ycfan23 Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 (edited) My ex (F) broke up with roughly two weeks ago. It took me certainly by surprise. We had just talked on Monday and everything was fine. Yes, we also had agreed to see a couple therapist to resolve our differences. Wednesday came, she called me and broke the news to me that she was breaking up with me, and I had no say in the decision. She asked me to stay in touch but I told her that I couldn't do it. I told her I respected her decision and wished her nothing but the best and just hung up. A week later after NC on Christmas, she sent me the following text: "Merry Christmas, xxx. Hope you will enjoy this holiday with your family. I know 2021 is gonna be a great year for you. I'm gonna need to heal in the next few months. I hope we can catch up one day as friend and update on each other's lives. This is my last time reaching out to you bc you said no contact. But if you ever need to a friend to talk to, I'm here. I'm always here. I have so much love and respect for you." I'm still very confused about the message. I have not responded since I have no intention of being her friend. I feel pretty hurt to hear that she just wants to be friends. Edited January 1, 2021 by ycfan23 Missing text Link to post Share on other sites
Cersei Posted January 1, 2021 Share Posted January 1, 2021 She's likely feeling a bit of guilt and loneliness. Neither of which you need to worry about. I would not reply or give it any more thought. Have a great 2021! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 Being friends post break up is a white lie. She doesn't want to be your friend in the sense of spending time together. She simply wants there to be no drama if you see each other in person accidently. She used Christmas as an excuse to reach out because it's a season of peace. She gave you a closure message. It wasn't a bread crumb. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 (edited) 20 hours ago, ycfan23 said: I'm still very confused about the message. Whoever it was she threw you over for dumped her over christmas to go be with who he wanted to be with on NYE and now that she's by herself for NYE, she was trying to get you to be her NYE date. Quote I have not responded since I have no intention of being her friend. I feel pretty hurt to hear that she just wants to be friends. Why isn't she on block? You wouldn't be unnecessarily hurt right now if she was. If she wasn't on block before this text, she needs to be now. NC means in all forms of contact. Edited January 2, 2021 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
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