Wiseman2 Posted December 28, 2020 Share Posted December 28, 2020 Sorry this happened. Until your custody hearing, unfortunately, as their mother she can do this no matter how illogical it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokendad Posted January 25, 2021 Author Share Posted January 25, 2021 Hello! I'm not sure if anybody remembers this thread/my situation, but for those that do, I had my hearing at court (well over the phone due to covid) today. Unfortunately I'm currently suffering with covid, and due to being classed as clinically extremely vulnerable I seem to be suffering quite badly with it, so I was only able to listen to the case and couldn't speak (I'm coughing constantly). It soon became clear that my ex has been making up all sorts of lies about me, which were very upsetting to me. When asked why I'm not allowed to know my children's address when they are with her, her solicitor said that because she feels threatened by me, and that she thinks I am a violent drunk (I've never touched anybody and don't drink, other than the odd beer at Christmas etc!). My solicitor has since told me to not even worry about her saying these, as if that was true she wouldn't still be letting me have the girls each weekend, which have been happening recently. Because my ex and I are so far apart from what we both think is the correct amount of access, it has got to go to a second hearing, where it is a longer hearing and I and my ex will be more involved in answering questions and reading out statements etc. I know that my ex gets very nervous and shy when it comes to any kind of public speaking, so will be interesting to see how she copes. She has also stated my diabetes is a factor into why I shouldn't have the children, but I (and my solicitor) have a letter from my doctor and diabetes health team to say that there is no reason why my health should have any impact on my parenting. The best thing (for now) is that, although I don't think she meant to agree too it, but I'm going to be having the girls every weekend up until the next case, which is great. So a bit of a frustrating day on one hand, but on the other quite successful, so I'm not too sure how I now feel (other than absolutely awful with covid!!) Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 Hope you recover and feel better soon. Unfortunately, seems like she's using every cheap custody trick in the book. Don't despair the unfounded allegations will work against her. They may have to visit/interview both of your households to determine the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokendad Posted January 26, 2021 Author Share Posted January 26, 2021 15 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Hope you recover and feel better soon. Unfortunately, seems like she's using every cheap custody trick in the book. Don't despair the unfounded allegations will work against her. They may have to visit/interview both of your households to determine the truth. I'm not too sure if they will or not, as during yesterday's hearing the magistrate kept saying that he doesn't care about what has gone on in the past and that it's just the future that he's focussed on. So I think he's just basically swept her allegations under the carpet. I feel really strange though, as she has obviously really messed me around the last few months and her new partner has threatened me etc but I still have that weird, jealous feeling about the two of them being together. Especially with valentine's coming up, I just keep thinking that it should be me and my wife having valentine's together (even though for the last two it was just me who even bothered buying gifts etc!) But knowing this year that the two of those will be... Celebrating (we all know what I mean by that!) The day really hurts for some reason Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted January 27, 2021 Share Posted January 27, 2021 On 1/26/2021 at 5:42 AM, Brokendad said: I just keep thinking that it should be me and my wife having valentine's together From what she's been saying/doing it seems you are better off without her. Diabetes? Good gracious, she is obnoxious, I hope the lawyer who is encouraging her gets what he deserves too... Hope you feel better soon. Link to post Share on other sites
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