Peter0520 Posted January 9, 2021 Share Posted January 9, 2021 (edited) She broke up with me 3 weeks ago. It wasnt a bad breakup, I would say it was quiet. Since then I only replied to one of her stories wishing happy new year. Then a week ago I decided it was best for me to block her because I still really love her and I felt I had to do it to move on. She called me and told me that it was childish and immature to block her and that I'm still friends on facebook with my other exes but I blocked her and stuff and she said if i ever unblock her she won't accept the friend request. Despite that we had a good 20 minute conversation. When we broke up I told her that she can reach me if she changes her mind but I don't want to be her friend. Edited January 9, 2021 by Peter0520 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted January 9, 2021 Share Posted January 9, 2021 It’s what you need. She dumped you. She did that for a reason. Let her go fully and move on. Anything else would be a waste of time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 9, 2021 Share Posted January 9, 2021 You handled it well. Even after a breakup people still have lingering feelings. That doesn't mean they want to reconcile, it just means breakups are more of a process rather and an abrupt discontinuation of any feeling. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted January 9, 2021 Share Posted January 9, 2021 After breaking up with you it's none of her business what you do. Given her critical comments, I think you were smart to block her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted January 9, 2021 Share Posted January 9, 2021 (edited) 3 hours ago, Peter0520 said: She called me and told me that it was childish and immature to block her and that I'm still friends on facebook with my other exes but I blocked her and stuff and she said if i ever unblock her she won't accept the friend request. 😆 My! What a tantrum! You definitely did the right thing! Edited to add: I don't think she cares about you. I think she likes the idea of being the center of your universe. So she gets to dump you and move on, but you're supposed to sit there moping, unable to let go. I'm curious as to what your relationship was like before the break-up (but you don't have to answer if you don't want to). Edited January 9, 2021 by Acacia98 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Peter0520 Posted January 9, 2021 Author Share Posted January 9, 2021 20 minutes ago, Acacia98 said: 😆 My! What a tantrum! You definitely did the right thing! Edited to add: I don't think she cares about you. I think she likes the idea of being the center of your universe. So she gets to dump you and move on, but you're supposed to sit there moping, unable to let go. I'm curious as to what your relationship was like before the break-up (but you don't have to answer if you don't want to). Umm she wanted to break up many times and we actually did break up but we always were back together by the end of the day basically. She is a very difficult person to understand. She easily got upset about anything and many times was rude to me. I always tried to be calm and wanted to talk about the problems but it never really worked. Her biggest problem was as she said we are not compatible.We were together for 10 months. Her feelings basically changed like every week. One day she said she loves me but the next week wants to break up so it was like that. I was always by her side anywhere anytime, probably was too available for her but was never pushy or clingy. I really really love her still but I feel like it's because I never got to her heart fully and that's how this works, you always want what you can't have. To be honest I would be open to the idea of getting back together but only if she would change and I can't ask that from anyone. It's hard because she would be willing to stay friends but I never stayed friends with any of my exes and that's how I feel the best even if it means I have to lose her forever. I always say to myself that if I truly love her then I have to let her go and I can still love her deep inside but can also move on cuz life doesn't stop here. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted January 9, 2021 Share Posted January 9, 2021 Why live in this type of drama? There is no one and only soulmate. Complete zero contact. Block everything. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2021 Share Posted January 10, 2021 It was not childish or immature to block her. Seeing her stuff upset you. You did the right thing for your own sanity & your own healing. She's your EX. She doesn't get a say in how you run your life. No, her tantrum was not an indication that she still cares. If she cared, you'd still be together. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Peter0520 Posted January 10, 2021 Author Share Posted January 10, 2021 Thanks all for the comments. :) 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hpchic Posted January 10, 2021 Share Posted January 10, 2021 Yes she probably still cares, not because she got annoyed that you blocked her, but because it’s only been 3 weeks and no matter who breaks up with whom typically both parties will still care about each other for a while (unless they’re sociopaths or narcissists), it’s only human. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted January 11, 2021 Share Posted January 11, 2021 On 1/10/2021 at 2:21 AM, Peter0520 said: Umm she wanted to break up many times and we actually did break up but we always were back together by the end of the day basically. She is a very difficult person to understand. She easily got upset about anything and many times was rude to me. I always tried to be calm and wanted to talk about the problems but it never really worked. Her biggest problem was as she said we are not compatible.We were together for 10 months. Her feelings basically changed like every week. One day she said she loves me but the next week wants to break up so it was like that. I was always by her side anywhere anytime, probably was too available for her but was never pushy or clingy. I really really love her still but I feel like it's because I never got to her heart fully and that's how this works, you always want what you can't have. To be honest I would be open to the idea of getting back together but only if she would change and I can't ask that from anyone. It's hard because she would be willing to stay friends but I never stayed friends with any of my exes and that's how I feel the best even if it means I have to lose her forever. I always say to myself that if I truly love her then I have to let her go and I can still love her deep inside but can also move on cuz life doesn't stop here. It sounds like your relationship was very hard work for you and you got little in return. I think you deserve better. If you're going to give so much, you should be with someone who can reciprocate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Unclerae Posted January 11, 2021 Share Posted January 11, 2021 She felt she was too good for hence those calls for breakup 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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