The guy I'm seeing stole my neighbors package and admitted to it. Two weeks later

[ThreatYouR]

I’ve been seeing a guy for almost two months. Everything has been going great. 

I live in a duplex house and my neighbor smokes weed. It doesn’t bother me because he doesn’t bother me or cause me trouble. 

The last time i saw the guy I’m dating was two weeks i left him in my house because i had went to get us breakfast. Once i got back we ate and he left. 

Last Monday my neighbors were knocking at my door and asked had i seen a package because it says it was delivered but it wasn’t near their door or anything. And wondered if i signed for it or saw anything and i said “no” 

So yesterday i texted him and asked him why hasn’t he been over to my house. And he told me he had something to tell me. That’s when he said (the mailman accidentally delivered a package to my door two weeks ago and it was the neighbors but he took instead of dropping it off at my neighbors door) 

Then i asked him why did he take it and what was in the package and he said “it was contraband and my bills are backed up. So i took the weed and sold some of it myself and i haven’t been over because i sell weed on the side so i know what comes with it and i don’t want to put you in that situation”

TL:DR; the guy I’m seeing stole my neighbors package that had drugs in it

[stillafool]

OMG!  This guy could get your head blown off.  Does he realize the position he has put you in?  Your drug dealer neighbor may think you are in on this too and he's selling the drugs while you get half the money.  This is not good.  Not good at all.

[ThreatYouR]

3 minutes ago, stillafool said:

OMG!  This guy could get your head blown off.  Does he realize the position he has put you in?  Your drug dealer neighbor may think you are in on this too and he's selling the drugs while you get half the money.  This is not good.  Not good at all.

He told me he wasn’t going to come over anymore because he doesn’t want to put imma in a bad situation.... like. You already put me in a bad situation 

[trident_2020]

Your 2 month boyfriend is a lying, stealing broke drug dealing weed smoker.

Sounds like a keeper.

[Miss Spider]

What’s the question here? How to dump this guy who steals your mail? 

Edited December 23, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[Alvi]

This sounds like some sort of B-rated movie. Seriously, where did you find such a "winner?" Block his number, block him from everywhere. Don't date him anymore. He is not a good human being. Hey, maybe  notify the police about what has transpired. 

[Ruby Slippers]

This guy is a Loser with a capital L. I'd never have anything to do with him again.

Also, I had no idea you could send weed through the mail. Ya learn something new every day.

[trident_2020]

1 minute ago, Ruby Slippers said:

 I had no idea you could send weed through the mail

I was wondering about that myself, makes me wonder about other things.

 

[Watercolors]

1 hour ago, ThreatYouR said:

TL:DR; the guy I’m seeing stole my neighbors package that had drugs in it

You literally could put your boyfriend in jail if you fill out a police report with that information. I think you should. He's a loser. So is your neighbor.

At 2 months, it's time to breakup with him. You're on his "friends" aka drug dealers radar now. You're pretty much screwed as they know where you live and will go after you as retaliation if your stupid boyfriend screws over any clients or other drug dealers. If you tell your neighbor that you know who stole his weed, you're an accomplice. So you are royally screwed here.

[basil67]

8 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said:

Also, I had no idea you could send weed through the mail. Ya learn something new every day.

The post doesn't say who delivered the package....

[Watercolors]

6 minutes ago, trident_2020 said:

I was wondering about that myself, makes me wonder about other things.

 

My uncle was a mailman. The way people smuggle drugs into the U.S. is pretty heinous. If you dig deep enough, you can find some pretty outrageous stories online. People are horrible.

[Ruby Slippers]

2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

The post doesn't say who delivered the package....

Well, her neighbor claims "it says it was delivered" and asked if she "signed for it," so that sounds like a delivery through the USPS, UPS, FedEx, or another official carrier. That's pretty ballsy to send illegal drugs through an official carrier. I imagine the penalties would be pretty steep if they were caught doing that. 

[Watercolors]

1 minute ago, Ruby Slippers said:

Well, her neighbor claims "it says it was delivered" and asked if she "signed for it," so that sounds like a delivery through the USPS, UPS, FedEx, or another official carrier. That's pretty ballsy to send illegal drugs through an official carrier. I imagine the penalties would be pretty steep if they were caught doing that. 

Yes. A prison sentence is the result. And the OP is an accomplice already, since her boyfriend signed for the neighbor's package at HER residence, then stole it. So, legally, she's going to prison along with her boyfriend and her neighbor if she fills out a police report or tells her neighbor that her boyfriend stole her neighbor's weed. All three of them are in legal trouble now.

OP, why would you stay with a lowlife who put you in this precarious situation. The sex can't be the reason.

[lana-banana]

16 minutes ago, Watercolors said:

Yes. A prison sentence is the result. And the OP is an accomplice already, since her boyfriend signed for the neighbor's package at HER residence, then stole it. So, legally, she's going to prison along with her boyfriend and her neighbor if she fills out a police report or tells her neighbor that her boyfriend stole her neighbor's weed. All three of them are in legal trouble now.

OP, why would you stay with a lowlife who put you in this precarious situation. The sex can't be the reason.

This is not correct. It would be impossible to prove the OP is in any way legally culpable since it's not her name on the package, she didn't sign for the package, didn't open the package, and didn't know anything about the package contents at the time (and you couldn't prove that she did). And given that the package was delivered without the authorities ever knowing, the chances of any legal consequences from this action specifically are basically zero. If OP went to the police tomorrow and told them the whole story she wouldn't get so much as a fine. I would recommend the OP go to the police if she felt it was safe to do so.

