primer Posted January 19, 2021 Share Posted January 19, 2021 What do you consider a long-term relationship? I was listening to a comedian that said she has been in a lot of long-term relationships; i.e. 2 years, 3 years, 1-1/2 years. It got me wondering if "long-term" means the same to everybody. My answer would be anything over one year exclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted January 19, 2021 Share Posted January 19, 2021 I think of long term as more than three years generally. But I can see the argument for just more than one year. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted January 19, 2021 Share Posted January 19, 2021 (edited) I don't think there's a strict definition - but I'd use the term to describe a relationship you've been in "for some time" so as to indicate a significant amount of each other's lives are shared, as opposed to a "new" relationship. I reckon around a year seems appropriate, as you say. But it could be sooner if you spend a lot of time together and already have shared goals of moving in together, etc, and later if it's a bit more casual or on/off. Edited January 19, 2021 by snowboy91 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 2 hours ago, primer said: My answer would be anything over one year exclusive. I agree with you Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 I would think of a 5 yr relationship as "medium" term, so I guess more than 5 - like 8? In casual speech, I would probably call the 5 year one LT though, to distinguish from ST, as MT relationships aren't really a think in common parlance. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 Long term to me is greater than 10 years. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 Seems to me that intensity of the R and involvement of friends/family in the R are also factors to consider along with time as to what's considered long term or not. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 15 minutes ago, basil67 said: Long term to me is greater than 10 years. Thinking further, to me, the age of the person making the assessment is relevant. When I was 20, 2 years was long term. But now that I'm in my 50's and have with my partner for nearly 30 years, 2 years is not much at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 Good point, @basil67. I was married for 23 years and with him a few years before that, I know I'll never have another relationship of that length (well, very unlikely at my age). 10 years probably does fit more in my view as to the minimum length to qualify as long term. I've been seeing the same guy for over a year, but other than not seeing us as "new" anymore, I don't put any kind of definition on it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 Personally... I think it depends on how old you are. When I was young (late teens) ... 6 months was a long time. After I was in my 20's... a year. I guess if I had to put a label on this... a year of only dating one person exclusively, would be a "Long Term" relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 (edited) 13 hours ago, primer said: What do you consider a long-term relationship? 24 hours with sex. 1 hour without. Edited January 20, 2021 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
Perdu Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 It varies with age, experience, expectations regarding length and how much involvement there is. I would see something as being long term only it's after it is more than 1-2 years old, if it involved regular dating/interaction. If not, maybe more. I know a guy that consider anything more than 6 months as long term. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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