Kwil Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 My wife has been escorting for a long time. Ive known, she says she stops then starts again. We are seperating now but recently bought a house together. I feel ive been stupid and used just to purchase the house. Now we have the house she wants divorce but only after 2 year seperation on grounds of dessertion, both parties agree that no one was to blame marriage just fell apart. She diesnt want any payments from me i just move out. She cant afford the house with her legal income. She will pay it off easy with her escort work. Ihave no savings because all my money goes into the house, any advice Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 The courts decide this depending on your jurisdiction and how good your attorney is and how promptly you contact one. Don't waste time deliberating with her about who has what type of income and who gets what You're wasting your time. Talk to a good lawyer asap. And file asap to freeze and sever all financial assets. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kwil Posted January 20, 2021 Author Share Posted January 20, 2021 I cant afford anything. She can afford to pay me off in cash right now. What do you think? and get a solicitor to draw up contract agreeing to 2 year seperation with no payments and no clauses later down tbe line? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 It's not about who wants what. It's about the law. Marriage is a legal and financial contract that you need a court to dissolve and an attorney to advise you. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kwil Posted January 20, 2021 Author Share Posted January 20, 2021 I could quite easily drag all secrets up and tax man for her but she has children(adult children) and it would be difficult for them Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 3 minutes ago, Kwil said: I could quite easily drag all secrets up and tax man for her but she has children(adult children) and it would be difficult for them What's your point? Revenge? You need a lawyer. Stop with the emotional hysteria and fantasies. This is going to blow up in your face because you are acting out of hysterics. Yeah, call the taxman, they'll haul you off to jail first since you filed together and knew all this. Stop fooling around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 14 minutes ago, Kwil said: I cant afford anything. She can afford to pay me off in cash right now. What do you think? and get a solicitor to draw up contract agreeing to 2 year seperation with no payments and no clauses later down tbe line? Take the cash out & move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kwil Posted January 20, 2021 Author Share Posted January 20, 2021 If it goes to court she will lose the house, she cant afford it legally. Weve only made 4 mortgage payments. If the house is sold we both end up with nothing because we still owe nearly all of the mortgage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kwil Posted January 20, 2021 Author Share Posted January 20, 2021 I dont want this because if it happens the bank will want to know all her finances on her own, her children, friends and family will surely be affected. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kwil Posted January 20, 2021 Author Share Posted January 20, 2021 30 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Take the cash out & move on. The cash is in the house, its dirty, undeclared Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 (edited) Who cares? You bought a house together. If she can buy you out, which you said she can, take your money & go. Spending money on lawyers, revealing all her dirty little secrets & getting the tax man involved probably means that all of her assets, including the house will be sold & you will get nothing. If that is what you want, fine, but you're cutting your own nose off to spite your face. The faster you two separate everything about your lives the better off you will be. If you have only made 4 mortgage payments & she can't afford the house on her legal income you won't be able to get off the mortgage anyway. Edited January 20, 2021 by d0nnivain Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Kwil said: If it goes to court she will lose the house, she cant afford it legally. Weve only made 4 mortgage payments. If the house is sold we both end up with nothing because we still owe nearly all of the mortgage. Hi @Kwil I'm sorry you're in this position. Separating 4 months after buying a house is a tough situation to find yourself in. I'd personally get the house valued and sell it. Clean slate. I wouldn't want her undeclared money (who would) and any more entanglement with the escorting thing. You could recoup the 4 months' mortgage repayment that you can use for a deposit on a rental until things settle, and she can live her life. Also: why is the ground for divorce 'desertion'? Who is deserting who? This seems an odd reason to choose. You need to take legal advice asap. Edited January 20, 2021 by littleblackheart Typo 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 Just go see an attorney, don't waste time trying to figure out a plan on your own - it will likely blow up in your face. Link to post Share on other sites
Harry Korsnes Posted January 20, 2021 Share Posted January 20, 2021 Why are you protecting her? She's the one with the illegal i come. Sounds to me as if she's been planing this for a while. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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