What kind of woman can I attract if I want to keep very low standards for myself and set high expectations for my future partner?

[boblob]

What kind of woman I can attract if I:

 

-Earning minimum wage, and not willing to earn more in future.

-Currently living with parents.
-Not willing to drive a car.
-Virgin.
-No smoking, no alhohol, no cofee, no tatoos.
-Avoiding mainstream media.

I expect wife to be the on the same preferences, as I am.
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[elaine567]

How successful have you been up till now in attracting women?

[Trail Blazer]

If you are extremely attractive physically then many women might overlook all of the listed short-comings and try to make something of it.  However, looks alone won't keep a woman around long-term.

If you are anything less than that in the looks department then you'll struggle to get a look-in.  In fact, an average or below average looking guy as listed in your OP, could and should expect little-to-no success with women.

[clia]

Why are you not willing to earn more than minimum wage or to drive a car?  

 

[Blind-Sided]

OK... I'm going to be very blunt.

Unless there is a real reason that you can't drive, and can't earn more than minimum wage... you are Lazy. A woman is not attracted to lazy.  If you spend every day working out, and are a goo looking, totally ripped guy... then you can find a sugar momma.

If there is a physical/mental reason... then I can't comment because the facts are being hidden. 

[Allupinnit]

I would not be attracted to someone so dependent on others.  I need a partner, not someone willing to scrape by with the least amount of effort.

[SumGuy]

What makes you attractive to many is not the having of any of those things.  If anything they may make you unattractive depending on your age, where you live, and the cost of living.

If minimum wage cannot put a roof over your head and food on the table then basically you will need someone to give you money to live, that is generally unattractive.

If one is young, where you are now is not as important as where you are going.

On not driving, depends on where you live.  If necessary to get food, got to work, the doctor, etc. then unattractive.  However, if you live where things are in walking distance or good public transit doesn't matter.   In fact, people I know in NYC owning a car is a major headache, parking alone can cost you a months rent in other places.  

It really comes down to can you live independently with these life choices or would you require the support of someone else to just live day to day?

[Ellener]

I'm guessing you are still young @boblob ? Maybe get your life settled before you think about a wife, and do some dating first too. 

If you don't want to drive then the US has places with public transport, but we tend to be a car-bound nation overall.

$7.25 is the US minimum wage, Here's an overview https://usafacts.org/articles/minimum-wage-america-how-many-people-are-earning-725-hour/

If a worker earning the federal minimum wage in 2018 worked 40 hours per week, every week of the year, they would earn just over $15,000 annually. That’s less than half of the US median annual wage of about $37,719, but more than the individual federal poverty threshold of about $13,064.

Not everyone is required to receive the federal minimum wage, which partly explains why the BLS measures workers “at or below” minimum wage. Various exclusions and exemptions can mean some workers may earn less than $7.25 per hour. For example, the federal minimum wage for tipped employees is $2.13 per hour so long as that amount plus tips received equals at least the federal minimum wage. Workers 20 years old or younger may earn $4.25 an hour for their first 90 consecutive days of employment. Plus, federal minimum wage law only applies to employees of enterprises with an annual gross volume of sales of at least $500,000 or certain types of smaller firms.

In Texas where I live the people earning the least are often working the hardest- caring for the elderly for example. Many people survive on low wages by working two or three jobs. The majority of jobs I am seeing advertised here currently pay $8 to $12 an hour.

 

 

[boblob]

2 hours ago, Blind-Sided said:

OK... I'm going to be very blunt.

Unless there is a real reason that you can't drive, and can't earn more than minimum wage... you are Lazy. A woman is not attracted to lazy.  If you spend every day working out, and are a goo looking, totally ripped guy... then you can find a sugar momma.

If there is a physical/mental reason... then I can't comment because the facts are being hidden. 

I prefer public bus over car.
I dont want to make more then minimum wage, because I dont want do favor for corporation & tax collectors.
Corporation is not my partner and not my friend.
I priority: to sell less soul as possible for corporation.

[boblob]

1 hour ago, SumGuy said:

What makes you attractive to many is not the having of any of those things.  If anything they may make you unattractive depending on your age, where you live, and the cost of living.

If minimum wage cannot put a roof over your head and food on the table then basically you will need someone to give you money to live, that is generally unattractive.

If one is young, where you are now is not as important as where you are going.

On not driving, depends on where you live.  If necessary to get food, got to work, the doctor, etc. then unattractive.  However, if you live where things are in walking distance or good public transit doesn't matter.   In fact, people I know in NYC owning a car is a major headache, parking alone can cost you a months rent in other places.  

