joel Posted December 22, 2020 Share Posted December 22, 2020 whats your advice on 42 year old who has a gf for 9 years but his mom loves getting into his relationship affairs. mom wants a daughter in law who can cook clean like typical tradional chinese housewife and also hold a full time job. pretty much if comes into the family shes going give off a lot of value to us. she'll come visit me on my b day but mom would nick pick and say yea she bought the cake but when mom cuts the slice the g picks the biggest slice. mom sees that as greedy girl. mom doesnt like fact she comes to our house and doesnt help out in the kitchen and cook and clean while she watches. mom wants her to take the role the house wife since mom is getting old. but how about she came 30 min to my house and bought the cake and gave me a gift. most girls i met in my life didnt even give me a text of happy b day mind you that take only 30 secs. my co worker said most girls dont like guys who still lving at home and want get married and still live with their mom/ dad. got get your own place on your own terms and conditons . your at the mercy of nobody. lol if she was greedy she wouldnt be dating a guy that works retail and takes public transit yea. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 22, 2020 Share Posted December 22, 2020 Until you stop her, your mom will run -- and ruin -- your life. Your GF sounds fine. Your mother is living in another century. Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted December 23, 2020 Share Posted December 23, 2020 Why do you still live at home? I think once you get your own place, or at least a place with roommates, your life will be more independent. As long as you live at home, you live by your parents' rules, no matter how old you are. Your mom will be overbearing in your love life, as long as you live at home. You need to move out. Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted December 23, 2020 Share Posted December 23, 2020 In alot of cultures its usual to move out of the family home before marriage. I think alot of men don't value what thier mothers see and a woman not a good fit. There is a difference between a mother try to control and one looking out for their best interests. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted December 23, 2020 Share Posted December 23, 2020 Why are you expecting to act like your wife when she isn’t your wife? That said, are you looking for a wife or a servant? Not many women are going to agree to serve both you, and your mother. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 23, 2020 Share Posted December 23, 2020 Well you already know living at home as a middle aged man is never going to work with your dating life . So you already know the answer to your questions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pumaza Posted December 23, 2020 Share Posted December 23, 2020 STL LIVING AT HOME??? Well as much as mom may be wrong at some level.... you cant blame her much since you still living with her. That send a sign that you still her little boy. And ddnt grow up.So she still feel she needs to baby you. What about you clean your own mess.Instead of seek the next woman to replace the cleaning your mom is doing? You sound like you enjoy the fight between them. Cause its about you... But no girl will stay and take that for ever. If you want to be adult you need to take adult steps. Not for your gf. But for yourself.It will help you in many ways, Also to mature, when you get your own place! Women wants security.A man that can provide and that shows those skills. Most women dont wants a mommma boy or a man that lives at home.It makes them feel like he cant provide for them atall and not grownup still.And that he wont make a stable home if they marry him.Cause he never runned his own home.Finance and so on.It makes them worried day one. You need to draw the line with your mom. Let her know you apreciate her but chosing a partner is your responsability. But as long you in her house, she can do as she please.lol So best and most logical thing tondo at 42 is to get your own place. It will give you so much peace of mind and boost. Link to post Share on other sites
Pumaza Posted December 23, 2020 Share Posted December 23, 2020 6 hours ago, BaileyB said: Why are you expecting to act like your wife when she isn’t your wife? That said, are you looking for a wife or a servant? Not many women are going to agree to serve both you, and your mother. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Link to post Share on other sites
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