niadoodev Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 So a while ago a young man was trying pretty hard to get to know me and impress me. I wasn't really looking for a relationship or anything and the fact it would have to be long distance made me assume it would never work. He still chased and pursued- almost to a point where he gave up but I believe he had peaked my interest by then and I gave him a chance. We became really close, it was a pretty good bond I felt like we could openly share anything even the dark scary topics. We also worked on communication and even when we had arguments we could sort thru them pretty quickly. He was a great guy all around, kind to me and empathetic, responsible and mature. Or so I thought. Recently ive been feeling like he's not giving me enough. He does text me everyday and want selfies and cute things like that, but I dont think it progressed beyond that. I am grown and id like him to pick up the phone and call me or somehow spend time with me. He would occasionally try but he couldn't make it a habit. Finally I got tired of this and I decided to get the answer as to why instead of an uphill slope with a relationship in mind, it seems like were just stagnant. He eventually came clean he is having trouble realizing if im the one, even though before he said I was different from other women and as close to a wife material as he has met. Furthermore, he broke things off with an ex (and first love) who wasn't ready to give herself to him a while ago, but he kept a back door open and now hes saying that he has to be sure that doors closed before choosing someone else. Previous to this convo he would say he was over her and that many things kept them from working out, so I am really struggling to figure out why his mentality has changed. I told him to not contact me again, but its really painful for me I really thought we had a chance. Am I silly or childish for thinking this? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 It sounds like his ex has asked for another chance and he’s exploring that. I would let him go. He’s on his way out anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted December 26, 2020 Share Posted December 26, 2020 beware of long distance relationships. I know there are exceptions but for the most part normal healthy men pursue relationships with women that they can see on a regular basis in real life. Women who they can take out,. sleep with, have sex with. Men who pursue women who are long distance are often not really available or they are not relationship material Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 27, 2020 Share Posted December 27, 2020 Just courious. You posted this under "other woman". Is he married or in another relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
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