Sam2020 Posted January 8, 2021 Share Posted January 8, 2021 I met the guy when he was here in Hawaii visiting his brother for the holidays. We hit it off and saw each other almost every day for almost three weeks. He invited me to visit him and I did so in February. It was a very good trip, so much so that he said I could leave my winter stuff at his place. So I left a jacket and a few pieces of winter wear. Well it all went down hill in the months to follow as we went into Covid lockdown and such. Long story short, I broke off with him at the end of September and asked him to send several pieces of my clothing (jacket, hoodie, sweat pants, gloves, hat and a neck warmer). He said "Okay, I'll send it really soon." So three weeks later, no box and I text him about it. He then tells me that he is in Mexico for a few months and it was "too rushed" so he never made it to the PO. I was totally annoyed and disappointed, plus some other people on a FB social group said that's odd since Mexico had a very high Covid count. So today I text him to ask when I can expect my things. He says he decided to stay till the end of January. At this point I wonder if he's full of it and is just putting off sending my things. While its true that I don't need winter clothing in Hawaii, I'm sick of having to think about my stuff at his place and just want to tie up loose ends. What a huge mistake with my judgement of his character. Never again with long distance! Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 9, 2021 Share Posted January 9, 2021 Unless you really need these items, I would write them off. Then you can mentally be done with him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 9, 2021 Share Posted January 9, 2021 I too would write them off and buy new items. It’s unfortunate that you left your personal items with this man, lesson learned. Link to post Share on other sites
Perdu Posted January 19, 2021 Share Posted January 19, 2021 He seems like a person that doesn't want to help or solve other people's problems, so you are better off. Or maybe he sees no point in why you'd care so much for your clothes (maybe he sees clothes like irrelevant, a lot of guys do). Either way, holding on to them will probably only cause you more anger, since the guy is not in a hurry to mail them. Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 Consider these donated items. Move on. Unless something is very expensive. Some people are terrible with details and following through and it's harder to do detailed work after a breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
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