Did or do HS sweethearts not realize there are other fish in the sea?

[QuietRiot]

3 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Did you ever have a long term, loving relationship at that age?   What stopped you from marrying her?

Nope, not at that age.

[basil67]

So how can you criticise something which you know nothing about?

I just saw two of my school friends who got together at 16 celebrating 30 years of marriage today.

[QuietRiot]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

So how can you criticise something which you know nothing about?

I just saw two of my school friends who got together at 16 celebrating 30 years of marriage today.

.Did they go to college?

[understand50]

OK,

The "urgency of getting married"  is explained  simply.   We could not keep our hands off each other,  and we wanted to move forward and have a marriage. We had to be together.   Marriage meant we could do more as a couple. Marriage meant our parents would get off our back, about living together.  Marriage meant the  Army would give an extra allotment, insurance, and of course married student housing.  Waiting was too just hard for us. We wanted kids early too.  Had them.  Looking back, I had more energy for them. 

One of the issues in life when trying to figure out society is to take your experience  and try to apply it to society as a whole.  Can't be done.  Everyone is so unique, that you must see, what you are, is a broad take on the whole. For everyone, who gets divorced from a early marriage, there are folks who remain married for life.  For those that marry later and stay together there is the group that is on marriage "what ever" and still can not seem to make it work.  I do not think age is an issue here, it is a state of mind.  You decide,  or being married,  is just part of your make up.  When two people meet and marry with the  same state of mind on the subject, they will stay together.  Does not matter what the ages are.

 

 

 

[Emilie Jolie]

Some people find their partner early in life, some take a few detours, some like the idea of only ever having had one partner their life, some can deal with a partner's sexual past, some like to stay single, some like online dating, some prefer meeting people irl, and everything in between. 

Ultimately, there is no script. Sometimes life gets in the way of your perfect ever after (sickness, accidents, etc.), and sometimes it all pans out as it should.

OP, if you want to stay single, you can. If you want to find a partner, you can. It's not because you haven't found the right person in HS that you are doomed to singledom forever; yes, it'll be trickier but nowadays people find their partners in all sorts of ways. Similarly, there is no obligation for you to be partnered if you prefer to stay single.

 

[basil67]

8 hours ago, QuietRiot said:

.Did they go to college?

I don't know their study path, but they both have professions. What has this question got to do with not playing the field for longer?