QuietRiot Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 (edited) Met this woman via a local singles group. We were chatting and she said she's been single for a good while. She said she's likely to be single for a good long while, as it's difficult for her to find someone that shares her world views. She insists on finding a vegan, and I said "Would you settle for a vegetarian? LOL" and she goes, "LOL, it's a start I suppose" But she elaborated that she's vegan not because of eating healthy, because it's an ethical thing for her. And I said, personally, I haven't known too many male vegans as it's mostly (I thought) something you'd find women doing, and not men. She said she's had met her share of vegan men, but...there's always been no chemistry. Now would you say someone who won't settle for less than vegan is really limiting his or herself? She even acknowledges this and...is quite fine with it. I did a random Google search on this, and saw a post on Reddit about an early 30s woman that turned Vegan and is having a seriously difficult time finding someone. Edited January 1, 2021 by QuietRiot Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 I wouldn't say anything to her. As some random stranger my views on how she should live her life won't change her world view, nor should they. FWIW, I think you are right QuietRiot. She's limiting herself but she has to figure that out for herself. If she can't compromise to even vegetarianism. that's on her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author QuietRiot Posted January 1, 2021 Author Share Posted January 1, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: I wouldn't say anything to her. As some random stranger my views on how she should live her life won't change her world view, nor should they. FWIW, I think you are right QuietRiot. She's limiting herself but she has to figure that out for herself. If she can't compromise to even vegetarianism. that's on her. Right, my next question would be to a vegan would be "Are you doing it to stay healthy, or is does it go beyond that (the ethical)" If it's the latter, then that's a whole other thread. Like in one of the posts, this vegan moved to a town that is mostly homesteaders, hunting/fishing types. This person feels seriously out of place. Edited January 1, 2021 by QuietRiot Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 She already answered that Q. She told you it was the ethics. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author QuietRiot Posted January 1, 2021 Author Share Posted January 1, 2021 (edited) ...hm...upon further examination...it seems the testimonial of a vegan is...."...towards the end of my relationship/engagement...I turned vegan"....which implies that turning vegan may have been a cataslyst for them ending the relationship they were currently in. Imagine throwing it all away because you turned vegan? Or was there more to it than that? Edited January 1, 2021 by QuietRiot Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 I do eat vegan maybe three to four days a week, I would not be regimental though- I think that makes it difficult in relationships I always enjoyed going on dates with women who liked alternative health therapies or were trying vegan diets and so on, common interests a good starting point although not necessarily a guarantee of attraction. maybe some perspective daters dismiss people too quickly over things such as veganism, they should be more open minded. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 There are a few reasons to be vegan, but if it’s ethics, then really they should date people with similar core values. The percentage of people that hold those same values is small, so yes it’s limiting. But if they’re going to feel disdain for a partner who doesn’t hold the same ethics, better that they wait for somebody that does. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 (edited) 5 hours ago, QuietRiot said: Now would you say someone who won't settle for less than vegan is really limiting his or herself? She even acknowledges this and...is quite fine with it. As long as she's conscious of the consequences of her choice and she's able to live with them, there's no problem. I don't think she's much different from, say, a religious or ethnic minority trying to date members of the majority religion or ethnicity, encountering challenges, and deciding to stick to dating people of their religion or ethnicity. Having broad criteria isn't always all it's cut out to be in the dating world, especially if you're not a member of the mainstream and your goal is to find a compatible life partner. Edited January 1, 2021 by Acacia98 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 5 hours ago, QuietRiot said: Imagine throwing it all away because you turned vegan? If someone feels very strongly about something ethically they need to follow through with it to be true to themselves. We all have things which are important to us which may not seem at all important to others. But it's not exactly 'throwing it all away' being single! Or waiting for a compatible partner who shares your fundamental ideas. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 Well expecting a vegan partner by definition does limit your dating pool... but so does adhering strongly to a religion, having strong political views, being a teetotaler, not being a teetotaler, being gay, trans, the list goes on. But many of those people still end up in fulfilling relationships - because they meet people who share their views and outlook on life. My point is that you shouldn't need to compromise too heavily on such things if it's based on your core beliefs. Widening your dating pool may give you a better chance of meeting someone, but you run the risk of them being incompatible in some way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 Personality, I don't care what anyone else chooses to eat, whether it's for religious, health or any other reasons. What does matter to me is that someone shares my ethos of live and let live. This means staying in one's own lane and respecting the rights and feelings of others without debating and seeking to convert anyone. Therefore a particular diet, whatever it is wouldn't be an issue. What would be an issue is someone on a crusade or with extreme or militant views, as that is incompatible with my ethos. