sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 Hey guys! I know there are probably a lot of threads about this but I have been talking to this guy for a few weeks now, we've been texting back and forth for a good amount. On Wednesday, he suggested we do something this weekend and we agreed on today. He gave me options on what to do since it's been hard with the lockdown and everything. I chose one of the options he gave me on Thursday and haven't heard from him since? We were planning on doing something tonight... I already told myself I wasn't going to double text and ask him if we are still on for today because he would've texted if he wanted to still see me? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 (edited) sorry if I’m getting the details wrong, but if he gave you options and you chose and he never followed up, sounds like you guys really didn’t set a date at all. Like you were in the process to and he fell off. Setting a date is planning the day, time, venue, and then confirming it’s set... they don’t have to confirm the day of I guess, but at some point it needs to confirmed both people agree to the date for it to be on... Edited January 30, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 16 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: sorry if I’m getting the details wrong, but if he gave you options and you chose and he never followed up, sounds like you guys really didn’t set a date at all. Like you were in the process to and he fell off. Setting a date is planning the day, time, venue, and then confirming it’s set... they don’t have to confirm the day of I guess, but at some point it needs to confirmed both people agree to the date for it to be on... That's true but I guess I'm confused as to why even ask me to do something today if he isn't going to follow up... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 So he just texted now saying yeah hes not sure what else to do "lol", literally two days after I chose one of the options he gave me. Now I'm even more confused, it sounds like he doesn't want to do something now and giving a lame excuse. Link to post Share on other sites
peach302 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 19 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: So he just texted now saying yeah hes not sure what else to do "lol", literally two days after I chose one of the options he gave me. Now I'm even more confused, it sounds like he doesn't want to do something now and giving a lame excuse. He sounds less than enthusiastic. But at least he responded. Are you going to meet him Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 10 minutes ago, peach302 said: He sounds less than enthusiastic. But at least he responded. Are you going to meet him That's the thing I'm not sure, he didn't even bother asking me if I'm still interested in seeing him tonight or to confirm a time. His response made it seem like he doesn't want to go anymore and not sure if I want to see someone who's not excited to see me. I don't even know If i should reply to that or how to reply to that Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 Yeah, I don’t know why he did it.. people online seem to be that way sometimes. I think his response is really strange and he is a time waster . Just delete him and move to someone else is my advice . Sorry 5 Link to post Share on other sites
peach302 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 8 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: That's the thing I'm not sure, he didn't even bother asking me if I'm still interested in seeing him tonight or to confirm a time. His response made it seem like he doesn't want to go anymore and not sure if I want to see someone who's not excited to see me. I don't even know If i should reply to that or how to reply to that He's probably waiting on you to say lets do that then. Something along those lines. Some guys just really have no game 😂😂. You could give him the benefit of the doubt and meet regardless 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 12 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: That's the thing I'm not sure, he didn't even bother asking me if I'm still interested in seeing him tonight or to confirm a time. His response made it seem like he doesn't want to go anymore and not sure if I want to see someone who's not excited to see me. I don't even know If i should reply to that or how to reply to that If he's being flaky or vague, ask to reschedule. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 You deserve better than this....TBH he's put in next to no effort....lukewarm at best....fail. don't waste your time. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 9 minutes ago, peach302 said: He's probably waiting on you to say lets do that then. Something along those lines. Some guys just really have no game 😂😂. You could give him the benefit of the doubt and meet regardless Yeah I got the vibe that he's not an avid dater but it still would feel nice for someone to at least plan something lol. I seriously don't know if he's putting the ball in my court to say we should do something or he's giving an excuse Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 Yep. Don’t bother with him anymore and don’t let him bother you anymore. If he contacts you just reply with w buss it challenge. 3 minutes ago, smackie9 said: You deserve better than this....TBH he's put in next to no effort....lukewarm at best....fail. don't waste your time. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 3 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Yep. Don’t bother with him anymore and don’t let him bother you anymore. If he contacts you just reply with w buss it challenge. 