directed at me 3. He even created private stories with YOLO (ask anon questions) so I said something as a joke and in his reply he indicated that he KNEW it was me, meaning I must have been the only one in it... Link to post Share on other sites
Author xforeverlove27 Posted November 16, 2020 Author Share Posted November 16, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, d0nnivain said: So disconnect from him. What's the problem? I just wanted to know if what I did was wrong because I felt kind of humiliated and shame. He blocked me right after sending that message. He made it seem like I knew about his relationship and was after him but I never even said "next time" as he falsely misquotes me as saying/asking for. The first time we hooked up (years ago) he was cheating. I also heard he had multiple affairs with his other GF prior and also black mailed her into having sex (she told him her darkest secrets). So he doesn't seem to be the type to feel remorse. Edited November 16, 2020 by xforeverlove27 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 16, 2020 Share Posted November 16, 2020 It's best to delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Time wasters like this, just add to your daily frustration. It would be better to get a good profile and pics on quality/paid dating apps, screen well and apply appropriate search criteria, then start talking to and meeting single local available interested men. This way your time is allocated to something productive. Link to post Share on other sites
Nats_16 Posted November 16, 2020 Share Posted November 16, 2020 He was probably enjoying your free nudes you were sending and then possibly his gf found out and or he lost respect for you by doing that. I don’t know how old you are but respect yourself more and the right guy will come along. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 16, 2020 Share Posted November 16, 2020 12 hours ago, xforeverlove27 said: He has ISSUES. He was so into me (at 1st) and its kind of creepy too. Again, if this is true why haven't you blocked him? 3 hours ago, Nats_16 said: He was probably enjoying your free nudes you were sending You've been sending nudes? Link to post Share on other sites
Author xforeverlove27 Posted November 16, 2020 Author Share Posted November 16, 2020 5 hours ago, Nats_16 said: and or he lost respect for you by doing that. I only know this guy because of a ONS we had almost 4 years ago so for him to even add me on snapchat... I mean if we were friends I would get it Link to post Share on other sites
Author xforeverlove27 Posted November 16, 2020 Author Share Posted November 16, 2020 I was talking to my friends and here are some potential red flags (or just me overthinking): Also once I had an ask me anything inbox where people send u anon messages on Snapchat. One of the messages talked about what music I like during sex and he’s the ONLY person on my current snap list who would know that. Then another comment said “I heard ur a home wrecker. Want to wreck my home?” He was the first to view these stories too. He also made private snap stories prior to talking directly and the captions were directed at me because I would mention a car the day before and he’d post a pic of the exact car with some side comment and the story was private. Another time he did the ask me anon questions thing and story was shown to be 🔒 and I said smthn and he knew it was “a brown girl”. After our hookup (almost 4 years ago) he blocked me. Then like 1.5 years ago I added him on Instagram again (guess he unblocked). He liked ALL my pics and views my stories right away. Then outta nowhere he blocked me again. Then right after he re-followed me ... which is weird because I didn’t say ANYTHING to him to make him do that at the time. Prior to this whole Snapchat thing on Instagram he had me added as “close friends” Dafuq... I don’t know him outside a ONS. One potentially creepy part is that initially he added me on my other Snapchat this secret one I keep with NOBODY on it... I got locked out of my main account and created a new one so I could use the filters lol. Then eventually I got my original account back. But yeah he added the secret one no idea how he found it (this was back in august). At this point I hadn’t gone on Instagram or other social media in several months (was taking a break). Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 16, 2020 Share Posted November 16, 2020 1 hour ago, xforeverlove27 said: After our hookup (almost 4 years ago) he blocked me. Then like 1.5 years ago I added him on Instagram again (guess he unblocked). You are chasing him to some extent You hooked up 4 years ago. He cheated on someone else with you. He blocked you then you added him. WTH were you thinking? there was no reason on God's green earth for you to interact with him at all, ever. For you to add him is you being somewhat obsessed with him. Just cut off all contact on every platform -- no FB, no snapchat, no instagram, no parler, no twitter, no tik tok, no email, no phone, no IM just NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted November 16, 2020 Share Posted November 16, 2020 seems likely that his GF saw that he was talking to you and he's now pretending that you initiated it to cover his own a$$. block him, he seems useless, no point in all that drama 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author xforeverlove27 Posted November 17, 2020 Author Share Posted November 17, 2020 9 hours ago, d0nnivain said: WTH were you thinking? there was no reason on God's green earth for you to interact with him at all, ever. I add everyone back even if they blocked me, I have thousands of followers on Instagram so it does not make any difference. I do not like ALL the guys I have on instagram, I literally add everyone on it so I can get more likes on my posts. I did not give it a second thought adding him as im pretty sure he just appeared on the recommended list and I followed everyone along it.And yeah I blocked him everywhere now. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 Keep him blocked everywhere forever. You’re wasting mental energy on this fool Link to post Share on other sites
Bonifidelifelover Posted November 19, 2020 Share Posted November 19, 2020 What a weird dude! Who has time for that bs 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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