It really comes down to can you live independently with these life choices or would you require the support of someone else to just live day to day?

If my future wife have this following criteria, I am happy:

-Earning minimum wage, and not willing to earn more in future.
-Currently living with parents.
-Not willing to drive a car.
-Virgin.
-No smoking, no alhohol, no cofee, no tatoos.
-Avoiding mainstream media.

It is not dependand, its equal.

[boblob]

15 minutes ago, Ellener said:

I'm guessing you are still young @boblob ? Maybe get your life settled before you think about a wife, and do some dating first too. 

If you don't want to drive then the US has places with public transport, but we tend to be a car-bound nation overall.

$7.25 is the US minimum wage, Here's an overview https://usafacts.org/articles/minimum-wage-america-how-many-people-are-earning-725-hour/

If a worker earning the federal minimum wage in 2018 worked 40 hours per week, every week of the year, they would earn just over $15,000 annually. That’s less than half of the US median annual wage of about $37,719, but more than the individual federal poverty threshold of about $13,064.

Not everyone is required to receive the federal minimum wage, which partly explains why the BLS measures workers “at or below” minimum wage. Various exclusions and exemptions can mean some workers may earn less than $7.25 per hour. For example, the federal minimum wage for tipped employees is $2.13 per hour so long as that amount plus tips received equals at least the federal minimum wage. Workers 20 years old or younger may earn $4.25 an hour for their first 90 consecutive days of employment. Plus, federal minimum wage law only applies to employees of enterprises with an annual gross volume of sales of at least $500,000 or certain types of smaller firms.

In Texas where I live the people earning the least are often working the hardest- caring for the elderly for example. Many people survive on low wages by working two or three jobs. The majority of jobs I am seeing advertised here currently pay $8 to $12 an hour.

 

 

I am 27 already. I have really reduced desire for woman, compared as it was in teens.
I predict that at age +35 I will even fail to erect.
IMO men should get virgin woman at 16, not at 30 or 40 ( once life expired and no desire for woman left, no purpose )

[Ellener]

11 minutes ago, boblob said:

I am 27 already. I have really reduced desire for woman, compared as it was in teens.
I predict that at age +35 I will even fail to erect.
IMO men should get virgin woman at 16, not at 30 or 40 ( once life expired and no desire for woman left, no purpose )

Desire goes up and down throughout life. 

What does that mean 'get virgin women'?

[boblob]

51 minutes ago, Ellener said:

Desire goes up and down throughout life. 

What does that mean 'get virgin women'?

Woman who never had a boyfriend.

[Johnjohnson2017]

1 hour ago, boblob said:

I prefer public bus over car.
I dont want to make more then minimum wage, because I dont want do favor for corporation & tax collectors.
Corporation is not my partner and not my friend.
I priority: to sell less soul as possible for corporation.

By making minimum wage, you are still getting ripped off by the corporations. They need people like you who work for minimum wage... that's how they become millionaires/billionaires.

[notbroken]

You've bought into the 'progressive' BS and will pay the price - no future, dependent on others (including people that work for corporations and pay taxes), and limited ability to find a mate.    Most businesses are corporations.  Most are not evil.   You've been brainwashed and it is costing you a lot - and not just money.   Seriously.   Reexamine your life.  You aren't fighting corporations and the tax man  - you are fighting yourself, success, and happiness. 

Why would a woman want to date a 27 year old living with their parents that thinks being a 'social justice warrior' is more important than being able to make a living and contribute something to society?   Most don't.  Any that would is likely a 'taker' to society too.   Be a giver.  Produce more than you take and life is easier. 

[Ellener]

42 minutes ago, notbroken said:

the 'progressive' BS

I don't think we're supposed to use this kind of terminology on LS.

58 minutes ago, boblob said:

Woman who never had a boyfriend.

If that is important to you I guess you will need to be clear, though Idon't exactly know how- most women don't like being asked such things.

Maybe you could meet people with similar ideas through a college course ( after Covid ) or church or religious place?

 

[boblob]

1 hour ago, Johnjohnson2017 said:

By making minimum wage, you are still getting ripped off by the corporations. They need people like you who work for minimum wage... that's how they become millionaires/billionaires.

I am not efficient worker.
I always try to make less work then others do, extending my breaks more.
Avoiding extra work.
Never using my full potential, leaving space for few steps back.
I also avoid more difficult tasks - who would be useful for corporation. I even dont try to figure out how.
Being sluggish in general.
I also never report bad workers and renegades, nor encouraging others to work better.
I am friendly to new employees - but neutral/cold to old ones.
I never say bad word to new employees, i even say 'never mind, its fine' even if they make mistakes.