As everyone has pointed out, this has put you in a very bad position and I don't believe he was trying to "protect you", either. I think it is unlikely that your neighbor would do anything violent---most low-level drug dealers are low-income people with a side hustle, not kingpins---but A) you don't know that for a fact and B) at the very least he's probably going to demand restitution for what was taken. It is up to your should-be-ex-boyfriend to take care of this. Your options are demanding your needs-to-be-an-ex-boyfriend do it himself, or telling your neighbor directly. The most important part is extricating yourself immediately. Do you have friends or family you can stay with? Is breaking your lease an option?

It seems very strange to me that your really-REALLY-should-be-ex-boyfriend stole something that was obviously not his. It wasn't even yours. Why? How did he know it would contain weed? Is he aware of your neighbor's business, or is this some kind of turf war? This is where my concern is: I suspect your imminent ex-boyfriend is more involved in this than he's letting on.

Edited December 23, 2020 by lana-banana

[Watercolors]

5 minutes ago, lana-banana said:

How did he know it would contain weed?

He knew. There's no doubt in my mind that he knew.

[stillafool]

3 hours ago, ThreatYouR said:

He told me he wasn’t going to come over anymore because he doesn’t want to put imma in a bad situation.... like. You already put me in a bad situation 

I hope you know where he lives so when your neighbor's gang come ramshackling your apartment looking for their drugs you can point them in his direction.

[ThreatYouR]

2 hours ago, Watercolors said:

He knew. There's no doubt in my mind that he knew.

Yeah he knew. He told me he’s dealt drugs before so the box was familiar 

[ThreatYouR]

2 hours ago, lana-banana said:

This is not correct. It would be impossible to prove the OP is in any way legally culpable since it's not her name on the package, she didn't sign for the package, didn't open the package, and didn't know anything about the package contents at the time (and you couldn't prove that she did). And given that the package was delivered without the authorities ever knowing, the chances of any legal consequences from this action specifically are basically zero. If OP went to the police tomorrow and told them the whole story she wouldn't get so much as a fine. I would recommend the OP go to the police if she felt it was safe to do so.

As everyone has pointed out, this has put you in a very bad position and I don't believe he was trying to "protect you", either. I think it is unlikely that your neighbor would do anything violent---most low-level drug dealers are low-income people with a side hustle, not kingpins---but A) you don't know that for a fact and B) at the very least he's probably going to demand restitution for what was taken. It is up to your should-be-ex-boyfriend to take care of this. Your options are demanding your needs-to-be-an-ex-boyfriend do it himself, or telling your neighbor directly. The most important part is extricating yourself immediately. Do you have friends or family you can stay with? Is breaking your lease an option?

It seems very strange to me that your really-REALLY-should-be-ex-boyfriend stole something that was obviously not his. It wasn't even yours. Why? How did he know it would contain weed? Is he aware of your neighbor's business, or is this some kind of turf war? This is where my concern is: I suspect your imminent ex-boyfriend is more involved in this than he's letting on.

He’s dealt drugs before so he told me the box looked familiar he knew what it was 

[Watercolors]

Just now, ThreatYouR said:

Yeah he knew. He told me he’s dealt drugs before so the box was familiar 

So why did you hook up with this guy? Are you still going to date him after all of this?

[Ellener]

3 hours ago, ThreatYouR said:

i sell weed on the side so i know what comes with it and i don’t want to put you in that situation

I don't think you need to get any further involved in that than don't invite him over again. Personally I would not report him ( or the neighbour by default ) to the police. I don't have strong feelings about drug use, but it's not a great reaction to someone else's package to impulsively take it. 

That said, there's going to be a lot of theft and petty criminal activity in the US in 2021...nobody is listening but literally millions of people are on the verge of homeless-proceedings and eating at soup kitchens and food banks. When people get desperate they do all kinds of things.

It's not a good time to be dating in general, I'd take it slower, you'll be getting a lodger you barely know at this rate! 

 

 

[Saracena]

Am I the only one who's surprised he actually admitted stealing the package?

I'm also wondering why he did this?

Edited December 24, 2020 by Saracena

[Miss Spider]

The box looked “familiar“? Not sure what that means. A shipping box is a shipping box until it is opened? Do they all put a gold star in the corner when it is a box for weed? Why would they even do that.  What’s he doing snooping around your mail  anyway. Why he would admit to it is puzzling too.

 I don’t know how often it would happen, because there are just way easier ways to get weed. However, it wouldn’t be hard to drop a box off at the post office through the package chute and leave a return address off of it. Even weed that get stopped at customs office just get thrown out. They don’t go through and get fingerprints or anything. Weed is just not that big of a priority to them. It’s in the process of being legalized all over the place anyway

Edited December 24, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[ThreatYouR]

2 hours ago, Saracena said:

Am I the only one who's surprised he actually admitted stealing the package?

I'm also wondering why he did this?

Basically i asked him why hasn’t he been around and that’s when he told me what he did 

[Saracena]

25 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

The box looked “familiar“? Not sure what that means. A shipping box is a shipping box until it is opened? Do they all put a gold star in the corner when it is a box for weed? Why would they even do that.  What’s he doing snooping around your mail  anyway. Why he would admit to it is puzzling too.

 

The 'familiar' box just doesn't sound plausible at all. Dealers wouldn't, in a million years, wish to make it that obvious, for one thing.

In fact, I'm leaning towards the whole thing (such a strange admission to make, after all) being an excuse for his ghosting, not calling over any more. (Even if it is true, I would doubt the package contained weed at all, but something more expensive)

Edited December 24, 2020 by Saracena

[Saracena]

4 minutes ago, Saracena said:

The 'familiar' box just doesn't sound plausible at all. Dealers wouldn't, in a million years, wish to make it that obvious, for one thing.

In fact, I'm leaning towards the whole thing (such a strange admission to make, after all) being an excuse for his ghosting, not calling over any more. (Even if it is true, I would doubt the package contained weed at all, but perhaps something more valuable)