mimi123456 Posted October 14, 2005 Share Posted October 14, 2005 What is NC and how does it work and how can you be good at it? Link to post Share on other sites
grace2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Share Posted October 14, 2005 It is hard to give a definition of no contact. But no contact is the practice of not only not initiating contact with the ex gf/bf who dumped you but also eliminating as much contact with them as possible in order to allow time and fate to do the work in changing hearts. Practicing no contact will help you get over your ex if you stick to it. It will give you time to really think about whether or not you really want your ex to come back. No contact also gives your ex space to rethink the decision they made to break up with you. There is a link that can give you more info about the no contact practice: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t35003 I have gone 20 days without any contact whatsoever with my ex gf who broke up with me 7 weeks ago. If I had stayed in regular contact with her all this time then I would be in worse shape than I am now and prolonging the healing process. No contact period is also a time of introspection and working on bettering oneself so that he/she will not repeat the same mistakes that caused the break up. He will be better off for the next relationship or if the ex comes back. Either way if you stick to no contact you will come out as a winner. I am trying the best I know how to get over my ex and come to terms with the break up. I want to get to a point where it doesn't matter whether she comes back or not and if she does it will be an added benefit. It is important to keep busy during the no contact period. If you are tempted to contact your ex quickly try doing something else like reading a book or watching a movie or call a relative or friend or read these posts about other people's experiences with the no contact rule. Just do something that will get your ex off your mind even though you may not be able to get her off your heart. Time apart and fate will have to do the work on your heart. I won't go into detail about what to do if/when the ex calls you because the link I posted above talks a great deal about that. As for my current situation I have a better chance of salvaging the friendship aspect of the relationship between me and my ex than the romantic aspect. I would rather have her in my life as a friend than to not have her at all. That's just me. Other dumpees may have to decide for themselves whether or not it's a good idea to remain friends with the exs. I'm trying to make the best of whatever relationship she feels comfortable having with me. Link to post Share on other sites
grace2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Share Posted October 14, 2005 Here are some other threads that might be helpful to you. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=41536&page=3&pp=15 Also learn about the importance of sticking to the no contact rule and why it won't work if you go a couple days on and a couple days off. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=41536&page=5&pp=15 Link to post Share on other sites
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