😂😂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 (edited) Ugh. How old are you two, OP? He sounds like he's multidating and you're just another option to him and he got confused about who he's seeing on what day, which could be why he didn't text you to confirm your date after he put the onus on you (which is lame and immature on his part) to choose what to do on the date. There is nothing, and I mean nothing chivalrous, about telling the girl to chose what to do on the date. A guy who can't make plans is a guy who has no business dating. I say, don't waste your time with this dude, OP. By actions of not really committing to a date and time and place for your date, he's shown you that he is definitely not that invested in seeing you in person. Maybe he's the type of guy who just wants a pen pal he can text and create a fantasy with online. You need to avoid the serial texters. I know that's how the kids date these days. But geez, the only real date is face to face time. not Facetime on the cellphone. Edited January 30, 2021 by Watercolors 6 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 It reads to me like your text could have been lost in cyberspace. It happens.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
peach302 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 10 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Yep. Don’t bother with him anymore and don’t let him bother you anymore. If he contacts you just reply with w buss it challenge. LOL buss it challenge 😂😂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 1 minute ago, peach302 said: LOL buss it challenge 😂😂 Literally listening to the song right now to feel better 😂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
peach302 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 8 minutes ago, Watercolors said: Ugh. How old are you two, OP? He sounds like he's multidating and you're just another option to him and he got confused about who he's seeing on what day, which could be why he didn't text you to confirm your date after he put the onus on you (which is lame and immature on his part) to choose what to do on the date. There is nothing, and I mean nothing chivalrous, about telling the girl to chose what to do on the date. A guy who can't make plans is a guy who has no business dating. I say, don't waste your time with this dude, OP. By actions of not really committing to a date and time and place for your date, he's shown you that he is definitely not that invested in seeing you in person. Maybe he's the type of guy who just wants a pen pal he can text and create a fantasy with online. You need to avoid the serial texters. I know that's how the kids date these days. But geez, the only real date is face to face time. not Facetime on the cellphone. Welcome to OLD. This is seriously not uncommon Link to post Share on other sites
peach302 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 1 minute ago, sushiandtacos said: Literally listening to the song right now to feel better 😂 Is it off? The date? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 8 minutes ago, Watercolors said: Ugh. How old are you two, OP? He sounds like he's multidating and you're just another option to him and he got confused about who he's seeing on what day, which could be why he didn't text you to confirm your date after he put the onus on you (which is lame and immature on his part) to choose what to do on the date. There is nothing, and I mean nothing chivalrous, about telling the girl to chose what to do on the date. A guy who can't make plans is a guy who has no business dating. I say, don't waste your time with this dude, OP. By actions of not really committing to a date and time and place for your date, he's shown you that he is definitely not that invested in seeing you in person. Maybe he's the type of guy who just wants a pen pal he can text and create a fantasy with online. You need to avoid the serial texters. I know that's how the kids date these days. But geez, the only real date is face to face time. not Facetime on the cellphone. Yes I got a little off feeling as to why he kept texting for weeks but I guess I backed that up with covid and everything being closed. But if he really wanted to see me, he for sure would've put more effort in for sure. We are both in our early 20s. Idk tho he seems like he doesn't have a lot of experience with dating so now I'm debating whether I should text him back to see if he's still interested in meeting... idk lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 Just now, peach302 said: Is it off? The date? No I still haven't replied, still debating lol Link to post Share on other sites
peach302 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 Just now, sushiandtacos said: Yes I got a little off feeling as to why he kept texting for weeks but I guess I backed that up with covid and everything being closed. But if he really wanted to see me, he for sure would've put more effort in for sure. We are both in our early 20s. Idk tho he seems like he doesn't have a lot of experience with dating so now I'm debating whether I should text him back to see if he's still interested in meeting... idk lol Text him if you wish to. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 Eh, pass. He is lukewarm at best. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sushiandtacos Posted January 30, 2021 Author Share Posted January 30, 2021 22 minutes ago, peach302 said: Text him if you wish to. Help peach I'm still a little interested in meeting him but idk if his response means he's not excited to see me 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 30, 2021 Share Posted January 30, 2021 20 minutes ago, sushiandtacos said: Help peach I'm still a little interested in meeting him but idk if his response means he's not excited to see me Go. Only way to tell if you even want to continue. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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