My ex contacted me briefly when he's in a serious relationship?

[cholee]

My boyfriend and I officially broke up 6 years ago we dated off and on for two years. We continued to hang out after we broke up for years.

Although this past 3 years I've seen him about 6 times. I kept in touch with his aunty and dad since we broke up as I got quite close with his family 

when we dated. His father had mentioned a couple of months ago that Ryan was in a serious relationship and they had moved in together,

he told me he likes her but not as much as he liked you. I saw Ryan last August before he made it official with his girlfriend I guess, we hadn't spoke since.

Someone added me to snap chat a week ago and I asked who it was he said guess and gave me hints and I eventually guessed right it was Ryan. I could tell he had

made a new snap chat account just to message me as it said he had only sent "2" snaps. We chatted and caught up he asked what I did for work, where I was living ( I moved recently 5 hours away

and wont be back till spring) etc. I told him how I was happy to hear from him because it had been awhile and he said it's good to catch up once in awhile. He asked for me to send a photo but I didn't

because I was in bed. Now all I can think about is him, hearing from him brought up all the memories and feelings that I thought I had gotten over and I'm kind of obsessing,  just confused as to why

he would message me out of the blue when he's in a serious relationship. If he messages me again should I ask if he has a girlfriend? he never actually told me I just heard it from his dad,

and I saw on his Facebook last year....should I just not respond to anymore of his messages?

 

 

 

[Gaeta]

So, If one of your girlfriend or your sister told you that their boyfriend, the one they love and moved in with, was caught texting an ex and he even asked his ex for pictures....what would you think of their boyfriend? and what would you advice your friend/sister?

You think a man that text their ex and ask for pictures while in relationship is a man with a good heart, honest, a man of integrity? If not why would you even be tempted to be with him. 

Edited February 6, 2021 by Gaeta

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, Gaeta said:

You think a man that text their ex and ask for pictures while in relationship is a man with a good heart, honest, a man of integrity?

This. 

He's shady, OP. Chances are that he's just looking for attention and is a little bored in his relationship. Good guys don't do things like this. It's time to cut ties, with him and his family. You'll never really move on if you don't. 

[Wiseman2]

6 hours ago, cholee said:

 ...should I just not respond to anymore of his messages?

Are you a friend of the family or friends? It would be best to delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps.

Do you have a BF at this time? Perhaps it's best to move forward rather than backward.

[d0nnivain]

I would not continue interacting with him.  

[GeorgiaPeach1]

On 2/5/2021 at 7:08 PM, cholee said:

Now all I can think about is him, hearing from him brought up all the memories and feelings that I thought I had gotten over and I'm kind of obsessing,  just confused as to why

For some reason, he's bored or having stress that may or may not be relationship related. He's in dire need of an ego boost or validation, so he scrolled through his old contacts list to see who might easily give him these things.

He probably also knows the nature of some women--to perk up when there's an opportunity to stick it to another woman by taking her man's attention away. NOT saying YOU are like this, but some are.

[SpecialJ]

I don't think it matters whether or not it means anything. What it does mean is he hasn't changed. You were on and off, which I imagine meant he runs hot and cold, come here go away. If he's reaching out in this way after moving in with someone else, he hasn't changed and you're on the receiving end of him feeling cold towards her. Plus, you're now at a geographic distance which makes you safe because you won't get "too close" when you can't see each other in person. If you were back together, it would just be a matter of time before he'd repeat it with you. This isn't your strong bond talking, it's his unaddressed commitment issues. Move on and find an emotionally stable man who wants to commit.