Elzbelz Posted December 15, 2020 Share Posted December 15, 2020 Hey my name is Ellie , I’m 18 and I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 3 years , we’ve had a lot of ups and downs and we’ve been through a lot of hard stuff together however he has a tendency to receive images from other girls recently, his has happened more than one and he knows how much it’s hurt me when these things have happened , we don’t have sex very often due to various issues within my body that leave me in pain and tired and he seems to hold this against me and illudes that this may be why he has to cheat , I’ve always just kind of let him do this and stayed with him . I’ve recently met another boy and we haven’t known each other for long but I am starting to absolutely fall for him and he likes me a lot as well , we FaceTime and talk a lot , he works where I do so I wouldn’t be able to cut him off , I know it’s my fault and I shouldn’t have got so close to someone else whilst I have a boyfriend. This boy did like my friend previously and they were speaking for about a week . Deep down I think I want to be with this new boy but there’s so many factors stopping me , I don’t want to upset my friend and mostly I don’t know if I want to break up with my current boyfriend or not , I’m not happy but I don’t think I could possibly break up with him because I’m just so used to being with him and I really don’t want to hurt him because he has made me happy , I don’t even know what I’d say to him , I know my parents and his parents would be so annoyed with me for breaking up with him . Am I an awful person ? I really don’t know what to do please please help . Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 15, 2020 Share Posted December 15, 2020 23 minutes ago, Elzbelz said: Am I an awful person ? I really don’t know what to do please please help . Yes you’re an awful person Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 15, 2020 Share Posted December 15, 2020 24 minutes ago, Elzbelz said: we don’t have sex very often due to various issues within my body that leave me in pain and tired and he seems to hold this against me. he seems to hold this against me and illudes that this may be why he has to cheat Break up with your BF, not because you're talking to a nicer guy, but because your BF disrespects you and blames you for his poor treatment of you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 15, 2020 Share Posted December 15, 2020 Yes, definitely break up with your boyfriend and see a doctor about your gyno problems to find out what is going on. It's not normal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 15, 2020 Share Posted December 15, 2020 3 hours ago, Elzbelz said: Am I an awful person ? I really don’t know what to do please please help . No you are not an awful person. You are eighteen, emphasis on teen. You are growing & maturing into an adult. Things are supposed to change in your life. Right now your BF is all you know, but he's not all there is. You starting to have feelings for this other boy is great evidence that your romance with your BF has run it's course. He's got sowing wild oats in the back of his mind too which is why there are all the pictures of the other girls popping up. Break up with the BF & set yourself up to be available to the other guy. Meanwhile go to the doctor to see about any possible medical issues with your body that leave you in pain. It's probably fixable with the right professional advice. 2 hours ago, alphamale said: Yes you’re an awful person Don't listen to @alphamale You don't know his sense of humor; he's being sarcastic. Bad, alpha, do not tease the vulnerable teenager. 👎 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted December 15, 2020 Share Posted December 15, 2020 (edited) You’re not an awful person for breaking up with someone no matter how bad they make you feel about it. If you don’t want to be with someone, you don’t want to be with someone. No one should make you feel guilty about that Edited December 15, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 15, 2020 Share Posted December 15, 2020 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: Don't listen to @alphamale You don't know his sense of humor; he's being sarcastic. Bad, alpha, do not tease the vulnerable teenager. 👎 Sorry 😞 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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