I need to get it off my chest

[Tinks89]

I’m going to end it with my long distance partner, I can’t cope anymore with how he is and I just need to spill it all to get it off my chest - I hope you don’t mind taking the time to read this. 
 

we got together January 2020 and the first few months were amazing. Lots of time spent together, adventures and dates, a city break. Then 3 months in I found out he had lied to me about having 2 children back home (Canada) with his ex. If we had told me this when we met as I had asked if he had kids, it wouldn’t have been an issue. But the fact he kept this from me and lied for 3 months really hurt. If he lied about this, what else was he lying about? We had a long conversation about it and it made my feelings known that I was hurt and disrespected for the lies. Come May he had to fly home due to the virus and to see family. While he was out there I discovered he had more than likely fathered a child with a fling before me, but didn’t tell me this either. I found out on social media. He said the women had tried to trap him and he didn’t want a part of it. Because we were long distance and I missed him terribly I let it slide and told him when he was back we needed to talk. I also found out he was using dating apps and flirting on Instagram (were both early 30’s btw). 
 

He came back in September for my birthday after 4 months of being apart. We had a huge row on my birthday as he said he was too afraid to take the train due to covid and insisted I drive (on my bday when I wanted to drink). We had a fight and he slapped me. I was absolutely gobsmacked. Since this time he’s pulled my hair, hit me once because I called him stupid for leaving my car key in the ignition and left the car UNATTENDED, punched me in the stomach because I called his babymother/ex a b****. I’ve retaliated too but he’s hurt me physically more than 5 times. 
 

He’s got many issues but I’ve said to him many times I will HELP him, it this stupid cowardly behaviour needs to stop. Apparently I ‘deserve’ a slap sometimes because my mouth is too big and I don’t know when I shut up. If I hit him back I’m the worlds worst person. He was using a dating app again whilst visiting me here. He didn’t hook up with anyone but I found that disgusting. He went back home in November. 
 

today was the final straw. We were on FaceTime and I was telling him a story where a few days ago someone took my Facebook pictures and made a fake dating profile page with my pics. I was alerted to this by a guy inboxing me to give me the heads up, as the person who took the photos failed to xrop my Facebook name out. My partner took this as me flirting with that guy who let me know (who I have no idea who he is) and said I’m disgusting and disrespectful for even engaging in conversation. I tried to tell him that he was simply letting me know and I asked him where he found this, but I’m a hoe, a bitvh and I need to die. Bare in mind my partner is 34. 
 

sorry this is long, needed to get it off my chest but I’m dumping my partner and moving the f*** on 

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Tinks89 said:

I’m dumping my partner and moving on 

Best decision you can make. Block and delete him and all his people from all your social media and messaging apps.

[Datergirl]

I'm so glad to hear you are dumping your partner. Nobody should resort to violence in an argument. I mean, what if both parties are violent? Where does it stop? 

The fact that he is long distance should make it easier for you to move on. My ex lives 2 streets away. He moved here because of me. Everything reminds me of him. 

In hindsight, do you think you would have left the relationship after you found out he lied about having 2 children back home? Or when he first slapped you? 

I left my ex the day he put his hands around my neck, as I tried to get him off me h3 punched me in the face. F*** him.