Beausene Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 I was thinking about a lot of things lately, and I wondered this: Can you really ever fall out of love with someone, completely? Let's say you were with them for a long time, no one abused or cheated or did anything terrible... Won't there always be a twinge of love there? I'm asking because since my ex broke up with me last month, I have been trying to occupy myself to ease the pain. Out of the blue, a previous ex called to see how I was doing. I hadn't talked to him in a long time. While I was in my newest relationship, I would sometimes have dreams of the guy from the previous one. It's weird. I guess I still feel love for him even though we had been apart for over 5 years. We left each other on good terms, relatively speaking. I'm not "in love" or anything, but there are still feelings there. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Yes, you can fall completely out of love with someone. If you broke up, and there were still residual feelings, then those will carry on for some time because some small part of you is still harboring 'good thoughts' about it. Some part of you still has the tiniest flicker of love there, even if it is only in the form of nostalgia. You may hear from them again, or finding yourself wanting to see what they are 'up to' these days. If you let a breakup drag on and on until there are absolutely no good thoughts at all left except for the ones regarding your never having to see or talk to that person EVER again - then you have reached the end of falling out of love, and its not likely you'll ever want to see them, think about them or even hear from or about them ever again in your life. And... you don't. I guess it entirely depends on your emotional state when you finally broke up. Link to post Share on other sites
fatcat Posted October 14, 2005 Share Posted October 14, 2005 Lucrezia is right...you can fall out of love... don't believe that? How about these examples: 1. when you were in high school did you like to drink Mountain Dew? --now you cant stand the stuff 2. the Spice Girls were way kewl, now you don't even remember their names. 3. you wore black and was 'goth'...now the only black thing you wear is shoes. 4. mcdonalds was a kewl hangout, now you'd have to be starving to eat there. 5. you liked the backstreet boys, now you see them as 30 somethings trying to act hip and it makes you sick. 6. you thought Bevis and Butthead was funny, now its stupid to you. 7. during 911, you thought Bush was great, now he's a jerk 8. when you got your 1st cell phone you loved it, now since it doesnt take pictures, have a speakerphone or have blue lights its a pile of crap 9. you loved tom cruise in "top gun" and "jerry maguire"...now he's a jerk 10. your buddies in high school that you swore you'd stay in contact with... now, you don't even have their phone numbers Link to post Share on other sites
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