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Recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who's friends with all her exes on social media (not that are that many). She was telling me how she had just found out that her most recent ex has been blocking his new posts from her for the past few months. This to me was odd for a few reasons: One, if you're going to do that then why not just unfriend the person on social media? Two, she really didn't interact with him on there (or anywhere) after the breakup (i.e. liking his posts or commenting) other than liking one post after which he started hiding his posts from her, yet he was liking all her posts and still does!

Clearly he doesn't want her to see what he's posting for whatever reason and I guess that's understandable since they're not together anymore but then why still remain friends on social media? She said they don't keep in touch and they have no interaction. Oh, I should add she has unfriended him since she found this out, but this story threw me a bit haha!

 

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People are odd multi-faceted creatures.  Some (foolish) people think it's odd, mean or insecure to block EXs on social media.  They think you have to stay connected forever which is just ridiculous.  If you are broken up, separate; there is no need to give an EX a window in your life & activities.  Why on earth would you want to see pictures of your happy EX with their new SO?  

I think in this instance the guy is trying to balance those two ideas.  He's been brainwashed to think he can't unfriend her but he knows it's painful to interact with her so he came up with this work around.  

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7 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

People are odd multi-faceted creatures.  Some (foolish) people think it's odd, mean or insecure to block EXs on social media.  They think you have to stay connected forever which is just ridiculous.  If you are broken up, separate; there is no need to give an EX a window in your life & activities.  Why on earth would you want to see pictures of your happy EX with their new SO?  

I think in this instance the guy is trying to balance those two ideas.  He's been brainwashed to think he can't unfriend her but he knows it's painful to interact with her so he came up with this work around.  

But he was still seeing what she was posting and liking it meanwhile he was blocking his posts from her, so if that was the case wouldn’t seeing her still be painful for him?

I think it’s more that he didn’t want her to see what he’s up to, but still wants to keep tabs on her for whatever reason.

 

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Lol. Sounds like some kind of power play. He gets access to everything she posts, while he denies her access to his posts.

Now he's probably angry she unfriended him. I won't be surprised if you post an update here tomorrow saying he confronted her about that.

People can be pretty strange about this kind of thing.

By the way, who ended the relationship? Her or him?

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40 minutes ago, Acacia98 said:

Lol. Sounds like some kind of power play. He gets access to everything she posts, while he denies her access to his posts.

Now he's probably angry she unfriended him. I won't be surprised if you post an update here tomorrow saying he confronted her about that.

People can be pretty strange about this kind of thing.

By the way, who ended the relationship? Her or him?

I believe it was him and not in the nicest of ways from what I heard.

ha! Funny I said the same thing, he’ll probably text her now that she unfriended him.  

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10 hours ago, Hpchic said:

I believe it was him and not in the nicest of ways from what I heard.

Funnily enough, that makes sense. Hopefully, she'll block him so that she doesn't have to deal with any confrontations.

10 hours ago, Hpchic said:

ha! Funny I said the same thing, he’ll probably text her now that she unfriended him.  

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