Why is OK to called out a woman or insult that they don't want to date men with children?

[Candacesims]

I was asking a question about online dating that now on Reddit I get match with men with children. I do not want to date men with children, or they will be to report. same with married men and men with uncompleted. they all were calling me out for it not cool to be that rude, but they were rude to me first and also get an insult by a stupid ass trolls what the hell is wrong with people these days , this will get report if they do stuff like this in the past. yet it fine if men don't want to date women that have children.

Edited December 31, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Happy Lemming]

Dating any person who has children from a previous relationship is very difficult.  The dater always plays "second fiddle" to the kids, the dater is never a priority and the dater's opinion is always "wrong" when the kids are disrespectful or unruly.

That is rule #1 in my book - no kids.  Let the single moms date the single dads. 

For the record, I did make the mistake of dating a single mom (once) The relationship was brief and I learned my lesson, never again!

Ignore other people's opinions.  Make up your rule list and follow it!!

 

[hotpotato]

Just curious, did you report the guys with kids who messaged you? Im a bit confused.

I do understand why you don't want to date a man with kids. Im in the same boat. Maybe one kid would be fine, but many guys my age have a brood of children. I don't like that for many of the same reasons men dont like to date women with children.

• if you want to take a nice trip without the kids (who are not yours), you are the bad guy
• sexy, flirty time becomes family time bc he had kids with someone else
• hard to be spontaneous
• if children are minors, baby momma has to be in the picture one way or another

I dated a man with an adult child, and many of the same things applied. Also, if they are older kids, parents and children may be especially enmeshed. You will always be the thrid wheel, or depending on how many kids they have, even lower on the totem pole than that. I get 100% now why a lot of men dont want to date a woman with kids.

[Candacesims]

15 minutes ago, hotpotato said:

Just curious, did you report the guys with kids who messaged you? Im a bit confused.

I do understand why you don't want to date a man with kids. Im in the same boat. Maybe one kid would be fine, but many guys my age have a brood of children. I don't like that for many of the same reasons men dont like to date women with children.

• if you want to take a nice trip without the kids (who are not yours), you are the bad guy
• sexy, flirty time becomes family time bc he had kids with someone else
• hard to be spontaneous
• if children are minors, baby momma has to be in the picture one way or another

I dated a man with an adult child, and many of the same things applied. Also, if they are older kids, parents and children may be especially enmeshed. You will always be the thrid wheel, or depending on how many kids they have, even lower on the totem pole than that. I get 100% now why a lot of men dont want to date a woman with kids.

I sometime I do since I haven't had any luck with online dating so far .  I am women that tons of match that not my age range . the first dating was abled love still have the same type of men . then tried ,plenty of fish,match.com,bumble and now tinder . that I can unmatch men that just want to sex . if did match before hand . I don't want to deal with baby mama drama with men that already had children . 

[neowulf]

It's not "ok" for people to go around insulting other people, for whatever reason. 

In the end, you're entitled to have whatever standards you want in the world of dating.

If you don't want to date men with children, then that's it.  Full stop.  End of conversation.

If other people can't deal with that?  Well that's their issue and not something you should take personally (if you can help it).