[SumGuy]

2 hours ago, boblob said:

I prefer public bus over car.

Fair enough.   How about a bicycle?

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I dont want to make more then minimum wage, because I dont want do favor for corporation & tax collectors.

As said above, working minimum wage is doing the corporations and tax collectors a favor, at least in the US.  The taxes hurt you more, and you are much more likely to get audited.  If you want to fight the power, suggest advocating for a higher base minimum wage.

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Corporation is not my partner and not my friend.

True that, friendship is not a share holder value.  Solution, work for yourself.  In the US you still get majorly scr#wed with self employment tax and having to provide your own health insurance, but you work for you.  It is not too hard to make minimum wage working for yourself. 

If you live in the US and the bus service is decent enough to rely on, let alone exist, figure must be in a major metropolitan area.  So plenty of small ways to be self employed especially if living at home.  

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I priority: to sell less soul as possible for corporation.

Agree.  Me too. See above.

 

[MsJayne]

9 hours ago, boblob said:

What kind of woman I can attract if I:

 

-Earning minimum wage, and not willing to earn more in future.

-Currently living with parents.
-Not willing to drive a car.
-Virgin.
-No smoking, no alhohol, no cofee, no tatoos.
-Avoiding mainstream media.

 

An inflatable one with leanings towards communism and a preference for buses and bicycles. 

[central]

You sound very dysfunctional with a variety of odd views.  You may be able to find someone with similar kinds of dysfunctions and cognitive deficits, but I don't know how or where.

[ThePhoenixStillRises]

In my opinion, you will most likely be looking for a very long time for a woman that shares those same views and desires.  Unless she has had a very sheltered and controlled upbringing or needs some sort of arranged marriage.  

Preferring public transit is not a deal breaker, at least for me.  But not striving to better oneself is.  My ex was very unmotivated and lazy but he liked having nice things.  He would become obsessed with new things he wanted, to the point that that was all he would talk about...very much like a child.  He was never a partner...even from the beginning...and I wish I would have realized that sooner.  Today's women, in most cultures, want to share their life with a man that can be a partner...someone who is hardworking and is not trying to cheat the system, so to speak (extending breaks, and doing as little work as possible would be an example of that).  

[Foxhall]

I kind of like your thought process- non conformist,

Im not a woman thou so thats not much good to you,

 

[Lotsgoingon]

Can you name some interests of yours--or what values you affirm. This is all "I don't do this." What the world wants to know is what you DO like to do. 

[grays]

I feel like I’d have more empathy and camaraderie with you than most women. Years ago, before I had kids, I was a lawyer.  I went to a top ten law school and did well, but my dream job paid $28,000/yr.  After my divorce a few years ago I drove Uber full time for almost four years because I loved it, had a blast, felt very free and unaccountable to anyone else.  I have never cared whether the men I date have money (tho bc I have kids there is no way I’m funding them, I’m fine to pay half, but the rest goes to my kiddos).  

My fantasy partner is an Uber driver, too (or similar, not like fast food or something tho, actually is kind of a turn off that you allow corporate interests to take advantage of you so).  BUT all that other stuff is a huge turnoff — I need a man who feels passionate and wants to experience life and put himself out there. Get laid!  Do some drugs!  Do something!  I just don’t wanna be involved with someone who’s all passive and unmotivated. 

[Caauug]

18 hours ago, boblob said:

What kind of woman I can attract if I:

-Earning minimum wage, and not willing to earn more in future.

-Currently living with parents.
-Not willing to drive a car.
-Virgin.
-No smoking, no alhohol, no cofee, no tatoos.
-Avoiding mainstream media.

I know a bloke with less than you and he pulls some hot looking girls to live with him.

Mid 20's,

No job. He has some good ones that would pay $80K yr. but he has lost them due to not turning up or a failed drug test.

Lost his license to dangerous driving and then unpaid fines, likely lost his car now.

Lives in his parents house. And from what I hear has kicked holes in walls and pretty much devalued house down to land value only.

He is only single for short periods of time, always a hot girl wanting to move in with him.... 8 to 10's only.... They are the ones that have jobs and work.

He smokes and does drugs (Meth and weed) Does not deal from what I know, only uses. His parents have written him and the house off.... 

I have distanced myself from him a few years ago, I couldn't help him when he was on the gear. Don't know much else what he is doing but he always has a hot girl friend. The relationships last between 2-4 yrs. He's the "Bad Boy"  He knows what it takes to pull the girls and keep them for a while... He's tall, 6', 40kgs over weight, balding, face that is like a 40 grit grinding disk and he still get zits...