Cookiesandough Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 Oh OK. I stand corrected. I think many free sites have those(education, age, height etc ) screening tools, as well. It may be true that you may find more marriage -minded people on there quicker. But that kind of desperation never appealed to me. Not looking for someone that is looking for love. Looking for someone that is looking for a person that they might fall in love with. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 On 1/24/2021 at 6:25 AM, Fletch Lives said: It's a gimmick. The free sites work just as well Not in my experience. Perhaps it was me but got very few response, like 10%, from free sites but near 80% from pay sites. Also there were just more attractive women in my preferred age range on paid sites, (45-60). Also the profiles on free sites were laughable. Also the pop ups and adds on free sites, excessive. Add in I looked at a couple free sites at the same time and weirdly there was the same single pic of several women all with different locations and profiles, makes me think those profile on the frees sites were fake. Hope at least the model or photographer got their licensing fee. As they are free they likely can get away with it with few legal consequences, after all what is your measure of damages, your subscription fee? In my view the free sites are the gimmick, that make money form adds and various freemium features. Again I'm a man 50+ and depends on what you are looking for. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 2 hours ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: I think many free sites have those(education, age, height etc ) screening tools, as well. When I was on the site 15 years ago, eHarmony was the only one that had this. It was the questionnaire that drew me in; it offered to find people who shared your interests & values. Other sites now have those features so any seekers have more choices. Part of the reason so many sites exist, is that various features will appeal to different people. Christians aren't going to go to J-date. Atheist's won't look on Christian Mingle. Confirmed urban city dwellers aren't going to look on Farmers Only. Tinder, Hinge & adultfriendfinder all have a certain demographic. A former employee of Tinder created Bumble for a reason; she saw a need in the market & it worked to make her money. (I can't speak to the effectiveness of the site) If you are going on line, choose the platform that makes the most sense to you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 Some of the paid sites have scammers and fake profiles just like the free sites. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 7 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: Some of the paid sites have scammers and fake profiles just like the free sites. I can't speak to the veracity of that but as I said initially after my membership lapsed I realized eharmony was being disingenuous by sending my profile as a match to men when I was off the site & unable to respond. I'll give them a little leeway, like 30 days to take it down but this went on for far longer. Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 5 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: I can't speak to the veracity of that but as I said initially after my membership lapsed I realized eharmony was being disingenuous by sending my profile as a match to men when I was off the site & unable to respond. I'll give them a little leeway, like 30 days to take it down but this went on for far longer. - yup, the paid sites do that too! It's very scamy. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: If you are going on line, choose the platform that makes the most sense to you! Or better yet, get on multiple platforms. Although I met my wife on eHarmony, I was also on POF, OKCupid, Tinder and Bumble. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 9 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: Or better yet, get on multiple platforms. Although I met my wife on eHarmony, I was also on POF, OKCupid, Tinder and Bumble. That sounds exhausting. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 23 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: That sounds exhausting. Haha, I think it would be for an attractive woman. For me, not so bad! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 25, 2021 Share Posted January 25, 2021 @Weezy1973 Very funny . . . I wish the laughing emoji still existed. i would have been laughing with you, not at you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
QuietRiot Posted January 26, 2021 Share Posted January 26, 2021 I walked away from online dating and joined some local Facebook singles groups. Sometimes I'll even contact a lady that shows up in my "People you may know" list, typically its because we share some mutual friends and use that as an icebreaker. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 26, 2021 Share Posted January 26, 2021 On 1/25/2021 at 11:26 AM, Fletch Lives said: Some of the paid sites have scammers and fake profiles just like the free sites. Don't disagree, though never encountered them on the pay sites I used (Match and eHarmony). Which leads me to believe they exist at a much lower rate than on free sites. Again, just in my experience, and age group. Hands down paid sites were better where I live, major metropolitan area. If nothing else I vastly preferred the Match and eHarmony GUI. Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted January 28, 2021 Share Posted January 28, 2021 I was going to complain about eHarmony and thought "before I complain, maybe I should login and see if anything has changed." After looking around a bit, that is when I realized I had my profile visibility set to off. I guess online dating doesn't work very well if no one can see your profile. 😂 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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