Positiveone Posted November 25, 2020 Share Posted November 25, 2020 For starters I’m 26 she was 23, relationship lasted 2-1/2 years. Just trying to gauge whether or not my ex will ever reach out..I know there’s no accurate way to know.. my story: she was tired of trying to fix things and became exhausted.. we had little arguments about trivial things and it started to ramp up for around 2 months, she thought our needs didn’t align and wanted more love and affection.. thought our love languages were different and ultimately does not see a future with me because of it and then ended it.. she didn’t want to work on underlying issues. I broke NC 3-4 times via text on different occasions over 3 weeks.. getting the same "im happy with my decision and moving forward" types of responses. The final response from me was: "I’m upset with the outcome of this situation, I really do feel like I can give you the love and affection that you need. I love you enough to support your decision. If you reconsider please reach out to me so I can reveal to you what I’ve learned. Love you" She said " thank you for understanding" a couple weeks after that I had contacted her dad , he was a mentor of mine for work so I felt comfortable enough to ask for his advice.. after he had talked to her he told me that after speaking with her she said that "she still loves me and doesnt want me to hurt anymore but doesnt see a future with me" we parted ways and I’ve been in full NC for 3+ weeks from her and I talked to her dad 2 weeks ago. He did mention she was having a really hard time with it too though. I’m just wondering about the probability of her reaching out, with how final she sounds I highly doubt it.. I really wish she would give me the chance. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 25, 2020 Share Posted November 25, 2020 She might reach out, but it seems it won't be to reconcile. She sounds very done. It's hard but you need to work accepting that this chapter has closed. She's not the right one for you either if she felt there were such significant incompatibilities. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 25, 2020 Share Posted November 25, 2020 (edited) 6 hours ago, Positiveone said: I talked to her dad 2 weeks ago. Sorry this is happening. It would be best to believe her verbatim and stop doing end runs around her and the breakup by contacting her family. You probably already know that was so out of bounds that now both she and her family are sure she made the right decision. There's no point backpedaling. In a 2.5 year relationship you've had plenty of time to discover if you are compatible and if your values, goals, etc. align. Leave her And her people alone. Try to get busy putting your life back together. Edited November 25, 2020 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
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