how do you handle this situation?

[kuztombykechik1]

wondering how any of you wld handle this situation. :short brief of the subject: Met a guy (Rob) about 2 yrs ago @ my cousins wedding, My cousin is marrying Rob's wifes sister, I have a boyfriend of almost 9yrs, also To make matters worse, Rob is now my b/f boss......neways one day my b/f had to go to the store and left his cell phone @ the house, well it rang so i answered it, and it was Rob, he asked for my b/f, i said he's not here. He said well just tell him that i wont be in for a couple of days cause my wife is in labor right now, i said ok sure, then he kept me on the phone for about 15-20 mins just having a conversation, then i finally said ummm dont you need to go be with your wife, he said well i guess i probably should. After he hung up i thought well that was weird his choice of wording and tone of his voice seemed like hed rather be on the phone with me than be with his wife. Fastforward 1month later my b/f and i decided that since we dont have our daughter we should go out for drinks, we meet some friends and we all are having a good time well, Rob calls and wants us to go to my cousin's house to play poker. So we go out there and i bring my best friend with me cuz her and i aint gonna stay that long. Well we out there and by this time my b/f has an attitude which is the norm when he's been drinking, well my b/f leaves after about 20 mins and my best friend and i stay about an hour. We get back to the bar and my phone rings its my bro calling so i answer it and its rob, he asks me what im doing and what bar im @. So i tell him not really thinking anything of it, next thing i know my cousin and bro walk in and they sit @ the bar with my girl and i, then rob walks in and throws his arms round my girl and i and just stares right @ me with a very playful smile then practically pushes my girl off her barstool so he could sit right next to me. My girl and i looked @ each other with the WTF look cuz there are only 6 people in the whole bar and plenty of seats and spaces to sit @. He sat so close to me that we probably should have shared a chair. Then the flirting started, i didnt take any of it seriously cuz he had been drinking and hes married and b/f boss, we all end up leaving and he pulls up beside me @ the light and he asks me if i want to go hang out @ his job site with him right now. I told him no its 4 in the morning i going home and you shld be @ home with your wife. So now every time i see him, he seems very happy and has that i really would like to have you look. my gut feeling tells me that he really does have a thing for me and my best friend and i intuprt it as...1 he married young (20) and now he's 25...2 unhappy in his marriage...3 his wife is complete opposite of me ;ie if you dont fit in her clicke she will not give you the time of day...4 we like pretty much the same things...5 he wants something he cant have @ the moment..(Isay it that way because i cant predict whats gonna happen in the future) however nothing will happen as long as hes still married and i have a b/f. I guess i just wonder whether i shld ask him myself what he thinks of me, or just wait and see. Btw b/f is aware of the stuff thats been said and how he acts around me, and i know it does bother my b/f to an exstint but then again it doesnt..im just lost @ what to do

[Bryanp]

Maybe you should like at it this way:

 

This Rob clearly is a player and does not even care that his wife just gave birth to his baby.

This guy is your boyfriend's boss and he is trying to screw you. He asked you to go to his worksite with him at 4am. What do you think he wanted?

 

He does not care if he is married and has a new child. He must get off trying to screw his employee's girlfriend knowing that your boyfriend cannot say anything to him about it in order to keep his job.

 

The bottom line is that he is scumbag who is just trying to get into your pants and does not give a **** who he hurts in the process. He has no moral compass and a total lack of character. He is a player and is trying to play you. Don't be stupid. If he cheats on his pregnant wife he will cheat on you when he is done using you. The bottom line is that he is slime and he could care less whether or not he breaks up your relationship with your boyfriend.

[morrigan]

Even if you're not happy with your boyfriend, still clear of Rob like he has the plague. He'll be out trolling for other women, regardless of who he is currently dating or married to, or how many children he has at home. He'd get with you and do the same thing.

 

As Bryanp said, it's all about what he wants--he's not troubled by what his wife, his employee or his employee's girlfriend think about him.