Dan111 Posted December 6, 2020 Share Posted December 6, 2020 Your doing really well so keep up the good work. I once had a long term relationship that lasted about a year, it was difficult and we used to have to fly to see each other. In my eyes the relationship was going well, until one time I got home after seeing her and she dropped a bombshell that she no longer wanted to be together and I kid you not.. she never wanted to talk to me again. it was total shock and no matter how many times I reached out to her and tried to see her she would not even reply. I got totally ignored, I did not see it coming but she obviously had made her mind up some months before. I felt totally rejected,confused, angry... every emotion, I then turned nasty for some kind of reaction. Don’t ever do that! You will get better in time. 1 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted December 6, 2020 Share Posted December 6, 2020 14 hours ago, Rtkennedy1 said: I dont even planning on being here You're leaving things outside? Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted December 6, 2020 Share Posted December 6, 2020 I've been thinking about you today @Rtkennedy1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 7, 2020 Author Share Posted December 7, 2020 Her father picked up her things, i was not there but it got done. Just trying to take steps 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 7, 2020 Share Posted December 7, 2020 33 minutes ago, Rtkennedy1 said: Her father picked up her things, i was not there but it got done. Just trying to take steps Excellent. You're doing well, it just doesn't feel like it with the acute pain right now. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 7, 2020 Author Share Posted December 7, 2020 No, your right, it feels awful. I want this pain to end. It seems like all I can concentrate on and wonder about her constantly. What she's thinking . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted December 7, 2020 Share Posted December 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Rtkennedy1 said: No, your right, it feels awful. I want this pain to end. It seems like all I can concentrate on and wonder about her constantly. What she's thinking . Everyone always regrets their own bad behaviour assuming they even realise it. Now you need to block her from your thoughts. Think about getting you a pet again too? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 7, 2020 Author Share Posted December 7, 2020 (edited) I've gotten a new baby Rabbit. He's. Good distraction. Do any of you think at this point there is ever a chance at reconciling I texted this to the father when he picked up her things after him saying I still like you youre a good guy "Thank you, I know i am. I think she got a wrong impression of me , and left me at my worst. I wasnt the the person she first met due to a lot of trauma and depression. Ive quit drinking and seening drs for my other problems with the intimacy. The strain of being a caretaker was like being in a war zone. And it affected our relationship. I loved your daughter to the end of the earth and intended to make her my everything. But a relatjonship isn't always perfect and you stick with someone in a marriage though the good and the bad. That was my intention". .... I shouldent hope that gets back to her but I'm surebitbwill Edited December 7, 2020 by Rtkennedy1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 7, 2020 Share Posted December 7, 2020 11 minutes ago, Rtkennedy1 said: I've gotten a new baby Rabbit. He's. Good distraction. 🐇👍 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted December 7, 2020 Share Posted December 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Rtkennedy1 said: I've gotten a new baby Rabbit. He's. Good distraction. Do any of you think at this point there is ever a chance at reconciling I texted this to the father when he picked up her things after him saying I still like you youre a good guy "Thank you, I know i am. I think she got a wrong impression of me , and left me at my worst. I wasnt the the person she first met due to a lot of trauma and depression. Ive quit drinking and seening drs for my other problems with the intimacy. The strain of being a caretaker was like being in a war zone. And it affected our relationship. I loved your daughter to the end of the earth and intended to make her my everything. But a relatjonship isn't always perfect and you stick with someone in a marriage though the good and the bad. That was my intention". .... I shouldent hope that gets back to her but I'm surebitbwill Reconcile with yourself! Her father won't listen to you over his weirdo daughter. Let that go. Don't ever communicate with this woman or her family again, they aren't worth the effort! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 7, 2020 Author Share Posted December 7, 2020 Tough to let go of love Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 7, 2020 Share Posted December 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Rtkennedy1 said: Ive quit drinking Was it an issue for her? Have you sought support from AA? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 7, 2020 Author Share Posted December 7, 2020 She didn't like it , but she also drank , inwasnt drinking to be obliterated, and i didn't ever act bad to her if I drank, im notbtrying to defend it, but we are talking a few glasses of wine at night, it helped eas my nerves during the stress and depression of taking care of my mother. She would drink and also smoke Marijuana Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 7, 2020 Author Share Posted December 7, 2020 I know it bothered her and i did tell her it would stop, and it didn't, thats what I'm working on now, and it wasn't any everyday thing nor did it affect my work. But I suppose it affected her ability to believe I would change those habits, especially while I was/am going through this Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted December 8, 2020 Share Posted December 8, 2020 7 hours ago, Rtkennedy1 said: She would drink and also smoke Marijuana And you didn't. Or did also- you are not clear. So there you have it. All you can do now is start over. Lots of people wish you well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 8, 2020 Author Share Posted December 8, 2020 I did as well, with not close to the frequency regarding the Marijuana. I still considered both of us responsible in regards to use Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 8, 2020 Author Share Posted December 8, 2020 After my mother passed, I noticed her antideprecent medicstion were missing, Ativan, the only explanation I have is that she took them, or may have taken them....again im still emptying a house, and finding out things unintentionally Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted December 8, 2020 Share Posted December 8, 2020 16 minutes ago, Rtkennedy1 said: again im still emptying a house, and finding out things unintentionally you don't need to know about these things...try to move on from her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 9, 2020 Author Share Posted December 9, 2020 30 days since she left and it only feels worse. Like a fool I still have hope and im breaking down everyday. The holidays are coming and il be alone and it just feels so bleek Link to post Share on other sites
ClearEyes-FullHeart Posted December 9, 2020 Share Posted December 9, 2020 It’s tough - many folks are alone too (me as well) and the holidays do make it seem more challenging. I try to flip my mindset as much as possible, embracing all the positives things such as I am working (many aren’t but I believe you are also), I have my health, etc. etc. Focus on all the good things you do have and soldier on. Also avoid social media. Hang in there! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 9, 2020 Author Share Posted December 9, 2020 Im strict no contact , except the message to the dad Link to post Share on other sites
Dan111 Posted December 9, 2020 Share Posted December 9, 2020 My fiancé left me only 5 days ago so I know the feeling. I put the Christmas tree up yesterday although I really didn’t feel like it, I will feel very lonely over the holidays also. I always feel like I’m the only one going through this hell but then I remind myself many people will be feeling like us. keeping yourself busy and finding some hobbies always helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 10, 2020 Author Share Posted December 10, 2020 Its devastating Dan, I feel for you. I dont want to give up hope but I dont see any other option. No contact is very difficult, and not knowing if the person you love is even tbinking of you at all just unbearable. False hope is in my mind still after 30 days. Not a word spoken. And I dont feel at all healed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rtkennedy1 Posted December 10, 2020 Author Share Posted December 10, 2020 Couldent go to work today , just hit me so hard in the morning, tbrowinv up and sweating. Shaking its not only emotionL but physical 1 Link to post Share on other sites
trident_2020 Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 You need medication. Link to post Share on other sites
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