Thinking of Cheating

[Stupidkupid]

9 hours ago, Indigo Night said:

From personal experience, talking to a husband who doesn't think he is doing anything wrong, or that there are any problems in the marriage, is almost impossible. They think you are being dramatic, or won't let things go, or worse. So, talking to the husband might not resolve any issues, and potentially cause more.

I hope the OP has found something that works for her in their marriage. 

Yes, i hope she has too. Or has decided to seperate.

I told.my xH for 2 years i was unhappy and what i needed. Asked what he needed.

Led to me engaging in an EA with a MM, then escalated to PA, filing for divorce, long A after my divorce, loads of pain, sleepless nights and innee turmoil, ending the A, years of therapy.

I could have told my xH I was miserable until I was blue in the face, made zero difference. What I should have done is left him sooner and 100% NOT leant on a friend, ultimately losing years of my life in a fog.

For some relationships, talking is pointless. But only the OP knows if thats the case for her

Edited April 12, 2021 by Stupidkupid

[merrmeade]

On 4/12/2021 at 6:27 AM, Indigo Night said:

From personal experience, talking to a husband who doesn't think he is doing anything wrong, or that there are any problems in the marriage, is almost impossible. They think you are being dramatic, or won't let things go, or worse. So, talking to the husband might not resolve any issues, and potentially cause more.

Most of us have to be taught how to talk. Saying the same thing 20 different ways, as I did above, is not helpful, and why you don't have such talks when you're tired . But suffering in silence is not helpful either.

[Indigo Night]

4 hours ago, merrmeade said:

Most of us have to be taught how to talk. Saying the same thing 20 different ways, as I did above, is not helpful, and why you don't have such talks when you're tired . But suffering in silence is not helpful either.

I agree.