Break up after 4 years. can someone support my situation!

[lee179108]

5 hours ago, datingnoob1234 said:

I apperciate your help and advice again.

You can tell me to jog on.. but did you not partly feel when you went looking for someone else you were just trying to patch up or 'get over' your ex. For me i'm still in that mindset, that she was the best i had. I know it's probably normal to feel like this. I'm glad you're clearly happy, i'm just trying to break down the mindset. 

It's been 3 months officially no contact now and with xmas n all.. i've just wanted to see or speak to her. But i've had to hold off so much, which has really really challenged me!

Hope you had a great christmas btw!

Yes thats exactly the reason i went looking.. a lot of people tell me im wrong to do it but im old enough to make my own decisions and learn from my own mistakes. I had dates, a few were terrible.. this girl im dating now its not perfect.. things are hot and cold sometimes but thats the dating life. Im putting faith in time... and hopefully something will click perfectly. Its been hard for me with my ex as weve had no contact for the same 3 or 4 months and this was my first xmas without her, i even wondered if she would reach out to say merry xmas but she didnt... so that shows she doesnt care one bit... so why should i care about her?   im a big believer in karma as well, she did me wrong so she will get paid back one day. Only way you can get over this is in time.. and to get with someone else who will be better. Not going to be easy and it will take time... theres no point in you speaking to her as that changes nothing. If she wanted to reach out to you then she would find a way.