Psul101 Posted December 13, 2020 Share Posted December 13, 2020 I would love you insight into this. I was dating a woman for 4 weeks and then she broke up with me 2 weeks into December after our 4th date. We stayed as friends as I was ok with this but about this but we had a prearranged NYE group night planes and a mutual friend told me she still wanted to go. The evening was going well but on the stroke of 12 she kissed me (not just a friendly kiss) and again later on. She then let me walk her home and then as I was leaving she let me kiss her. This left me confused so about 3 weeks later I asked if she wanted to get back together and she no. A week later I was in my local and she came in with a group of her close friends and they told me she really liked me. I saw her 3 more times over this year once was meant to be a group evening that ended up being just the two of us, the next was valentines weekend and again a week or two later to just sit in at hers and watch some GOT but both times I had to convince her this was just as friends. Anyway by this time my feelings had grown and I felt I had to tell her this. She was very sympathetic and said she didn’t want to be the cause of any hurt so would keep her distance. Anyway with all this Coronavirus about and has she lives alone I broke the no contact rule with the intention of seeing if she was alright. During this conversation I made the mistake of trying to win her back. Her response was that she liked me and wished she felt the same but she didn’t think she ever would and that she knew her own mind. I tried using logic but could not shift her. I think she was getting tired of me because she said I wasn’t listening so I responded that she could not know what the future would bring but this was the end of the road for us, so I would say my good by and that it was nice to have met her and I wished her all the best. She didn’t respond to this message. A month later I realise I’d left some dvds at hers and asked if she could return them either passing than back to a mutual friend or passing them back to the same friend when she was back at work, she said no problem and that it would probably be when she was back at work. I then began to think if we was over why not just pass them back straight away to our mutual friend or ask me to collect them? Either way she still has them which isn’t a big problem as they are just dvds and can easily be replaced and I haven’t heard from her since. I recently saw her at my place of work a builders merchants near to where she lives, she was just driving out so we didn’t speak. What are your thoughts?? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 13, 2020 Share Posted December 13, 2020 (edited) This girl has told you "no" so many times. You need to stop, as you've made a nuisance of yourself. She is not interested and it was 4 dates a year ago, man. Yeah, there was a little drunken making out on NYE, but that's where it ended. You should have long moved on. Let a mutual friend collect the DVDs if you really want them, and stop all contact with her. Edited December 13, 2020 by ExpatInItaly 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Psul101 Posted December 13, 2020 Author Share Posted December 13, 2020 I haven’t contacted her since April so I’m not making a nuisance of my self thank you 😊 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted December 13, 2020 Share Posted December 13, 2020 She has told you in many ways, and many times, she is not interested. This woman has shut the door completely. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 13, 2020 Share Posted December 13, 2020 1 hour ago, Psul101 said: I was dating a woman for 4 weeks and then she broke up with me 2 weeks into December after our 4th date. What reasons did she provide to stop dating after 4 dates? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 13, 2020 Share Posted December 13, 2020 (edited) 24 minutes ago, Psul101 said: I haven’t contacted her since April so I’m not making a nuisance of my self thank you 😊 You certainly did make a nuisance of yourself prior to that. If you haven't had any contact since April, why are you still even thinking about this woman? It was done and over months ago. I don't mean to sound harsh, but this barely even qualifies as a "break-up" if it was only 4 dates a year ago. It was simply two people who met a few times and one of them decided not to continue. What's keeping you stuck? Edited December 13, 2020 by ExpatInItaly 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Psul101 Posted December 13, 2020 Author Share Posted December 13, 2020 30 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: What reasons did she provide to stop dating after 4 dates? She didn’t give any reason Link to post Share on other sites
Author Psul101 Posted December 13, 2020 Author Share Posted December 13, 2020 9 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: You certainly did make a nuisance of yourself prior to that. If you haven't had any contact since April, why are you still even thinking about this woman? It was done and over months ago. I don't mean to sound harsh, but this barely even qualifies as a "break-up" if it was only 4 dates a year ago. It was simply two people who met a few times and one of them decided not to continue. What's keeping you stuck? I haven’t given her any thought until i saw her the other day at work Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 13, 2020 Share Posted December 13, 2020 2 hours ago, Psul101 said: I haven’t given her any thought until i saw her the other day at work But seeing her once for the first time in ages triggered you to open a break-up thread about her. Are you hoping to hear that her still having your DVDs means something more? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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