elpumba Posted February 11, 2021 Share Posted February 11, 2021 Hi, Just got on a break with my gf of almost two years which I love, she wanted to take a break because she still can't get over something that happened many months ago. It basically resulted in her loosing her bestfriend who tried to interfere in our relationship which he knew nothing about at the time. She has always seen him as the most important person to her and thought that he'd be stick around forever. Anyways, this break feels like the end but I just can't wrap my head around her being one day with a guy other than me. I was her first and a part of her feels like it is mine. Can any of you who went through a tough breakup and who still fancied their ex a lot even after the breakup tell me whether you got through this feeling or not. Is it this hard to stop loving someone ? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2021 Share Posted February 11, 2021 You probably will never forget her but in time you will be able to remember her fondly without all the acute pain you have now. Do not focus on her. You need to attend to your own healing. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 11, 2021 Share Posted February 11, 2021 (edited) I am sorry but a 'break' is a breakup. People use the wording 'break' because they want to let you down easy and at the same time it's them lacking courage to face you with the truth. Of course we don't forget someone we shared our life with for 2 years but we get over it, of course. I am 2,5 months out of a 5 years relationship, I was crazy about him. At first it feels like you can't breath, you won't love again, you won't find someone as amazing again....and it passes with time. Couples divorce and split after 2-5-20 years and they get over it, so will you. You need to cut ALL contact with her. Don't look her up on social media, give yourself time to be sad, a month, then pick yourself up and go on with your life. Spend time with your friends and family, get back into your favorite hobbies, it will pass. Edited February 11, 2021 by Gaeta 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author elpumba Posted February 12, 2021 Author Share Posted February 12, 2021 Thank you both for your help, just knowing that one day this feeling will be less painful made me feek better already. Cheers guys ! Link to post Share on other sites
Calendula Posted February 17, 2021 Share Posted February 17, 2021 Give yourself time to grieve for the loss of what was and what will now never be. You'll get past it. Keep working on growing and changing and take what positive lessons you can from the good times you had in your two years together. Take the time to heal and figure out what you want next. It might be hard right now, but remind yourself that you also have an opportunity to reinvent yourself and eventually, with time, can start again with someone new and exciting. Link to post Share on other sites
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