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 (edited) lt certainly wouldn't do her any favors . Veganism is a very big thing if they're serious about it, it's on a whole nother plain of it's own . My ex was serious Vegan and it's certainly not a lifestyle that would suit too many guys l know , none in fact , me included, they might get through it for a yr or two butttt. Thing is too yeah there's male vegans around but what about the rest of the package , pretty hard boots to fill imo. She's been single for yrs, yet not only is she very special person she's gorgeous too. Edited January 2, 2021 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
Monty4321 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 8 hours ago, Ellener said: But it's not exactly 'throwing it all away' being single! Or waiting for a compatible partner who shares your fundamental ideas. Throwing it all away is exactly what she did. And that's weird. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 What do you say to someone who is perfectly fine with her choices, isn't hurting anyone and hasn't asked for your opinion? NOTHING. It's a perfect example of when to mind your own business. 7 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Atwood Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 (edited) 22 hours ago, QuietRiot said: She even acknowledges this and...is quite fine with it There's nothing to see here. Edited January 2, 2021 by Atwood 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author QuietRiot Posted January 2, 2021 Author Share Posted January 2, 2021 7 hours ago, chillii said: lt certainly wouldn't do her any favors . Veganism is a very big thing if they're serious about it, it's on a whole nother plain of it's own . My ex was serious Vegan and it's certainly not a lifestyle that would suit too many guys l know , none in fact , me included, they might get through it for a yr or two butttt. Thing is too yeah there's male vegans around but what about the rest of the package , pretty hard boots to fill imo. She's been single for yrs, yet not only is she very special person she's gorgeous too. I didn't really know veganism was that serious, I thought it was more just a choice to just eat healthy, but apparently, veganism runs deeper? Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 She's living her values. Not sure how this is perceived as a negative. Would you be as surprised if she said she wouldn't date a racist or misogynist? 5 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 In the UK, veganism is growing fast and it is perfectly possible now to shop "vegan" in mainstream supermarkets. It is a growth industry. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 5 minutes ago, elaine567 said: In the UK, veganism is growing fast and it is perfectly possible now to shop "vegan" in mainstream supermarkets. It is a growth industry. Here (US), too. Nearly all fast food chains have vegan options now, as well. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 8 minutes ago, elaine567 said: In the UK, veganism is growing fast and it is perfectly possible now to shop "vegan" in mainstream supermarkets. It is a growth industry. here too in Texas- land of steak and barbecue! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 Lots of vegetarian options too. I think some more mainstream folks are getting a bit turned off by meat, as it comes from an animal and cannot be guaranteed to be "clean". Now we have experienced quite a few animal based viruses that are dangerous to humans, maybe some do not want to take the risk Also vegan/veggie products have improved markedly over the past few years. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 8 hours ago, QuietRiot said: I didn't really know veganism was that serious, I thought it was more just a choice to just eat healthy, but apparently, veganism runs deeper? lt depends , so many people are just in fads just like with everything else but wouldn't really know their arse from toes and in 2yrs they'll be out of it all and onto the next one anyway. if she's one of those nah it won't be serious . But if she's a true vegan it's a whole lifestyle and belief thing . Very very against using animals, all the crap they put into all kinds of foods, eggs , cheese and much much more , the whole lot . lf a non vegan thinks he's gonna just sale through that oh it's ok she's that and l'm this haaaaa, he'll be in for a nasty surprise later on .They can be fanatical, like serious sporty types say for example , worse. So it all depends. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 Would you give it a try Chillii? I quite enjoy it- as I say probably three days a week being honest, permanently not sure if Ill ever go that far. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 @Foxhall yes, I often feel fabulous after eating vegan the night before. My top choices for vegan are probably gado gado and stir fries. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 (edited) I'm a lifelong vegetarian and it hasn't limited me in dating at all. I've dated plenty of meat and potatoes type guys and I've never tried to convert any of them! They should eat how they want to eat, is my opinion! I was married to someone who wasn't vegetarian and my children aren't, though one has been going in that direction and may be by now, I don't care enough to even ask. It's a personal thing. I also was vegan for 18 months and same thing, didn't affect any relationships I have. It seem to me that wherever I might go to eat out with friends there are always offerings there I find interesting and delicious! Edited January 2, 2021 by LivingWaterPlease 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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