Ladyfingers Posted December 5, 2020 Share Posted December 5, 2020 Do partners with PTSD come back after taking some space and time to focus on healing and their therapy related to PTSD? My ex and I went through having an abortion due to her fear of her parents opinion and catholic views of premarital sex and childreb out of wedlock. We had a great relationship until this happened after being together 6 years. I was supportive to wanting to keep our baby and stepping up in whatever way I could. She kept her decision despite all my support and I had to support her decision. She and I spent 6 months after this event having great moments and everything. But I would occasionally (tops 5 times) bring up going to a therapist to discuss what we went through and she would tell me she is not ready. Finally I asked one more time and she broke down and said we needed a break. During this break she called me and broke it off with me. It was hard because she told me many things about her PTSD that she NEVER shared before. She told me she needed to be in a healing space to find herself because she felt broken. She said that she connects me to the abortion because it was such a hard decision and is reminded about the whole time when she sees me. She asked me for no contact the day of the breakup because she wanted to work on herself and that in the future she hopes to be healed and we can talk about being friends then possibly moving back into a relationship. Has anyone else's significant other left them due to personal reasons, worked on themselves, then revisited the relationship? Has anyone known someone with PTSD to revisit a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 5, 2020 Share Posted December 5, 2020 It is possible to hold a relationship together through PTSD. Here unfortunately the specific cause of her PTSD -- the decision to terminate her pregnancy -- cannot be overcome. She will never forget. She will always feel bad. When she sees you she will be reminded over & over. She can't bear that. Since you mentioned she is Catholic, get her some information about Project Rachel. It's a Catholic group that ministers to women who have had abortions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladyfingers Posted December 6, 2020 Author Share Posted December 6, 2020 It just hurts so badly that her reasons were based on her fear of her parents opinion but then she pushes me away and connects me to it rather then them which she said was her reasoning. Almost like shifting the blame. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 6, 2020 Share Posted December 6, 2020 On 10/13/2020 at 9:50 PM, Ladyfingers said: I met my most recent ex 7 years ago. I developed PTSD and depression to the point of being suicidal. I found out I was pregnant. I , my parents and disowning him and how they viewed premarital sex.I blame him for my pain, and I believe my PTSD is a big factor in that. It's unclear if you or your BF is posting this. Either way there's too much resentment and distrust to ever go forward. In the meantime hopefully you are being treated by a physician for the moods/suicidal thoughts and getting therapy for the traumatic events. Link to post Share on other sites
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