He's getting ready to cheat

[Roundwego]

lots backround, just posting current for sound advice

bf on/off 6 yrs

back together 1 yr

gave me a laptop as a gift / was his 

boot up an email log in to his user name

here he an some lady been emailing about gettig together for sexual encounter, she knows he has GF an she dont care. 

very rouncy stuff she telling him how she goes to some kinda club for sex w diff men more than one at time or oral w many men

i didn't know stuff like this was real, sadly, but he was all excited in her stories an asking ?'s ext. 

we live apart,  an i noticed he been pushing me away an his txt mess were different in wording an well, i boot up my gift laptop that he didn't reset an i see why he's acting how he is,  I will never ever confront him ever!

 

i just need advice even though my hearts very heavy at the moment on how to  move away from him, he suppose to come to town house for the weekend an I think if i see him it will make this transiting harder for me!

We have not broke up yet but i feel he's been laying the ground work to get me to want to, he told me he's un happy w everythg in his life right now an hes not sure why, this is all via txt messing i have seen him in almost 2 weeks we live hr apart an both work sec shift, normaly together ever weekend. 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited February 4, 2021 by Roundwego

[josedelamuerte]

Cancel the weekend get-together, and tell him you're through.

I'm normally against it - but if you decided to ghost him, I honestly wouldn't fault you for it. He sounds nasty.

[trident_2020]

As stated above but I'd go completely ghost, he doesn't deserve the courtesy of an explanation and truth be told he might not even care.

 

[smackie9]

On and off for 6 years for a reason....it wasn't working out.....breaking up once again shouldn't be hard when you will be breaking up with a liar and a cheat.

[kendahke]

4 hours ago, Roundwego said:

we live apart,  an i noticed he been pushing me away an his txt mess were different in wording an well, i boot up my gift laptop that he didn't reset an i see why he's acting how he is,  I will never ever confront him ever!

So you're going to abandon standing sentry to your boundaries?  If you wont' do it, how do you expect him to do it? He's not that guy, clearly. I think he wanted to be caught because he'd have to be insanely stupid to hand over glaring evidence of his cheating behind your back. This was his easy way out of thing---and that doesn't deserve to be swept under the rug because you're afraid of him dumping you today rather than 2 months from now over the phone/by text.

If you don't confront him, then you're volunteering for whatever he brings you---from lying in your face to an STD.

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i just need advice even though my hearts very heavy at the moment on how to  move away from him, he suppose to come to town house for the weekend an I think if i see him it will make this transiting harder for me!

Until you get off this:

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I will never ever confront him ever!

You're going to have to figure out a way to stomach the insults to your intelligence and be quiet and content about it... and you'll also have to deal with every time you look in the mirror, if you like the person you have to become in order to keep this clown in your life. Make the cut. Make it clean and make it sooner than later while you still have your good health.

[Gaeta]

Drive to the nearest bridge and throw the laptop over board. Block him everywhere. Move on with your life, be kind to yourself, work on yourself to understand why you went on and off for 6 years to an unsatisfying relationship, you need to fix that.