Avvocatto Posted December 3, 2020 Share Posted December 3, 2020 So, we broke up 2 years ago. He broke with me so he could get back together with his ex. After few months their relationship didnt workout and they broke up. Last year he contacted me asking how i was and he wanted to talk. We met and then he kissed me but we didnt get to talk because he's also pissing me off and i got disrespected so i left, and we never spoke again. He never chased me (which is what i wanted him to do). Months have passed and i guess he totally forgot about me and this one girl friended me on facebook and messaged me that he is the new girlfriend. She knew I am the ex. So I spoke to her fine pretending its fine and whatsoever, I was so nice to her. So now here's the thing. This girl always uploads stories everyday showing how happy my ex is with her. I feel like shes doing it on purpose just to rub it in my face. I want to get over it and be happy. It is so hard to do. I need advice. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted December 3, 2020 Share Posted December 3, 2020 The solution is simple: block her everywhere, block him everywhere and live your life. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Avvocatto Posted December 3, 2020 Author Share Posted December 3, 2020 @Acacia98 it'll look to her like she succeeded in hurting my feelings and she's victorious Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 4, 2020 Share Posted December 4, 2020 Turn off your phone and computer 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2020 Share Posted December 4, 2020 (edited) NC means you are disconnected on ALL platforms. Unfriend / unfollow but get off his social media stop interacting with this new GF. You shouldn't even know he has a new GF. She was wrong to throw it in your face. It will not look like she is victorious. This is not a zero sum game. YOU win bt living your life to the fullest. What happened when you met up again was also problematic. You said you kissed but he pissed you off & disrespected you. Still you pine for the fact that he didn't chase you. You should not kiss EXs. If you do, you should not continue kissing them if they upset you or disrespect you. The idea that you still wanted him after he did both is unfathomable. Fighting with somebody then being annoyed because they don't chase you is dysfunctional. You're s*** testing somebody by doing that & it's wrong. State your intentions & desires clearly but if you don't pouting because somebody can't read your mind is petulant & unfair. Edited December 4, 2020 by d0nnivain 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 4, 2020 Share Posted December 4, 2020 9 hours ago, Avvocatto said: this one girl friended me on facebook and messaged me that he is the new girlfriend. She knew I am the ex. So I spoke to her fine pretending its fine and whatsoever, I was so nice to her. May I ask why you even replied to her? Delete and block her. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 4, 2020 Share Posted December 4, 2020 The best path for healing for you is to get involved in your own life. Friends, family, career, interests, groups clubs and dating again. The number one thing to do is stop living in the periphery of his life. That means delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Once you close this chapter and stop monitoring him, you'll feel more in control. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Avvocatto Posted December 4, 2020 Author Share Posted December 4, 2020 I'd like to thank everyone for responding into this post. Meant a lot to me guys. I'll follow everyone's advise. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted December 4, 2020 Share Posted December 4, 2020 23 hours ago, Avvocatto said: @Acacia98 it'll look to her like she succeeded in hurting my feelings and she's victorious The problem with this frame of mind is that it hurts you. It leaves you open to being manipulated and hurt by her and him. Blocking closes the doors to them both. They'll have no idea what you're doing or feeling and they won't be able to influence your feelings or actions. I blocked an ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend ages ago when she started stalking me online and being obvious about it. I just wanted to be left in peace to get on with my life after he had dumped me in a cruel fashion. Blocking gave me the peace I wanted. I no longer knew what was going on between them. And I was able to heal since I wasn't seeing or thinking about either of them regularly. That kind of peace of mind is priceless. So if either of them thought they "won" when I blocked them, I genuinely don't care. 5 hours ago, Avvocatto said: I'd like to thank everyone for responding into this post. Meant a lot to me guys. I'll follow everyone's advise. You're welcome. I wish you the best. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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