How listing hobbies/activities can not be a good thing online dating

[trident_2020]

On 12/28/2020 at 7:16 AM, QuietRiot said:

Yeah, I guess so..but...should the woman have given him some slack on that (educate him) instead of just walking off?

Oh please. That remark was indefensible.

She should have slapped him in the face.

[QuietRiot]

7 hours ago, SumGuy said:

Agreed, and depending on where she lives may not be limiting at all.  Know at least two single guys in her age range who would love to meet her.  They are avid mountain bikers and always complain how most women are have no interest or cannot come close to keeping up.   I too see this women as self aware and confident, and not hungry for just anyone.  I also suspect she is in great shape, and really doubt she is hurting for OLD attention, likely she needs to really filter to get messages down to a reasonable number...and prevent the 70 year old men who somehow think they have a chance just because she is mid-50s.

Interestingly enough, there's an avid, fit trailbiker that does her thing on the trails here. She had been single a while, but one day I saw "engaged" on her profile. She's toned and fit for someone in her 40s (esp for these parts), and him...well, let's just say he's got a keg gut, so I was surprised as she tends to post daily her early morning selfie workouts where as him, he is a couch potato..so...go figure.  

[basil67]

1 minute ago, QuietRiot said:

Interestingly enough, there's an avid, fit trailbiker that does her thing on the trails here. She had been single a while, but one day I saw "engaged" on her profile. She's toned and fit for someone in her 40s (esp for these parts), and him...well, let's just say he's got a keg gut, so I was surprised as she tends to post daily her early morning selfie workouts where as him, he is a couch potato..so...go figure.  

It's not weird to me.   Hubby and I have very little in common when it comes to hobbies and interests.  As for exercise, he enjoys it and I don't. 

[SumGuy]

15 hours ago, QuietRiot said:

Interestingly enough, there's an avid, fit trailbiker that does her thing on the trails here. She had been single a while, but one day I saw "engaged" on her profile. She's toned and fit for someone in her 40s (esp for these parts), and him...well, let's just say he's got a keg gut, so I was surprised as she tends to post daily her early morning selfie workouts where as him, he is a couch potato..so...go figure.  

Yep to each their own, perhaps this is  why the other woman was explicit they need to be into trail riding as well.  That's just a core of her life and perhaps she has had too many experiences where it didn't work out with guys who were not into it, e.g., not understanding her making time to trail bike a priority.

[QuietRiot]

2 hours ago, SumGuy said:

Yep to each their own, perhaps this is  why the other woman was explicit they need to be into trail riding as well.  That's just a core of her life and perhaps she has had too many experiences where it didn't work out with guys who were not into it, e.g., not understanding her making time to trail bike a priority.

I guess, to some it doesn't matter one iota. I recall getting to a message conversation though, where a good majority chimed in that having things in common, specifically hobbies, would make for a boring relationship and some considered it a dealbreaker if someone was into the same things.

I was like "Really?!" lol

I never heard of how someone thought having the same interests be a con, and not a pro.

 

Though, message boards tend to have people that are arguing for the sake of arguing, because I know if I asked say...a person in real life if they'd date an outdoor enthusiast...just as they were one, they'd givean emphatic yes.

I just NEVER heard of common interests being a dealbreaker.