should I be waiting for her

[once_a_runner]

I am in a LDR with my girlfriend, who is over seas for the next two years. We both love each other dearly are we are handling the long distance realtionship maturely and well as of now.

 

I'm just scared that when she finally returns she will decided to work or go back to school somewhere that keeps us in long distance relationship. We talked about this before she left and all she would say to me is that she can't know what she will want to do in two years. I'll (hopefully) be in grad school when she gets back so I'm basically asking her to move where I go to school. I plan on looking for a school with her i mind so we can find a place to be together. I want her to be a process of where I decided to go school. She has vaguely hinted at things that say she would want to live with me, but I don't know if she really meant them or was just saying them to try to make me feel happy. I want her to be able to say "in two years I'll come back and we can lively happily together", but I'm afraid she'll just say "I can't give you an answer." I guess I just want more committment from her than she has shown.

 

I want to talk to her about this again, but its really hard because we only get to talk on the phone 2 or 3 times a month and she doesn't have reliable internet access. We do write letters often. And I think it will be really hard if we get into a fight over this because we won't able to talk to the other person for a while. I'm afraid that asking for this committment could lead to us breaking up and that if I don't ask for it there is a good chance we will wined up happy and living together when she gets back anyway, but it makes it harder on me not knowing what she wants. I just want her to say it and mean it herself.

 

I can't stay in a LDR forever, if she is planning to leave again when she gets back, then why am I waiting for her?

 

Thanks for any adive you may have