Social Media: Leaving out the spouse in family photos

[QuietRiot]

I had this woman come up in my "people you may know" feed, turns out she knows an old high school friend of mine. VERY attractive, born into wealth, married a doctor, and has a young child with in all the photos, even with some nicely done Christmas photos done in front of a Christmas tree. Just her and her child. I noticed she has her married name, and maiden name in parenthesis. I see a rather glaring wedding ring on her finger.  But what I find unusual that there are just pictures of her and her child, no father in the photos.

I've seen this in other group family photos as well. When it comes to other photos, sometimes you'd see photos with their family members, brothers, sister, etc. But the husband is nowhere to be found. I could be way off, but isn't this kind of telling of the marriage...assuming they are married? I dunno, just a little off about something like that.

Edited November 24, 2020 by QuietRiot

[Wiseman2]

The husband took the photos? Why would every candid or other social media phone need the whole family in it?

Are you scouring the 'people you may know' area looking to make contacts for dating ?

[QuietRiot]

22 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

The husband took the photos? Why would every candid or other social media phone need the whole family in it?

Are you scouring the 'people you may know' area looking to make contacts for dating ?

Not really, but if they say "single" in their relationship status and if we share so many mutual friends from high school or something, then I don't see why not strike up a conversation. I've gotten dates that way.

Edited November 24, 2020 by QuietRiot

[usa1ah]

It could be that the husband doesn’t want his picture on social media. I know people like that. 

[mark clemson]

It could be any number of things, including the suggestions above among others.

I wouldn't get your hopes up too high. Also I've gotten holiday cards etc from families that were all smiles, etc, but by next year - eeep, divorced. On more than one occasion, sadly.

[basil67]

On 11/24/2020 at 11:50 PM, QuietRiot said:

Not really, but if they say "single" in their relationship status and if we share so many mutual friends from high school or something, then I don't see why not strike up a conversation. I've gotten dates that way.

Are you keen to date a woman with a young child?

[QuietRiot]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

Are you keen to date a woman with a young child?

Maybe. *shrug* Depends.

[Starswillshine]

Likely, the husband was the one who took the photo. My xH hated being in photos, and if there was a picture of me with the kids, he was the one to take it. Or it was just pictures of only my kids. 

[QuietRiot]

6 hours ago, Starswillshine said:

Likely, the husband was the one who took the photo. My xH hated being in photos, and if there was a picture of me with the kids, he was the one to take it. Or it was just pictures of only my kids. 

Good point, I'll do you one better...I know a husband and wife that had their wedding photo done, but since he's a photographer by profession, she said in the caption that as a photographer he prefers to be behind the camera than in front...so he photoshopped his face to look like someone else, she, however, was a gorgeous bride, real as all.

It is kind of an embarrassing thing to do on your wedding day.

[Wiseman2]

Unfortunately this seems like a hit or miss way of finding dates. Seems more living vicariously through social media and guessing what the stories behind the social media photos mean.

[QuietRiot]

2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Unfortunately this seems like a hit or miss way of finding dates. Seems more living vicariously through social media and guessing what the stories behind the social media photos mean.

YEah, like I had recently come across a woman in my back water town that had her relationship status "Divorced May 10th , 2020", when we started talking. she was still living with her ex, and she wasn't considered legally divorced...so that May date was only when the paperwork was submitted.  She's pretty much  a prisoner in her own home. She even gave me her #...I didn't call though...soo much baggage lol Yikes

[Narie]

I also didn't have a photo of me 7and my husband together in my profile pictures.  I  usually cut him out of the picture and just show me. I only posted once...with our wedding anniversary. 

Husband didn't like his pic being shown jn public.  He also never put his photo in his profile pic(just once) he told me he doesn't like feel comfortable having strangers see his photos. And I also have my maiden name (in parentheses) so our old friends, school mates may find us.

Her husband may not wanted it. 

[Cookiesandough]

Not really... It’s just some pics on social media. I think you’re looking WAY too far into this. 

Edited December 19, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[Caauug]

I keep my photo off SM. I am naturally camera shy but will always un-tag my name on a photo of me on SM. 

The local paper loves pulling photos off SM and including it in a story, more than once getting a photo of the wrong person for the story. All good as it is public domain???

People will remember a face longer than a name. I don't need to be remembered that way.

What type of a doctor is he? What does he specialize in? If he is doing controversial work that could lead him to be a target for a SJW group, that might be one reason to keep his photo private. IE: Unplanned pregnancy clinic. 

[QuietRiot]

5 hours ago, Caauug said:

I keep my photo off SM. I am naturally camera shy but will always un-tag my name on a photo of me on SM. 

The local paper loves pulling photos off SM and including it in a story, more than once getting a photo of the wrong person for the story. All good as it is public domain???

People will remember a face longer than a name. I don't need to be remembered that way.

What type of a doctor is he? What does he specialize in? If he is doing controversial work that could lead him to be a target for a SJW group, that might be one reason to keep his photo private. IE: Unplanned pregnancy clinic. 

So, I take it you're a spouse or sig. other of someone where you don't want to be included in the family photos?

I had a female friend like this, we'd go to Meetup events/ social groups and when they'd do a group photo...I'd happily hop-in with the others, but she'd stand aside....at one time, I was interested in dating her...but after so many times of that...it was a turn off, means she isn't  a fun person. Love her to death, but...yeah, it's like "Um...yeah, that's not normal". 

(sorry, gone off on a tangent, lol)

[Caauug]

5 minutes ago, QuietRiot said:

(sorry, gone off on a tangent, lol)

All good, 

I will do family photos, wedding photos etc. I will even do party photos. But NOT for SM, period. There is one group photo I am still tagged in on with about 50 of us in it. The names are not in order so you have to know what I look like to pick me. That's on FB. That is my token photo. I am also on Google street view, good luck trying to find me but I am there...

The local news paper loves using FB to pick out photos of people for their stories, they have got them wrong a few times in the past. As I live in a city of about 30K people about 600kms away from the next largest city, It would make it hard to find work if my photo got posted for a crime story I did not commit. I just don't need that. They would likely like it cause it would create a story for them.

Unusual for girls to be like that... But I know of one, she did modelling and was a solid 10. She would do her modelling shoots but very rare to link to SM and had very few shots of her on SM. She was normal but did a big clean up when she changed her BF, maybe there was stalking involved? I never asked.

Normally people have their reasons, maybe they are shy. Not everyone needs to be the centre of attention.