smarie516 Posted January 7, 2021 Share Posted January 7, 2021 Need some stories of hope Anyone have any stories with awesome endings they could share after they felt like their life was over? I (32 F) was dumped last week by my fiance after 3 years and he is already with his coworker less than a week later. I went from planning my wedding to sitting at home lost in my thoughts each night, not knowing how to start over or pick up the pieces. I don't have a social life besides my family and my 14 year old daughter since we spent so much time together and all of my friends are busy married with families. He wants no contact which I respect. He said he just wasn't in love anymore and it won't work out. He wished me the best and said that I'm "awesome and wonderful and deserve better", which I believe was a cop out. I already had a gut feeling about this woman and asked him if he was going to run to her right away and he laughed it off and said no, even though I've proven to be right as I have seen them together twice this week. He lives right across the street from my parents and I can't even visit them without my heart dropping when I see he's not home. It eats me up he could move on so quickly like I never even existed. I am miserable and having a hard time coping and need some hope that I can get out of this and be happy again someday. If anyone has any similar stories and lived through it to see brighter, happier days I would love to hear them!! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2021 Share Posted January 8, 2021 It's OK to be miserable for a while. You aren't going to get over this in a few days. It was like having the rug pulled out from under you. You need to grieve but for your daughter's sake keep busy. You have some wedding stuff to undo which will take time. Get outside. Take some walks. You need movement & sun shine. Find a hobby you can do with your daughter. Do a puzzle; take an on line class. Self soothe. Take a nice bubble bath. Change your hair style. Rearrange the furniture. In time you will feel better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
maggiemtn Posted January 8, 2021 Share Posted January 8, 2021 I’m so sorry. It will get better. I remember being 27 years old and a crumpled in a heap on the floor because my 7-year relationship ended. I literally could not pick myself up off the floor. I thought I would never find anyone else. But I slowly got over it and I got back to normal. I’ve met people since then that I have loved just as much. You will move on and find someone else better for you, someone you love who makes you look back at the time with your ex and shrug. I was one of those people who thought I’d be the exception and no one else would ever come into my life I’d love so much again. I was wrong. I look back at the ex who I couldn’t pick myself up off the floor for...and I shrug. You will heal. Hugs to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2021 Share Posted January 8, 2021 My heart goes to you...big ((hug)). Feel as miserable as you need to for the first month, cry, stay in bed, cry again, then start picking up the pieces. Don't hold your pain inside or try to hide it, it will only delay your journey to recovery. I have several stories with good ending. One of my brothers (30 at the time) was cheated on and his wife left him for her lover. They had a son of 2 yo at the time, not only she left my brother but she abandoned their son as well and left my brother to raise a toddler on his own. He was destroyed. Fast forward a couple of years, he met an amazing woman who's been his wife for 15+ years now, they have a little boy of their own, he's still madly in love after 15 years. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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