Findingfreedom Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 Back story... married 25 years have 3 kids... youngest still in high school. I have to stay in this town because I don’t want to rip my youngest out of all they know. Have to live in this town to stay in the high school. So my husband left for awhile ( separated) But I let him move back in for financial reasons and I felt my kids needed some guidance. He won’t let me stay in house w kids so we have to sell but I am forced to get a place here So my son can finish school. When he moved back in we set guidelines that he would help with cooking and cleaning and really help with my boys. we would stay until son graduates then sell. Well it’s not working out and we need to sell I need to get out of this toxic situation and I feel bad for my kids. Husband doesn’t leave his room does not cook or clean or help even a bit. It’s so awful I am at a loss and my boys are devastated by the way he treats us. Anyway my house is going up for sale this month and I’m filing for divorce same day. Ok here’s my question... aince he makes a lot more than me and he is going to go get a really nice condo somewhere but I am staying in this town and have to get a big enough place to fit us all... shouldn’t I get more from the sale of my house.? I’m a very fair person and I really only want to survive but it’s not fair he is gonna walk away and he will have no baggage and a new life? I hope I don’t sound selfish I’m just trying to do right by my boys. Any advice welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted January 2, 2021 Share Posted January 2, 2021 (edited) If you and your husband disagree on property settlement issues, it's very important that you get an experienced divorce attorney to help you. If the children are going to stay living with you, a divorce Judge will take that into consideration when approving or deciding child support and property/financial settlement. You won't necessarily get more from the sale of the house, but you may get an offset from something else. Go see an attorney first before thinking too much about what you think is fair or right, it's just wasted energy and emotion until you know what you can reasonably expect. Start from what is likely and realistic and go from there. How those things work can differ very widely from country to country, state to state, etc., so what you might get from opinions here might have nothing to do with what is realistic for your situation. Edited January 2, 2021 by FMW Link to post Share on other sites
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